What are the taboos about living and speaking in Shandong?

Abstract: Shandong is the hometown of Confucius and Mencius. There are many rules for celebrating New Years and festivals, as well as for drinking and eating. So if you live in Shandong, do you know what are the taboos in Shandong? When living in Shandong, what words should not be said, and what words should be paid attention to when speaking? What should we pay attention to during some special festivals in Shandong? This article collects for everyone some major life taboos and some speaking taboos in Shandong. Let’s take a look below! It is taboo in Shandong life for young people to get married and use "incomplete" people (i.e. widows, childless or childless people) to make bedding. An aunt is forbidden to marry an aunt, and a sister-in-law is forbidden to send a bride away. There is a saying that "if the aunt does not welcome the bride, the aunt will not send him off, and the sister-in-law will send her to the poor." Pregnant women are forbidden to give birth to their children in their natal family, as it is said that "if you touch the grass of your natal family, you will have a bad life." Pregnant women are not allowed to eat rabbit meat. It is foolish to say that they gave birth to children after eating rabbit meat. It is forbidden to eat dog meat, as it is said that dog meat will turn into fetuses; mothers who are less than one month old are not allowed to visit the house or break ground, and they are forbidden to stop breastfeeding. Avoid visiting patients in the afternoon, as their condition will worsen if you do so in the afternoon. If you borrow a medical pot from someone else's house, don't give it back. If you do, put a little rice and noodles in the pot. After buying medicine for a patient, avoid carrying the medicine bag from door to door, as this may bring disaster to others. When serving rice, avoid tipping the spoon outward, as this is the way to serve rice to prisoners. Don't knock on the rice bowl. Some people say that knocking on the rice bowl means scolding the cook, and some people say that knocking on the rice bowl means that they have to beg for food. Avoid inserting chopsticks into a bowl full of rice, as this is a way to worship the dead. For engagements, weddings and other festive days, avoid odd days; when visiting relatives and friends and giving gifts, avoid odd numbers. When digging a well, women should not come near. Do not build the main house higher than the ridge of the main house of the neighbor behind you, as this will overwhelm the neighbor's family fortune and cause disputes. Also avoid building the side house higher than the main house, which means bad family luck.

Don’t face Wushan Mountain at the gate. If you encounter a mountain, you must write auspicious words such as "Lucky Star Shines High" and "Purple Air Comes from the East" on the top of the mountain. Building a house surrounded by roads means that the Lord has no children. The house should not be blocked by the road. If the house is blocked by the road, a stone should be erected on the opposite side with the words: "Taishan Stone Dare to Be Deng". The water outlet of the bungalow is opened outside the courtyard, which means that the main money flows out. The toilet was built in the east of the courtyard, which means that the descendants will be stupid. If a married daughter gives birth and celebrates the New Year in her natal family, it means that her natal family will not be prosperous. After a girl gets married, if she does not return to her natal family for ten years, she will not be allowed to return to her natal family; if she must return, she must wear a red belt given by her relatives and carry a rooster back to her natal family. If there is a person with measles at home, a red cloth must be hung at the door, otherwise it will not be good for measles. Visiting the patient in the afternoon means that the patient's condition has worsened. Babies who are less than one month old should avoid lifting dung, breaking soil, beating bricks, and moving dirt. Pregnant women should avoid looking at dead bodies, as the owner may have difficulty in giving birth. If you die in another place, avoid "entering the house with cold bones". If you enter the house with the intention of harming future generations. When pouring tea or pouring wine, avoid touching the neck of the pot. When serving and adding rice, avoid using the ladle or turning the spoon outward. It is forbidden to pass food through the window, which means that prisoners receive food from the window. Young people should avoid drinking alcohol, as drinking means giving birth to a daughter. Avoid stepping on the threshold, as "stepping on the threshold will cause pests to gouge their eyes." During the New Year, avoid saying unlucky words such as "break", "death", "annihilation", "poor", etc. Call garlic (break it up) and say "Yihe Cai". Before the third day of the first lunar month, avoid sweeping the floor or splashing water, which means sweeping out or splashing out your belongings. Do not be engaged if the twelve zodiac animals are in conflict with each other. Rumor has it that the white horse is afraid of the green ox, the stupid pig hates the obedient monkey, the dragon and the rabbit exchange tears, the sheep and the rat are divorced, the snake and the tiger are worried about everything, and the rooster and dog are not compatible. Ridiculous taboos can ruin a good relationship.

Taboos for moving: 1. Don’t scold children or get angry on the day of moving.

⒉ On the day of moving, try to say some auspicious words.

⒊Do not greet others when moving.

⒋Do not take a nap in the new house on the day of moving, otherwise you will easily get sick in the future.

