Yi Shu's Light as a Chrysanthemum: Women should not touch middle-aged married men. His love is not simple.

Yi Shu has a novel called People as Light as Chrysanthemum. After reading it, I felt unspeakable depression, because it was a love story between a third party and a middle-aged married man.

I have always liked Yi Shu's works, but I can't like this one, because the concept of love in it is unacceptable, and I even think it is incorrect.

Like many other novels by Yi Shu, Joe, the heroine in A Woman as Light as a Chrysanthemum, is beautiful and intelligent, and is deeply loved by men.

Joe's family is well-off, and she is a British female student. During her study, she was a well-behaved, crying and devoted girl. However, it is such a beautiful and lovely girl who has a crush on her teacher, Professor Billner Van Gogh.

Professor Billner Fan is a married middle-aged man with a wife and two children, and his career has steadily increased. When Joe and Billner Van Gogh were still in love between teachers and students, they kept their own boundaries and got along well.

The emotional turning point was Joe's return to Hong Kong after graduation. Because she didn't want to work, her mother suggested that she go to England again. In fact, Joe knows very well that she chose to go back. The more important reason is that she can't let go of Billner Van Gogh.

When Joe came home, he got up the courage to show his love to Billner Van Gogh. Unexpectedly, the result gave her an unexpected surprise. Billner Van Gogh responded that she could get along. So, Joe once thought it was the best love.

However, is this really a beautiful love? Don't!

Joe finally said that he was tired, left without saying goodbye with Professor Van Gogh of Billner, and went back to Hong Kong to marry Jia Ming, a spare tire. Billner Van Gogh separated, his career was blocked and he had nothing.

Even Billner Van Gogh's wife despised him in the divorce: worthless, not a man, failed Joe.

Love that shouldn't have happened happened, and it won't have a good result after all.

This reminds a woman in love not to fall in love with a middle-aged married man and not to believe what he says, "I love you", because his love for you is not pure in motivation.

In fact, anything about falling in love with a third party is not worth advocating. Both men and women have no good results, so don't challenge the moral bottom line.

Both men and women, in their feelings, need to abide by their duties and be sober.

Middle-aged men often say that they love you for a purpose. They can calculate, and their motives are not pure.

In People as Light as Chrysanthemum, 2 1 year-old Joe and 47-year-old Billner Van Gogh are together, and they start a vigorous love.

At first, they wanted to be bored together for 24 hours and enjoy the passion of eating, watching movies, drinking coffee, shopping and dancing in the evening.

At that time, Billner Van Gogh said, "Joe, I seem to taste honey with you."

The middle-aged man seems to be as happy as a child, and he has tasted the freshness and happiness that he hasn't tasted for a long time. So, Billner Van Gogh said that he would divorce his wife and marry Joe.

Qiao Yang began to believe that Billner Van Gogh would really marry her. She expected everything, but what she didn't expect was that Billner Van Gogh didn't dare to divorce her.

Joe fell in love with Billner Van Gogh and was finally discovered by Billner Van Gogh's wife.

In front of Joe, Billner Van Gogh's wife put on a shrew show and even pushed her children out as lobbyists in an attempt to make Joe back down. This situation puts Billner Van in a dilemma. As he ran between his wife and children, he continued to hold Joe gently: I would like to marry you.

However, after more than a year's delay, Billner Van Gogh was afraid to marry her. In fact, it is impossible for any married man to do this. At best, they just play with women. Speaking of marriage, who would be so stupid?

Just as Joe advised Billner Van Gogh to live a free and easy life without human fireworks, Billner Van Gogh always said, "You are still young."

In fact, he just covets Joe's beauty and freshness, hoping that Joe can help him wash clothes, cook, mop the floor, clean the windows, sleep regularly and wake him up on time. Because, Billner Van Gogh and his wife have lived together in marriage for seventeen years, and it is impossible to change easily because of Joe.

In the final analysis, middle-aged men say that they love you for a purpose, and they will calculate and have a simple motive. They are nothing more than holding a self-interested mentality, trying to figure out the freshness and passion of the moment, and they can fall in love with you, but to get married, in tacky terms, it is "forget it."

