Can colleagues of the opposite sex work together after having sex?

My colleague Xiaojie and I first met at Xia Shuo nightclub. At that time, everyone was noisy, drinking and singing, and I was attracted by her beautiful appearance and charming singing.

Someone was drunk that day and made trouble in the room. I bravely rushed up and quickly solved the conflict. Jacko's eyes were watering when he looked at me. She whispered in my ear and said, "You are so brave and manly. You must protect me in the future! " I patted my chest and said, "Don't worry, I'm here!" "

We had sex that night. Since then, such things have often happened between us. However, we still work well in one unit and cooperate well in business.

As a famous princess in Xia Shuo nightclub, every time she entertains guests, I will try my best to do a good job of guarding the door outside. Who let me be a well-known security guard at Xia Shuo nightclub? Who dares to make trouble on my site? Sister Xiao is certainly willing to cooperate with me!

Whether you can work together depends entirely on your environment and current situation. You must not rely on our blind preaching, you can only analyze and solve it yourself.

This question can be written into a novel, which is sure to look good.

Anyway, it is taboo for colleagues to have sex. As the saying goes, "rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests."

There are two explanations,

If both parties are not married, it is no problem to become partners. There are several couples in our company who have children and are doing well.

You are not a foreign company or a top 500 company, so you don't have to have an office romance.

If one or both of you are married, don't work together. Unless you have deep feelings, it's best not to be together.

But to convince me that I can still love life with my family, I don't believe it. Maybe I'm too rational.

I'll tell you a true story that happened in my previous unit:

I work in the engineering industry. In the past, there was a construction site in my company, and two people fell in love. As a result, a woman had sex with another man.

Finally, both the woman and the third party left their jobs, and later they had children, but they divorced.

Of course, this story is different from your situation, but if one of you has a family, it makes no difference.

Play with fire and set yourself on fire Do less.

If you are looking for someone who has nothing to do with you, at least your colleagues don't know.

When you look for this unit, you can see that you two are having an affair without looking up.

Is it really comfortable for people to point at their backs?

Generally speaking, men are separated in work and feelings.

But once a woman has a relationship with a man, it will be very messy, work and feelings are inseparable, and the eyes that look at you will be different.

In short, be careful! No matter for whom.

Since you don't eat grass beside your nest, you should keep a proper distance from the opposite sex.

Women, in particular, are very weak.

For example, the article and Yao Di can't say who is wrong. But Ma Yili said, "Do it and cherish it", and the article would be fine.

Yao Di has been unable to return to China.

1, reduce solitude

Minimize the time for men and women to be alone, such as taking a ride after work. If it's a man and a woman, no one dares to say that it's not an accident after a long time.

Step 2 learn to refuse

Men are all lower-body animals, and sperm can't think after reaching the brain.

It will only tempt you in all aspects. At this time, you must flatly refuse, and don't leave the impression that you still have ideas.

3. Not so ambiguous

In the workplace, try to keep a simple working relationship, and don't tell some dirty jokes or flirt with each other. After a long time, it will inevitably be uncontrollable and cross the line.

Of course you can work together, but only if you are satisfied with each other.

Our company has such a case. Men often travel, women are designers and often work overtime. Once on a business trip alone, the client asked to bring a designer. So, he naturally took this female designer over. The two of them usually get along well in the company and often go out to eat together or something. It looks ambiguous, but it is not out of line.

They went on a business trip together, and after work, the customer invited them to dinner. During the dinner, everyone drank more wine. So the two borrowed wine to open a house. I know this man very well. His capacity for drinking is usually described as magnanimous. And women don't drink much at ordinary times, and they probably didn't drink much that day. In fact, the two are nothing more than alcohol as an excuse.

Before I came back, my client had called me and mentioned it a little. So I have a bottom in my heart, but this kind of thing is not easy to expose theoretically. After all, it is better for the company to keep a low profile.