⒌That night, if you have to get up and work five minutes after going to bed, it means that you have to get up after going to bed, which means good health. In folk customs, the same is true for children sleeping in a new bed. They must lie down and then get up, otherwise Get sick easily.

⒍According to the number of family members, use new pillows to open the door and enter the house. Place them according to individual beds.

⒎On the day of check-in, be sure to boil a pot of water, which means great wealth.

⒏ Bring a rice vat or bucket filled with rice, place a piece of red paper with "Always Full" written on it, or place an envelope with 168 yuan, whichever It means "progress all the way".

⒐When moving a long distance, you should bring a handful of rice, a handful of soil and a small bottle of water with you to your new home.

⒑ On the first day or week after moving, you should make a fuss in the house, chat, eat, entertain, etc. The more noisy you are, the more evil you will drive away.

⒒ If there are pregnant women at home, please do not move to avoid disturbing the fetus.

12. When moving, the master bedroom bed must enter first.

There is a taboo in Shandong regarding a person’s age. It is taboo to say seventy-three, eighty-four, or one hundred years old. It is said that seventy-three and eighty-four are "lost years", and there is a saying that "seventy-three and eighty-four, the king of hell will not ask you to go"; 100 years is the limit of human life, and a hundred years later refers to after death. It is taboo for a man to say that he is forty-one years old, because forty-one years old is said to be a hindrance to his wife. Avoid using the word "fan" or "bastard" when boating, and avoid drying shoes on the boat with their soles turned upside down. When an old man lives to be a hundred years old, it is taboo to tell the real number. He only says 99 years old, because it means "people say that if you live a hundred years old, you will eventually die." When making dumplings, you cannot say the words "broken" or "finished", and it is forbidden to say "water shortage" on the fifth day of the year.

Traditional taboos in the year of the year include taboos in the year of Jiazi, taboos in the year of Jiazi, and no marriage in the year of Jiazi. The year of Jiazi is called the Year of the Widow among the people, and marriages are carried out in advance or postponed. Folk custom believes that the Year of Jiazi is a year of war and chaos, with natural disasters coming, so many places have the custom of "passing half a year" to end the terrifying Year of Jiazi as soon as possible. In the Yimeng Mountain area, the New Year is celebrated on June 23 during the Jiazi Year. Some people even use "Big Chicken" brand cigarette boxes to tie up red lanterns and hang them on the bedside to ward off disasters and evil spirits.

Taboos during the Spring Festival: Avoid quarreling and swearing during the entire Spring Festival. As the saying goes, "Everything thrives when a family is in harmony." Avoid breaking utensils. It is believed that breaking utensils during the New Year is a bad sign and will bring danger in the new year. When breaking something, don't get angry in a hurry. You should immediately say "Every year (breaking) is safe" or "The old one won't go away, and the new one won't come in" to make peace. If you break a pot or other important utensils, you should throw the fragments into an abandoned well while it is dark, turn around and leave, and never look back, thinking that this may avoid bad things. It is taboo to have funerals in the first month, especially the death of someone in the family on the first day of the new year. If this happens, they will lie and claim that the person died on the second day of the lunar month. It is forbidden to shave your head in the first month. As the saying goes, "If you don't shave your head in the first month, your uncle will die if you shave your head." A married daughter cannot celebrate the New Year in her natal family. She will live in her natal family on the 30th and first day of the Lunar New Year. It is believed that a married girl who celebrates the New Year in her natal family will make her natal family poor and poor.

It is forbidden to sleep in late on the first day of the first lunar month. It is believed that sleeping late on this day will mean you will not work hard for a year. Unmarried girls do not kowtow to their parents to pay New Year greetings. Avoid eating rice and drinking water for breakfast, thinking that this will lead to trouble and confusion in the year. You can't eat millet rice, because it is unlucky because it is eaten during the wedding ceremony. When eating, the bowl should not be eaten empty. A little should be left in the bowl, which is called surplus. People in Tai'an, Jinan and Linyi eat vegetarian dumplings on this day and avoid eating fish, which means that the elements will be quiet this year. On this day, you cannot speak foul language, scold children, or say unlucky words. Folks believe that words spoken on the first day of the new year will come true. Do not wash the dishes, sweep the pots, or sweep the floor. Do not take out the garbage. You think it will wash away your wealth. If you cannot gather wealth this year, you will lose it. Avoid reading, otherwise you will become blind; avoid using needlework and cutting, otherwise women will have a lot of work in the coming year and will suffer from "busy disease", which means the busier they are, the sicker they will become. Avoid collecting debts, otherwise it will be detrimental to both parties. Do not fetch water from wells. People believe that this day is the rest day of the Well Dragon King. Do not fetch water to disturb the Well Dragon King's rest. Avoid eating at other people's homes. Avoid taking medicine, otherwise you will take medicine frequently throughout the year. It is forbidden to grind mills on this day in Junan. The mills were sealed years ago and cannot be used until the fifth day of the first lunar month. When merchants eat dumplings during the Chinese New Year and use garlic as a seasoning, they call garlic "Yihe cuisine" because garlic in many places in Shandong has the same pronunciation as "san", fearing that they will scatter wealth and break up the partnership. It is taboo for unmarried girls to go to the forest (ancestral grave).

