Most other people’s opinions of you are not that important. What do you think?

Everything in the world comes in various shapes and forms, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. From a philosophical perspective, the world is full of contradictions, and unity is achieved through contradictions. Each of us has lived in this world full of contradictions since birth. In this contradictory world, we have learned to walk, learn to read, learned the skills of life, and learned the principles of being a human being... Joy and sorrow, singing and crying, praise and disparagement accompany us throughout our lives. However, these contradictions are unified in each of us and in each group.

We breathe the same fresh air and bathe in the brilliance of the same sun every day. Each of us is different, and we always have our own strengths and weaknesses. If you have too many shortcomings, people will doubt your character and will naturally have a lot of opinions about you; if you have too many advantages, there will be people who praise you and people who are jealous of you and will gossip about you a lot.

Life is like this, flowers and applause will be mixed with gossip, it depends on your art of doing things.

The benevolent sees benevolence and the wise see wisdom. Although I am not a benevolent or wise person, I do have some humble opinions.

First of all, we must have an open mind. Be broad-minded and kind to others. It has been recognized as a virtue in life since ancient times. Doesn’t the story of Lian Po and Lin Xiangru explain this very well? Being open to all rivers is the ultimate treasure for resolving conflicts. We cannot compare with great people, we can only learn from them. We are a stream, although not deep, but crystal clear; we are a hut, although not big, but the windows are bright and clean. We should try to be open-minded and friendly with others. Being open-minded and open-minded does not mean that you don't care when others point out your faults, pretend not to hear them, and don't correct them. You will do whatever you want to do next time. If this happens, it will become shameless, and it will definitely not be open to all rivers. We must be good at accepting other people's suggestions and correct our mistakes when we know they are wrong, and we will have many advantages. If you walk the right path, behave responsibly, and behave with integrity, are you still afraid of what others will say? We don't care about people who are jealous of your advantages. We don't need to deliberately change others. Besides, we can't do it. The advantages are there, but jealousy will be eclipsed in front of you. As long as we are not proud or domineering, it will be fine.

Secondly, we have to work hard. Su Zi said, "Those who established great things in ancient times not only had extraordinary talents, but also had perseverance." Most of us are not those who set up great things. Even if we are to support our families, we must have perseverance. Be willing to work hard, otherwise your family will be in a mess. Teachers should work hard to teach students well, farmers should work hard to cultivate good land, and workers should work hard to produce good products. People who work hard are respected by everyone. People who work hard have no time and disdain to care about other people's gossip.

Finally, treat others with integrity and be willing to help. Cheng Yi said, "If you don't have loyalty, you can't stand in the world." You need to be honest in everything. Without integrity, people will stay away, and what you will get is verbal criticism. If you sell goods to deceive customers, they will not buy your goods next time, and over time, the business will go bankrupt; if you are a teacher, you will fool students and parents, and no one will buy your account, and the teacher will no longer be able to be a teacher. Treat people with integrity and never break their promises. Everyone will be willing to make friends with you, and you will gain people's respect and praise. "Book of Rites·Interview" says, "A gentleman values ??others but despises himself. He puts others before himself." Helping others is the foundation of happiness and a virtue. By being willing to help others, you gain not only the gratitude of others, but also friends, praise, and a good mood. Give someone a rose, and the fragrance will linger in your hands.

In short, we will resolve conflicts and melt the ice in people’s hearts with an open mind, a spirit of hard work and virtues of honesty, trustworthiness and helpfulness.

This issue must be viewed dialectically and cannot be made absolute. If you are in an organization, you should pay attention to the opinions of most of your colleagues.

No matter what unit you are in, especially in government agencies or public institutions, if most people have opinions about you and are talking about you, then you need to analyze it.

See if your professionalism is not enough. You always arrive late and leave early at work. You never do the office work and always push it to your colleagues. If you are not capable enough and you are not qualified for many jobs, you always ask others to do it. It’s not that you don’t have enough emotional intelligence, you don’t consider human relationships, you are always selfish...

If you really have the above problems, then you need to do more self-reflection and act immediately to change yourself shortcomings. If most of your relatives, neighbors, and friends have opinions about you, you should also take them seriously.

In life, the only people you really interact with may be dozens or hundreds of people. In addition to relatives, they are friends. If most of these relatives and people who care about you have opinions about you, then you should be alert. Are you unfilial to your elders? Are you eating, drinking, whoring, gambling, smoking, and not doing your job? Are you only caring about yourself and not caring for your relatives and friends? Find the source of the problem and correct it. Depending on your identity, most people may view you differently.