When they came back, it was as if nothing had happened and everyone had to do whatever they wanted. I have to admire that they can still get along so calmly. Fight when you should laugh, and fight as usual. When it's time to talk about work, you still do your duty.

But on second thought, it is reasonable that these two men and women are unmarried, even if they are together. What is there to worry about? Everyone has his own private life. Since it is called private life, it has nothing to do with work. Is to distinguish between public and private.

Yes, and we can be honest and open together for decades. However, it really destroyed the three views. Ha ha laugh

Tell a real case. In the mid-1980s, I can't remember the exact time. I work in an office, next door to the unit (there were not many people in each unit at that time, and it belonged to a branch of our unit). A veteran was arranged to work in a newly established office through family ties (now I am directly in charge). When I got married, I married a woman who worked in a small shop, and she was still attractive. These are all normal. Wonderful thing, shortly after marriage, he took advantage of the opportunity of unit development to set up a secondary unit. Not only did he bring his wife in, but he also brought in the small boss (just the two of them) of the store where his wife used to work, and the store closed. At that time, people around him were curious about what he thought. Even more amazing, before long, his wife gave birth to a daughter, who looked exactly like the man. Everyone is talking behind their backs, but all three parties are fine. Even if colleagues have conflicts with them at work, they will not be overly excited and will not pursue anything by innuendo. The unit organizes to study in other places. On the way to class, the woman and the man walked to eat together. The woman rode her bike in the back seat of the man's bike, and her husband rode her bike alone. As the daughter gets older and more like that man, their unit is not big. After decades, they have been living in peace. Later, the reform was separated from their unit. I don't know the specific situation, but I heard that it is still very smooth and there is no contradiction.

Can you imagine how powerful these people are, especially their husbands? , hehe

Of course, we can still cooperate and get what we need. As long as the relationship is handled well, we can complement each other at work and meet each other in life. Looking up every day without looking down can help two people's feelings warm up quickly and establish a relatively stable relationship chain.

Our company has a similar case. A, a female supervisor of a department, is 29 years old, with fair skin and beautiful skin, and practices yoga every day. She has a very good figure. B, the male leader of another department, is in his forties and divorced and single. He often works out and looks very strong. At the beginning, because of business contact, two people often need to communicate and dock, and when they come and go, they will spark.

But I found it a coincidence that there was a story between them. One morning, I went to work at nine o'clock and arrived at the office building at half past seven. Suddenly I caught a glimpse of the car parked not far away. Colleague A got out of the car with a peach blossom on his face, and then led B to come out and lock the car slowly. The two of them flirted in tandem and came in my direction, scaring me to go upstairs first to avoid embarrassment.

Because they were in different offices, they went upstairs and entered their respective office areas, and they never spoke again until other colleagues came to work in the company one after another. In the final analysis, it is also normal. Two people should communicate seriously, joking. Uninformed outsiders simply can't see any clues.

Later, they left their jobs, but from their respective circle of friends, there were more or less signs of cohabitation. In fact, this kind of thing is very common, it's no big deal. Just handle the relationship well and don't let personal factors affect your work. We are all mature people in the workplace, and we know how to distinguish between private life and work without affecting each other.

Yes, why not?

At work, we often deal with some colleagues of the opposite sex. Everyone still works in the same workplace, so the number of meetings and conversations is obviously more than others, and in some jobs, there will be many things like convenience and help. In this case, the chances of two people coming together are greatly increased.

It's strange if two people work in the same place and often meet and chat.

For example, when I was working in a garment factory, the tailor of our factory was married, and his wife worked not far from our factory, but everything was two-sided. Under such circumstances, he talked to a girl in her early twenties in our factory without telling his wife!

However, it is not as fast as everyone said. At that time, several colleagues and I also bet that the tailor would never get the girl because the girl didn't know that the tailor's wife was here for the time being. Will she continue to develop with him when she finds out later?

The boss treated us, so all the employees in our factory went. I remember getting up from the dinner table at 9 pm, but everyone was drunk! Let's go back to the dormitory by car to rest!