On the second day of the first lunar month, the newly married girl returns to her parents' home with her new son-in-law. The gifts prepared by the new son-in-law should not be in odd numbers. After the second day of the Lunar New Year, people began to visit relatives and pack gifts in bamboo baskets or leather bags. In the past, they usually included steamed buns, jujube rolls, snacks, wine, biscuits, noodles, and sometimes chickens and fish. If relatives had children, they would bring them again. Pack a bag of sugar cubes. Do not bring back an empty basket or empty bag when visiting relatives, otherwise it is unlucky and it is thought that the relatives will be cut off.

The fifth day of the first lunar month is known among the people as "Po Wu" and "Wu Qiong". Yiyuan calls this day "Wuma Day" and Tai'an area calls it "Wuma Zhan". It is forbidden to go out in various places in Shandong on this day. People in Chiping and Dong'a believe that going out on this day will break the axles of the flower wheels. People in Qingdao are not allowed to visit their parents-in-law on this day. As the saying goes, "If you pray four and not pray five, your mother-in-law will die if you pray five."

August 27th is the birthday of Confucius. Folks go to the Confucian Temple to offer sacrifices and slaughtering is prohibited.

September is considered a taboo month among the people, and it is taboo to wear quilts. It is said that wearing a quilt will offend the nine female stars, and someone will die if covered with such a quilt. Some people also say that only girls will be born, but not boys.

The ninth day of September is the Double Ninth Festival. There is a custom of climbing high on this day, which is believed to avoid disasters. In places such as Zaozhuang and Tengzhou, girls who have been married for less than three years are not allowed to return to their parents' homes. The local saying goes, "If you go home to celebrate the Double Ninth Festival, your mother-in-law will die."

Winter taboos include no frost in October. Folks believe that if there is no frost in October, there will be a famine the following year.

The first day of October is the Winter Clothes Festival, which is believed to be the Ghost Festival. On this day, people go to the graves to worship their ancestors and burn the paper clothes and hats made in front of the graves, which is called sending cold clothes. In some places, it is not advisable to go early in the morning or in the morning to worship old friends. Instead, go after lunch. As the saying goes, "Early in the Qingming Festival and late at Eleven."

The eighth day of the twelfth lunar month is the Laba Festival. It is taboo in Laixi and Jimo areas for women to return to their natal family, otherwise it will be detrimental to their natal family. There is a folk saying, "Don't eat rice from your natal family in Laba; if you eat rice from your natal family, you will not be able to pay it back for the rest of your life." ". From this day until the third day of the Lunar New Year, married girls cannot return to their parents' homes. In Wucheng and Yinan areas, new daughters-in-law who have been married for less than three years must return to their parents' home on Laba day, otherwise it will be detrimental to their husband's family. The local folk saying goes, "If you eat Laba rice, the family will break up; if you drink Laba rice, the family will break up." Poor to the end."

December 23rd is the traditional folk celebration day, also known as the Small New Year. It is especially taboo to be disrespectful to the Stove King on this day, for fear that he will go to heaven and complain to the Emperor of Heaven. After December 23, people begin to enter the busy New Year stage and prepare for the New Year. From this time on, you can’t even count the number of steamed buns or steamed buns, which means there will be too much dry food to count in the next year. When steaming steamed buns, be careful not to let the noodles rise. It is believed that if the noodles do not rise, your life will not be prosperous and you will not make a fortune. It is also taboo to avoid cracks in steamed steamed buns, as it is believed that cracked steamed buns will lead to disharmony in the family. If the steamed bun is really cracked, it is taboo to say that it is cracked. Instead, say "smile and open your mouth." Folks also believe that after resigning from the stove, the gods ascend to heaven and there are no taboos. Therefore, people often get married at this time, without fear of being blamed by the gods for lack of etiquette. This is called chaos.