If you are a leader, and you are arrogant and high-profile, then many people will definitely have opinions about you; if you are a poor person, living in poverty and hunger all day long, then that is not the case. There will be many people who look down on you; if you are an ordinary person who does not have both political integrity and talent, and you are trying to climb up the ladder with a sharp head, then you are like a small horse pulling a big cart, then many people will have opinions about you. Identity is actually also a symbol of strength. People in the world are all real. If you are a real business person, you often have to fight against the opinions of others.

The truth is sometimes in the hands of a few people. Many explorers and pioneers were not understood at the time, and some were only understood by the world after hundreds of years. If you are a reformer, if you are an entrepreneur, if you are a person who truly pursues a career, then you must defy all opinions, bravely forge ahead, move forward resolutely, and don’t listen to the cries of those crickets. The premise is that the business you do is legal and moral and truly serves the country and the people.

However, I think even if this is the case, sometimes there is nothing wrong with listening to different voices. You can seek more help from others. If you always hold the belief that "the people can If you do things with the attitude of "success cannot be achieved without worrying about the beginning", it will be difficult to get support.

In summary, no matter what, you must listen to the voices of the majority of people, and then dialectically analyze your own shortcomings and correct them in time. If what you are doing is a real career, don't have too many worries and move forward resolutely.

You ask that most other people’s opinions of you are not that important. What do you think? My answer is that this sentence is correct. Because: First, most of the information obtained by others is incomplete and fragmented. Coupled with personal subjective assumptions, the opinions formed are often one-sided. There are too many of these opinions and they have no important reference value;

Secondly, people outside the body are in a relatively objective position after all, the so-called "bystanders know better". In this huge crowd, it is inevitable that there will be experts. Their ability to collect, filter and interpret information is stronger, and their judgments may be more accurate, which has important reference value. This insight must be heard with all ears.

In short, based on the above analysis, my answer to you is basically correct.

Just like the mangosteen in the picture, the real flavor can only be tasted when it is opened.

Most other people’s opinions of you are not that important. I think no matter what others think of my opinions, my opinions are my true inner thoughts. Regardless of whether others praise or criticize, these are mine. Personal imagination, in my world, other people's opinions are not that important to me. I know my own position best, so I don't deliberately show off in front of others. 1: What is your unique insight?

Often everyone has a different opinion on one thing, especially on a contradictory event, whether it is right or wrong, whose responsibility it is, whose obligation it is, these are all arguments. When I, an outsider, talk about a matter, I cannot give a general view of the matter because I do not understand the true internal contradiction of the matter.

My views only represent my personal views and do not represent everyone else’s thoughts. Most people’s views on me are just the result of hearing them and leaving them alone. True opinions and thoughts, and even the appropriateness of words. 2: How to get rid of other people’s opinions and build your own self-confidence?

Some people seem to live in this world just to show others. Their thoughts, actions, appearance, and even their language are all very concerned about what others think. Gradually, The land loses its own ideology.

And our purpose of living in this world is not only for others, but also for ourselves. To a certain extent, no matter what happens, only you can help yourself. It is impossible for others to consider the problem from their own perspective. Only you can understand the root cause of the problem. Three: The root of self-confidence is self-esteem, self-love, and self-improvement

The main reason why we care too much about other people’s opinions is that we lack self-confidence. So how to enhance our self-confidence, we need to read more and learn more , only in the ocean of knowledge, when we enrich ourselves, we will no longer feel inferior. While respecting ourselves, we must take good care of our dignity. Only with strong self-awareness can we not be kidnapped by other people's consciousness.

Self-esteem, self-love, and self-improvement are the most basic elements for a person to become confident. We need to make ourselves stronger, and our words must be relatively fair and equitable, full of positive energy, in order to Express our correct thoughts. Conclusion:

What others think of me is their opinion. Their opinions cannot influence my thoughts. Everyone has free thoughts as a basis, but don’t deviate from the direction. If The major premise is wrong. We need to accept criticism from others, because mistakes require others to correct them. For some wrong thoughts and behaviors, if we are not able to get back from the lost way, we will be led astray and lead to bad things. If someone can stand up and correct the consequences, then this person is a real warrior.

Some of other people’s opinions are important, and some are unimportant. While we are making choices, we must distinguish the truth of things and cannot reject them in general. Such an approach is unethical and unfair. appropriate. We don’t need to worry about other people’s opinions, but we need to control our own words and deeds well, and don’t let others have too much control and let others make fun of us. If it leads to such a result, it will be a very tragic end. In order to avoid such a result , we need to keep ourselves clean, and try to say as few silly words and nonsense as possible in public.

Only by controlling your mouth can you gain recognition from more people. If it is true knowledge and insight, then others will naturally appreciate it. Xiao Ding said: If you care too much about other people's opinions, your life will become a piece of bad pants!

If you care too much about other people’s opinions, then your life will become a pair of bad pants - you will have to follow whatever other people fart!