However, when I went to work the next day, I found that the girl did not come to work in the morning. The boss called directly, but it was the girl who answered the phone. Now it's all exposed

Who would have thought it had been a week! I don't know who let the cat out of the bag about cutting. His wife came to see me, but fortunately it wasn't as noisy as I thought. She just told the girl that he was a married man! You are a little girl, why don't you talk about a friend? What's the use of finding a man with such a family? Do you think he will leave me and my children?

She left after a hard meal. We all thought that the girl would resign soon, but who would have thought that she would still work there until the Spring Festival holiday? How much have you learned from her?

My personal opinion

If this happens between colleagues, as long as it is not a contradiction, it is generally a relationship between men and women. If it's about marriage, and then there is a conflict between the two sides, in this case, there must be embarrassment, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to resign. When you meet, turn around and pretend you don't know anyone. In fact, it's not as complicated as you think, and it may leave a shadow in the woman's heart. If you really don't want to see him, you can.

I used to see the news that "temporary couples" went to work in foreign factories. In fact, this is also about the normal relationship between colleagues. They chose to be together more than once. As long as they are not with their families, they will stick to this temporary relationship for a long time, and they can continue to work together after finishing. Yes, but they can find that their usual contact will be closer.

When I used to go home by train, I sat next to a lady who looked about 40 years old. I accidentally saw his WeChat chat record. When I am old, the font on my mobile phone is too big to read clearly. Just read a few words, the content is hard to say. After leaving his "brother" for a while, I can't stand it. It can be seen that this relationship between colleagues is really hard to say. The woman is really forty.

Adults are still like this, and young people can understand. If a man and a woman are unmarried, they can cultivate feelings for each other and finally come together. However, those who have families with each other still advise restraint. After all, whoever makes a wrong step first is a betrayal of his family, and one wrong step may lead to another.

So it is no problem to work together after this happens, but it will affect your family and personal reputation. After all, "a tree needs skin, but a man needs face".

In a business training organized a few years ago, I found that two young male and female employees often hang out together after school, which is a bit different from the relationship between colleagues.

I asked their regional supervisor, only to know that they are colleagues in an office and have families with each other. However, after working together for a long time, you have feelings. This time, they also moved to a room with others privately, which became an open secret in their office.

In the next two days, I specially observed them both. Apart from spending a lot of time together, everything is normal and I don't feel embarrassed at work. I look a little proud. In this regard, I am quite speechless and admire their psychological quality very much.

1, depending on the company's attitude towards this matter.

Turn a blind eye, it doesn't matter, two people can still cooperate happily, and the cooperation efficiency may be higher.

Resolutely resist unhealthy tendencies, and even prohibit internal marriage and love relationships, which requires one party to be prepared for sacrifice.

Of course, many times this ambiguous and cross-line behavior may only stay at the level of rumors within the company, and there is no problem of not being paid attention to what the company does.

2. I have seen the personal attitudes of both sides of the line.

For example, the two colleagues mentioned above, we looked a little dumbfounded, but they were very calm and regarded gossip as nothing. The parties go to work with peace of mind, as long as this relationship does not affect their work, others can't say anything.

However, this relationship is difficult to maintain for a long time in the workplace, and the pressure of family, morality and public opinion will continue to increase, and it is easy to fall apart when encountering minor contradictions. Therefore, there are many colleagues who have sex, and it is more common for one of them to be transferred or resigned.

In the former company, there were two couples who developed from supervisors and clerks. They were in the same office when they were in love. After the marriage, the woman took the initiative to apply for transferring from the original city and returning to her hometown city not far away, which not only avoided suspicion but also solved problems for the company.

Now, although they work in different cities, they can meet each other every week when they go home, and now they live happily.

This is the result of the development of pure love, even if they don't work together, it has no effect on their feelings and marriage.

If it is not the route of love development, involving the destruction of family and the reorganization of marriage, even if it turns out to be a positive result, it is hard to bear all kinds of strange eyes in the workplace, and 80% can't continue to work together.