December 30th is New Year’s Eve, also known as New Year’s Eve. This is the last day of the year and there are many taboos. The whole family is not allowed to talk and joke randomly, and they should say more auspicious words and avoid angry, foul, and sad words. When making dumplings, avoid dropping them on the ground. When cooking dumplings at night, avoid dropping dumplings on the pot. Avoid riding or taking a car when visiting your ancestors. Walk to the ancestral graves. People who have died less than three years ago cannot be enshrined together with their ancestors, and must be enshrined separately on a separate tablet. No one can sit on the seats on either side of the ancestral offering table. Among the offerings prepared for the ancestors, one is cooked square meat, but no salt is allowed. Dumplings made as offerings in Tai'an, Zhaoyuan and other places should not be filled with meat and must be made with vegetarian fillings. You cannot call the child's name when offering sacrifices to the gods, and you cannot call the child's name when you wake him up for the New Year's dinner at night, because the gods have returned at this time and are afraid of taking the child away. When having New Year's dinner, avoid finishing all the dumplings in the bowl. This is called having more than enough for the coming year.

Taboos in social interactions Shandong is the hometown of Confucius and Mencius. It adheres to the tradition of being a "land of etiquette" and pays attention to social etiquette. There are many taboos in social interactions.

The ancients said that "men and women should not be intimate". Now it is not as strict as before, but there are still certain taboos in the relationship between men and women. In the family, the interactions between sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law are relatively casual, and they can make some jokes with each other. However, there are many taboos on the interactions between women and their father-in-law, eldest brother-in-law and other male elders of the husband's family. Father-in-law and eldest brother-in-law are not allowed to enter the bedrooms of their daughter-in-law and sister-in-law at will. They should talk to each other as little as possible. When they need to speak, they should pay attention to their serious expressions. They should dress neatly when meeting each other, and women should not breastfeed their children happily in front of male elders. Adult men are not allowed to go to a widow's house for fear that "there will be too much trouble in front of the widow's house". Nowadays, many places in rural Shandong still abide by the rule of "separate seats for men and women" when entertaining guests, and wives and daughters do not sit at the table.

When the elderly visit relatives, they should not stay overnight. As the saying goes, "When you are seventy, don't stay overnight, when you are eighty, don't stay for food, and when you are ninety, don't stay sitting down" to avoid any unexpected events. If this happens, the children will blame themselves because the old man did not die in their own home, and the relatives and friends who receive the old man will also feel embarrassed and troubled.

Therefore, when people get older, they try not to go out as much as possible. Even if they want to go out for a family visit, their children's generation will try their best to dissuade them. When guests come to your home, you should warmly entertain them, make tea and offer cigarettes promptly, and avoid wiping the table or sweeping the floor. Otherwise, the guest will think that he is not welcome, and the host will want to kick him out. When lighting cigarettes, avoid lighting three cigarettes with one match, otherwise it will be suspected of "dispersing the gang" (three fires). Do not scold dogs or scold children in front of guests, otherwise it will be considered as "pointing out" and the guests will feel embarrassed. Guests are not allowed to look around in the host's house. They are not allowed to pull out drawers or rummage through wardrobes at will. They are also taboo to go to the stove to see the food being prepared. When eating, it is taboo for guests to move their chopsticks first. The host must send guests out of the gate when seeing off guests, otherwise they will be considered rude and treat others indifferently. Younger generations should avoid visiting their elders in the afternoon or dusk, and should visit them before noon.

It is human nature to reciprocate courtesy. Guests should not go empty-handed, and hosts should not let guests leave empty-handed. However, when visiting a patient, all gifts must be left behind, and part of the gift should not be pushed back. There are also certain taboos when giving gifts. Avoid giving scissors or umbrellas to others, for fear of others thinking that you want to "cut them off" or "break them up". Don't give away watches, otherwise it will be suspected of "giving away". When giving gifts, prefer even numbers and avoid odd numbers. For example, when giving money as a gift, you can give twenty yuan, forty yuan, sixty yuan, eighty yuan, or one hundred yuan, but avoid giving thirty yuan, fifty yuan, or seventy yuan. Numbers like twenty-five yuan, fifty yuan, and two hundred and fifty yuan are especially taboo, because "two hundred and five, half-assed" are curse words. Don't give brooms, brooms and other items to relatives and friends, for fear that sweeping will break the road and the communication between relatives will be cut off. If you must give it away, you can throw the broom out from the courtyard wall, pick it up outside and give it to the guest. In many places, it is popular to send snacks to relatives and friends during the New Year and festivals, but only the younger generation can send snacks to the elders, and the elders should not send snacks to the younger generation.

It is generally said that when borrowing something, "it is easy to borrow and return, and it is not difficult to borrow again." However, when borrowing a medicine pot from others, it is taboo to return it to others for fear of bringing illness to others. Usually, you wait for the next user to borrow it from your home.