The way of thinking is not good?

A person's thinking will form a set, which is also a manifestation of habit. It is impossible to change the way of thinking overnight, only step by step. Remind yourself at all times in your life, carefully observe other people's ideas in your interactions, and write down what is good. Only when new habits are gradually formed can the way of thinking be gradually formed. Thinking+Practice+Reflection I often hear netizens ask me, "How can I change my introverted personality?" Or ask, "Why do I really want to change myself but I can't?"

I understand you very well, so why do many people find it more difficult to change themselves effectively? That's what we're going to tell you today. Change your way of thinking.

Before solving your problems, I want to ask you, in your opinion, does a person become rich after hard work or after hard work? I believe many people will say, "Only by working hard first will you become rich!" In fact, the order of this question is a person's way of thinking, think about what kind of life results will be. If you think that a person will work harder only if he has money, then you will always dream that you can buy lottery tickets and wait until you have money to develop your own career; People who think that only hard work can make them rich will start from this moment, define their life goals, find the direction of life, and work hard until they achieve their life goals.

By the same token, each of us who wants to change ourselves, do you think we should act to change ourselves first or act to change ourselves first? If you can't understand this problem, I think it's hard for you to change yourself.

I told you about the "comfort zone" before. People who want to change themselves are actually very contradictory, because changing themselves means going out of their comfort zone, and everyone wants to stay in their comfort zone. The reason why you seem to want to change yourself, but you can't stick to your actions, in fact, you have always been in a state of contradiction. I often talk about the "comfort zone" in the course "Change yourself" on 2 1. If you want to change yourself, you must get out of your comfort zone!

Share a short story with you:

There is a world-famous hotel recruitment manager. After the recruitment information was released, many people came to apply.

The boss wanted to test the resourcefulness of these candidates, so he came up with a question, through which we can see what kind of thinking these candidates have. The question is: "One day you walk into a guest's room and find a female guest in a nude bath. What should you do? "

All the applicants raised their hands to answer, and some said, "I'm sorry, miss, I didn't mean to." Some said, "Miss, I don't see anything." The boss kept shaking his head after listening. At this time, a handsome young man said a word and was hired on the spot. If you are a candidate, how should you answer? Please think it over before you look at the answers at the back.

The handsome young man's answer is very simple. He said to such a female guest, I'm sorry, sir

Answer analysis: This answer completely captures the psychology of the guests. According to the normal way of thinking, the guest is obviously a woman and you are a man. No matter how you answer, it will make the guests feel uncomfortable. But the young man looked at the problem from another angle in a different way of thinking.