Why do I always like you?

Yesterday I went out to work with my colleague M. Looking at the rows of high-rise buildings, M looked at me and asked me a question: If you meet someone now, you like him, and he also likes you, but Both parties have families, what will you do?

I was stunned for a moment, and then said I didn’t know, I hadn’t thought about it.

"Then think about it now!" She pushed me.

"Uh~" I frowned and thought for a while. I really couldn't imagine that kind of scene, so I said: If he has a family and is still attracted to other women, then this man He’s not a good person either!

"But he bought me a house and gave me money to spend!" M said loudly: Besides, mistresses and mistresses are everywhere now, okay? She rolled her eyes at me.

"Since you said mistresses and mistresses are so common, why should he buy you a house and give you money?" I asked her with my arms folded.

"I will always follow him! I will also give him children!" M also argued with reason. "I'm really seeing things better now. If someone with a family, a house, and a car is willing to be with me, I wouldn't mind." M actually looked yearning.

"Oh my God! My sister, so open! But even if you are willing to follow him all the time, even if you give birth to a child, there will be other mistresses around him, and by then, you will have The beauty is fading in old age, but he is still rich. What should you do?"

I remember Rao Xueman said that no one is seventeen forever, but some people are always seventeen.

"I don't care about that. I should have saved a lot of money over the years anyway." M looked indifferent.

"Haha! You are too naive!" So I told her the story of my primary school classmate Y.

Y and her husband L were high school classmates. They supported each other for three years in high school and were extremely loving. After graduating from high school, L went to the army to serve in the army, and Y went to work in a factory. During the military service, the two They only met three times in one day, but the relationship between the two did not change at all, and they still maintained the feeling of being in love at the beginning. One year, because of L's outstanding performance, his employer gave him a three-month long vacation, and we were finally able to be together! So they took advantage of the holiday to meet their parents, took wedding photos, prepared for the wedding, and then went on their honeymoon. What I missed in those years and what lovers should do, I have completely made up for in these three months.

After the vacation, L returned to the army. Soon after, good news came from home: Y was pregnant! It was really a blessing. L was very busy in the army and often didn't have time to spend time with Y. Sometimes he didn't even have time to make a phone call. But their relationship is still very good.

Not long after, Y gave birth to a son. At that time, the family was very happy! After giving birth, Y also felt relieved. In addition to taking care of the children every day, she also watched TV. Her life was very comfortable. She felt that it was the happiest day.

Y had been idle at home and felt too bored. Later, he was introduced to a big hotel in the town as a waiter. The hotel was very famous and wealthy people often came to patronize it. After Y went to work, Changed from the lazy state of the past, becoming serious and responsible, hard-working and capable yet gentle and delicate. There is a man who has been in love with her for a long time. He completely ignores Y's married status. He greets her and gives her gifts from time to time to create a bit of romance.

Perhaps it was because he had not received love and care for too long, or perhaps he was too lonely and empty. After several rejections to no avail, Y subconsciously accepted the man.

After a period of intermittent and surreptitious contact, Y learned that this man had a wife, children, and was the boss of a real estate company with several high-end properties for sale. It is a truly wealthy family.

Y is both happy and sad.

She was happy that such an excellent person liked her, but she was also sad that she had become a mistress, destroying other people's families and herself at the same time.

Y is extremely conflicted!

The man would come to the hotel every day, and every time Y would greet him alone. Their relationship became more and more ambiguous and intense. Finally one day, the man and Y slept together in the hotel. on the bed.

After waking up, Y felt at a loss and regretful, but saw a real estate certificate handed over by the man, with Y's name clearly written on it. Then the man said: This is a promise to you, because I can't give you a name.

From now on, I will go to your place every month. You can live there or not. In short, when I need to see you, you just show up. And give me an account, and I will give you 20,000 yuan a month, are you willing?

Y agreed.

Y goes to that house three times a month and gets a lot of "salary" every month.

Y's heart is sweet, but also uneasy. She knows what kind of fatal blow this kind of life will give her, but she is reluctant to give up everything she has gained now.

As the saying goes, if you don’t want others to know, you have to do nothing except yourself.

One day, she and the man walked out of that house and happened to meet a neighbor who was cleaning there, and then their story spread throughout the village.

Unable to withstand the discussion, Y's husband also came back and divorced her, and the child was not awarded to her.

But Y felt that it was a relief. Finally, he no longer had to worry about being discovered. She soon left her original home and completely let go of her relationship with L. From then on, I lived in the house given by the man.