Life satisfaction comes from clear self-awareness. In fact, many of us are the kind of people who care too much about other people's opinions, and end up living very tiredly. The most uncontrollable thing in this world is others, catch yourself, only you are controllable. Your life belongs only to you and no one can replace it. Don't listen to comments that have no bearing on your life - they mean nothing!

In the opinion of Professor Chen Guo of Fudan University, maintaining one’s naivety means not paying too much attention to other people’s comments. There are always some people in this world who look down on others for no reason. This is an instinct, so don’t pay too much attention or take it too seriously. You have no money and no future. Even if others look down on you for various reasons, you can still maintain your innocence and straightforwardness, which is also precious. Just live your true self with no regrets in your heart.

Many of us always tell ourselves that we cannot be affected by outside opinions, but at the same time we live by the opinions of others, which is extremely tangled. In the face of social interaction, money is not everything, but it is the foundation of everything. Money is not happiness, but it is the foundation of happiness. Money is not dignity, but it is the foundation of dignity! Rich people and poor people face the same dilemma and lose. The former will often get much better results than the latter. This is also the meaning of self-effort.

It is important to maintain confidence. Even if you think I am not good or not good, I know myself and I know how much I weigh! You have put me down so low, but I know that my weight has not changed, and I still have something very shining! It can be seen that the source of true confidence is yourself!

People have to keep breaking through and become stronger from collapse after collapse. Indeed, Deng Ziqi was under the pressure of public opinion in the past few years. Various scandals and speculations have been circulating for a period of time. The darkness of the topic of body shape caused her to devalue her self-worth. During the troubled days, she chose bungee jumping to relieve stress, not to be afraid of other people's opinions, and tried to challenge what she was most afraid of so as not to care about other people's comments. Fear freed her from the fear of "other people's opinions" and made her more brave and fearless!

One of the biggest breakthroughs in my life is that I no longer worry about what other people think of me. After that, I was really free to do what I thought was best for myself. Only we don’t need external influences. You become free when you approve.

Growing up, what we heard the most is that you must be sensible and promising. But I rarely hear people say, you have to be happy. Others will only care about whether you fly high or far, but they never care whether you are tired or suffering from flying. Life is like the shoes you wear on your feet. Only you know whether it is comfortable or not. It has nothing to do with others, and others cannot feel the same way. So don't live in other people's opinions. Only you have the right to decide who you are. Living happily is your lifelong priority.

I have to say that a cup of hot water is a good thing, but the world and family members are always like this. They forgive themselves and forgive themselves for not making progress, but they will not forgive others for not trying their best.

I believe that many parents are like this. They always only look at the results. If the final results are not good, they will negate all their efforts. The same is true for leaders at work. Just like when our parents educated us, they only look at our lack of progress and our results, and it is difficult to see our tiredness and suffering.

A moment of happiness in childhood may be a big stumbling block in your later life. The reason your parents never ask you if you are happy is because they know that everything they do is to give you the opportunity to choose a happy life in the future. How do you know how difficult it is for your parents! You have to know that it is not easy to be a parent. Their life was different back then and now! Only those who have experienced it will understand!

So if others don’t care about you, be a little selfish and treat yourself better. It’s actually normal for your parents to blame you. After all, they want you to be well and avoid detours unconditionally. But you always feel that your parents are selfish and unreasonable. Having such thoughts shows that you are still young. When you reach a certain age and have accomplished nothing, and you see something you like on the street but are short on money, you will know that it doesn’t matter whether you are happy or not. Your parents want you to be successful, not to make them look good, but so that you can have a high-quality life and a brighter future.

When you feel tired, you want to seek comfort, but everyone will say that there is nothing that you can't get through, everything will pass, be strong and brave. In fact, we really only want comfort when we can no longer hold on. We want to say, "Come back if you are too tired. Your home will always be here."

But when you find that only when you live at that height can you be worthy of the person you like and be happy, you no longer care whether you are tired or not. I would rather be the flying one in the eyes of others. Very tall me. Others don't need to be responsible for your life, but you do!

In fact, in reality you can only work hard and take back some of your little tempers. No matter how you feel wronged, it is useless, because if you don’t work hard to be happy every day now, how will you be happy in the future? Get up.

No one has ever cared about whether you are tired or happy. They only look at the results, but they cannot see your hard work and hard work in the process of achieving such beautiful results. Only you know whether you are happy or not, take care of yourself, the stranger in front of the screen. Only when you live for yourself can you smile brightest! May you be noisy and let it be noisy, and let me be free to do it by myself, and have my own style and style without competing with the world!

Sometimes the truth will be in the hands of a few people. It doesn’t matter what others think. Gold will always shine one day.

Do what you want to do and let others say it!

Let me tell you a story first. Maybe you have heard this story before.