Personality, virtue and quality are very important competitiveness in career development, and the higher the position, the more prominent it is.

Rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests, let alone their colleagues who are having an affair.

In things that conflict with basic moral values, people who happen will be labeled with various attributes, which may not have bad consequences for the time being, but with the passage of time, opportunities will gradually move away. Unless you jump out of the circle of acquaintances and hide labels to deceive everyone in a strange environment, you will be recognized again as standing on the basic line of morality.

Therefore, impulse is the devil. Don't let the lower body become an obstacle to career development. Only by enduring loneliness can you remain prosperous.

Having sex with colleagues of the opposite sex is taboo in the workplace and needs careful consideration.

The above paragraph was originally intended to be bold, and the explanation is really important. Professionals with this tendency really need to consider it clearly.

As we all know, many companies prohibit employees from falling in love. Why?

Ceng Yi summed up the following three reasons.

This is easy to understand. No matter how rational and sober people used to be, as long as they fall in love, they will affect each other's mood more or less.

At this time, employees' minds are full of objects, and they may start to think about where to date after work, what to eat, how to express their feelings, what gifts to give, and so on.

Lack of concentration in work will naturally affect work efficiency, which the company does not want to see.

If two people in love have a good relationship with each other, as long as one person has the idea of leaving and jumping ship, the other person will often leave with him, which is equivalent to losing two people at the same time.

If two people have a bad relationship, once the relationship breaks down, in the same company or department, it will be embarrassing not to say it, and it is easy for one or both of them to leave.

Therefore, no matter how the feelings of both parties are, the employee's falling in love will affect the turnover rate of the company.

If a workplace leader falls in love with a workplace employee, at this time, if there is an opportunity for employees to compete, who as a leader can guarantee absolute fairness and not deviate from his own object?

To say the least, even if you are absolutely fair, your partner got the opportunity on his own.

But what will your colleagues think of you? I'm sure you'll think you've set aside water for your date.

Having sex with colleagues of the opposite sex is similar to falling in love to some extent, so having sex with colleagues is also a taboo.

In two ways.

The first situation is that both parties are single.

When both parties are single, it is normal for men to love women, and they do not need to bear the pressure of moral public opinion.

Since there is a relationship, it is normal to be together, and working together will have the pressure of the company system. After all, many companies don't allow employees to fall in love.

Mainly depends on how the two sides communicate with the company leaders, but also depends on whether the feelings are deep enough.

The company where I used to work also had colleagues who came together. The two met in the company. From falling in love to getting married, the relationship has been very good. Now the children are playing soy sauce.

The second situation is non-single.

Having sex with a married colleague of the opposite sex is due to physical or emotional needs. It was once thought that this abnormal relationship was difficult to go on.

If the other person gets married, will you be a third party? Is the other party willing to give up family of origin? If the other person can give up his wife and children to stay with you, he will give up you and go with others in the future.

If you get married, ask yourself if you can give up your family.

If both parties are married, it is a matter for two families. Do you want to break the happiness of two families and pursue your own love?

Therefore, as long as you are single, you don't have to consider whether you can work together, but you should consider letting go.

It can be said that colleagues get along with each other day and night, and have a relationship under certain conditions. In fact, it is also a "logical" thing. This kind of thing is not uncommon in the unit.

Whether we can be together depends on the attitude of both sides after the relationship. Generally speaking, it can be divided into two situations: unmarried and marital infidelity.

If both parties are unmarried, then they can fall in love and stay in love. If both sides feel that the other party is not suitable, but they have a relationship against their wishes in the new background, then I think no one will feel uncomfortable even if they can't forget it. In a few days, they may return to nature.

If both parties are married or one party is married, then there is a relationship between colleagues, so it will rise to the moral level to examine this issue. In most cases, at least one party has a relationship in order to seek excitement and satisfy desires, and this relationship tends to last. It was not until this incident was exposed that it was dropped. Basically, it doesn't have much impact on the work, so we can work together and it is more convenient to go back and forth.