But is it over like this? No

Y later said that the man knew that she was divorced and had expressed his determination to her. Even if he could not give her a status, he would always rely on her. Feeling depressed and helpless, Y could enjoy everything the man gave him with peace of mind.

The man has a big career and has very little time to spend with Y. A man is always busy, busy in meetings, busy in summarizing, busy in business trips, and busy taking care of his "two families."

Y did not return to the hotel to work. She didn't look for another job, and she returned to her original "idle state" (so idle that she didn't know how to do anything). Everyday life is to live in a mansion full of love, sleep until you wake up naturally, then go shopping, go to the vegetable market to buy food, and cook for the man yourself. Every day, even if he doesn't come.

Sometimes the man would work in that house all night, and Y would watch TV in the room or make coffee for the man. Y is no longer as refined as before, more procrastinating and more casual. Therefore, she behaves extremely submissively, for fear of disturbing the man, and obeys the man's requests, not daring to cause him any trouble.

But the man's behavior gradually chilled her heart.

The man started coming once every other day, then once every other week, and finally didn’t show up for two months. It wasn't until Y found out she was pregnant again that the man finally showed his face.

The subsequent development of the story is what Y told me on WeChat: The man asked her to abort the child, saying that he was sorry for her and had no passion for her anymore. He gave her the last amount of money, helped her find a place to live, and officially broke up with her.

Y felt very sad and said frankly that his life was too miserable, being divorced and abandoned. It's pitiful to think about.

I don’t think Y’s life is miserable, but I think she is very sad. Her tragedy is that she thinks that getting a man means getting a long-term meal ticket, and then ignores what she should match him with, and ignores the man's original purpose.

Love and purpose are always mutual.

The story ends here. I asked M: Look, not all problems can be solved by having money!

M expressed deep sympathy and sighed several times.

Some people! I always think that everything will be fine if I marry a rich man! But I always ignore why rich people like you? Like Y in the story, during the time she was with her man, he was conscientious and worked hard, but she stood still and did not want to make progress. There is no skill that can match a man's ability, so don't learn it.

You must have something in yourself that is worthy of others liking forever. It’s not youth, beauty, or figure. It’s a certain characteristic that will always belong to you, whether it’s self-confidence, independence, pride, or the courage to move forward with firm confidence and pursue your dreams! No one will love you without any obligation. If you lose your self, self-confidence, and self-reliance, you really have nothing.

No coincidence.

My cousin X is such a positive teaching material.

X is the fourth girl in the family, 21 years old this year. She was given to my grandma to raise since she was a child, and she became my cousin. X is a man I met while working outside. The man owns several houses in the city and is particularly nice to his cousin. Many people say that my cousin has a good life and good luck. But I think she deserves all this.

I remember when I was a child, my cousin had to do a lot of farm work every day and had to go to school. She was dark and fat when she was a child. People in the village laughed at her and said that if she was born in our family, she would be ugly. Later, my cousin went to junior high school. She began to know how to dress herself up and learn all kinds of knowledge. From the beginning of junior high school, in addition to learning the basic course content, she also found time to practice sports, running, long jumping, and throwing shot put. After one semester, she became darker, but she lost weight.

When she was in high school, she had many more hobbies, including literary clubs, student unions, and radio stations. She would participate in any activities, and thus met many people and gained many opportunities. During the summer vacation in college, she learned cooking skills and worked in a restaurant. She was determined to keep improving and make the most distinctive food that was well received by the public. After learning that a certain beauty salon had expanded its enrollment, she signed up with great interest. Now she is the youngest makeup artist in the salon, and then she met her happiness again.

But she did not stop learning. She often practiced yoga and learned dance, and she worked seriously and responsibly! She has achieved good results in career and love, and she definitely relies not only on luck, but also on the courage and spirit to keep moving forward.

If you think about it from another person’s perspective, if your significant other doesn’t seek to make progress or make progress all day long, and just gets by, will you still love him as before?

Don’t think that getting married is the end. Just stop trying, stop moving forward, stop pursuing all the good things. You must protect your independence and uniqueness, as well as your ability to learn. Otherwise, as time goes by, even if you were a cinnabar mole on his heart, you will eventually become a smear of mosquito blood on the wall. It doesn't hurt or itchy, it doesn't matter.

When you meet true love, always think about how I can make him like me all the time.

It’s very simple, keep your heart pure, ensure absolute loyalty, protect your courage and dreams, and ensure the quality of life.

I will always like you.