The story of an old man, his grandson and a donkey. The old man and his grandson led a donkey and carried a bag of grain to the market. Four situations occurred on the way, as follows:

At this time, the old man stood there helplessly, confused and confused. He was at a loss what to do. .

From this story, we can see that the old man is a person with no independent opinions. What others say will affect his decision. In the end, he completely loses himself. This should be a made-up story. But there are many people in real life who have no opinions at all and follow what others say. Such people lack independence and are at a loss and passive in real life. The grass on the wall will fall with the wind, and the grass on the wall will always be grass. It cannot become a big tree. We cannot be such a person, so what kind of person should we be?

Since you are an independent person, you should have independent thoughts and independent judgment.

An independent person should have correct self-judgment, self-awareness, and should understand himself better than anyone else. This is the minimum ability and requirement.

A person should always know his own direction in life, know what he wants, where his goals are, how to achieve his goals, he must walk his own path, and cannot blindly follow other people's guidance. , others have other people's opinions and perspectives, other people's opinions may not suit your needs. If you follow other people's opinions, you will be like the old man in the story. Either way, others will point fingers and make irresponsible remarks. You have to walk your own path, it has nothing to do with others.

Of course, being your own master does not mean rejecting everyone’s suggestions and acting arbitrarily, which will lead to things going in the other direction.

Most people’s opinions are useless to you, but if you have some good teachers and friends, some constructive opinions are very important to you. Their guidance will help you gain success. It is of great benefit. You need to open your eyes wide and recognize the meaningful people and suggestions that are truly good to you. You must be able to distinguish between good people and good words.

What is good and what is bad?

Life is full of twists and turns, and you will encounter many people and things throughout your life. What is truly good? What is truly bad?

There are no absolutes in life. Right or wrong, as long as it does not hurt others, does not harm others, can improve one's self-cultivation, increase one's experience, and improve one's abilities, it is good. However, some setbacks and injuries become the low point of life. Look at the problem correctly. , handling problems correctly will also allow you to change from passive to active, and turn negative factors into positive energy.

Every step in life must be taken well, like buttons on clothes. You must first tie the first button. Once the direction of life is determined, move forward according to your own plan and learn from the experiences and lessons of your predecessors. , walk out of your own royal road.

Everyone has talked about others, and everyone is talked about by others at any time. This is the normal state of human beings, as the saying goes: no one talks behind anyone's back, and no one talks about anyone in front of them! For a person who has faith and self-awareness, other people's words are not that important, and face is even less important.

Everyone is part of a social group and has his own circle and people with whom he has more contact. These people come into contact with each other due to various reasons (such as relatives, family, neighbors, work, study, entertainment or making friends, etc.) ) have contact or contact with each other, they will naturally have an impression in the minds of others. This impression is actually an opinion.

Everyone has different or even opposing views on the same person or thing due to differences in origin, education, cognition, interests, hobbies, personality, ways of thinking, etc. Just like the trend of house prices and stocks, there are also so-called experts who are awesome, some are bullish and some are bearish.

There are 100 people around you who have 100 opinions about you, but you are still you!

Whether a person's opinion of you is important or not depends on his importance to you and his understanding of himself.

For example, the opinions of your relatives, parents, lovers, teachers, leaders, good friends, partners, etc. may be very important and will directly affect your family, friendship, and Love, promotion, financial interests, etc., so they must be analyzed carefully, treated rationally, and handled well.

You have to carefully and rationally analyze their opinions, which ones are right, which ones are biased, and which ones are worth discussing! Because you already have a clear understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, and personality, you will not be swayed by other people's prejudices and emotions.

On the contrary, people with low self-esteem and face-saving pay special attention to what others think of themselves. Such people are more sensitive and easily emotional, which affects their analysis of other people's opinions and their own evaluation of themselves.

In short, when a person has self-confidence and a correct understanding and judgment of himself, he can rationally analyze other people's words and correctly analyze the pros and cons!

Although this is the case, people often still care about other people’s opinions, but you cannot satisfy everyone. He has his life, and you have your life. You may change yourself or change your life because of other people’s opinions. I'm forcing myself, but I don't care at all

Hello, I'm Ahong, I'm very happy to answer your question!

Every one of us has gone through a period of confusion. I remember that from when I was a child to when I graduated from school and then started working, I was always very concerned about what others thought of me. What should I do sometimes? I think a lot about it, for fear that doing this will cause others to not understand me, and I feel that my life is really tiring. Later, after slowly experiencing a lot of things, I discovered that other people’s opinions of you are actually from their own perspective, weighing the interests with them, and most of the time they don’t have an objective evaluation. I figured this out. I slowly relaxed my mentality and found that I now live a more optimistic and open-minded life.

I think most things still depend on your own attitude. You have to weigh whether it is worth it or not. Okay, I will share the video here today. Goodbye