Men's psychology is nothing more than this. When they are lovers with you, they want you to be romantic and gentle, but when they really want to be a wife, they want you to be a "free nanny". When one day lovers really become wives and yellow-faced women in marriage, they will only shake their heads and sigh in disappointment.

Therefore, women must not touch middle-aged married men. Being caught up in this abnormal love will only hurt yourself.

You can never imagine how selfish and flexible a middle-aged man is in marriage and passion.

Just like when pierna Van Gogh heard Joe's confession, although he showed a slight Zheng, he would definitely not let Joe go. Ducks sent to his mouth could fly. He is sly inside, waiting quietly for Joe to throw himself at him. All he has to do is open his arms and give each other the deadliest blow.

Moreover, women should not fall in love with married men, which is not only disrespectful to marriage, but also trampling on morality. If the three views are incorrect, people will only condemn her.

Advise those women who are deeply involved in such feelings not to be stupid again. Your infatuation can't be exchanged for the other party's promise, and the basic principles and bottom line can't be lost. Adults should be responsible for their actions.

Otherwise, one day, you will pay a heavy price for your mistakes.

A woman's love for a married man is purely self-inflicted.

Joe is such a woman in "People as Light as Chrysanthemum". She had a beautiful youth and a man who loved her-Jia Ming, but she only took Jia Ming as a spare tire and chose to fall in love with Billner Van Gogh who had a wife. That's not weird. What is this?

No matter how Yi Shu writes, it can't change the fact that Joe is a shameful third party. It's disgusting.

After Joe arrived in England, her mother sent her friend's son Jiaming to take care of Joe. Jia Ming likes her and reminds her:

"Either study hard or do things well. It's a waste. Be a good person. "

However, Joe fell in love with three incorrect views and couldn't extricate himself. Even, she is a little self-deceiving, feeling inferior when she is involved in other people's marriages, but comforting herself: "The only reason why feelings are difficult is because they are not firm."

What a poor reason, such a woman, even if she is really hurt in the end, is not worthy of sympathy.

Billner Faner lied to Joe that he and his wife were divorced, and Joe tried to cater to him in order to show his loyalty. This is the result of those lovelorn women's blind love. They thought they had found true love, but in fact they were just "moths to a fire".

Joe, who fell in love, gave up his job, took the money from his family and enjoyed the stolen love time with Billner Van Gogh. However, this shady love will collapse one day.

Later, Joe experienced Billner Van Gogh's wife's defense of marriage, and realized in his heart: "Although the love of a middle-aged man is a fact, he always has other things on his mind, so he can't get rid of it. Moreover, when you get older, you will gradually become numb. "

Joe enjoyed falling in love, but she finally realized that it was difficult for them to get rid of the convention by marrying Billner Van Gogh.

Finally, with Jia Ming's persuasion and help, Joe left the Vatican in Binal and returned to Hongkong without saying goodbye.

In the whole novel, the person I feel most distressed about is Jia Ming. Joe finally married him and continued to live within reach.

Knowing Joe's past like the back of his hand, Jia Ming loves him helplessly. I wonder, Joe, how does she feel about her husband who knows everything about herself? Will you regret your irrationality and immorality a little?

I don't think I saw it in Yi Shu's works. It's hard to imagine that there will be such an unhealthy view in Yi Shu's novels.

Because, at the end of the novel wrote:

"I don't regret being with Billner for two years. This is love, real love. And now, I am very happy. It seems that I should be a person without complaints. "

What kind of love concept is this promoting? No matter how much pen and ink is used to justify the love of a third party, it is impossible to get forgiveness from others. The basic principles of love and morality cannot be violated. This is the bottom line.

Therefore, advise those confused women not to continue to make mistakes and get involved in other people's marriages, otherwise, you will never lift your head and never deserve forgiveness from the world.

Write at the end:

There must be a limit to feelings, and we must not lose the minimum principles and bottom line.

Isn't it a waste that a third person in love, whether a man or a woman, is not accepted except at the moral level?

In this world, any unhealthy love is not worth investing.

Just like Joe in As Light as a Chrysanthemum, she chose to fall in love with a married man when she could have worked, lived, fallen in love and got married for nothing.

Even under the pretext of helplessness, she wasted not only her youth, her feelings, but even her life.

Don't talk about feelings with middle-aged married men. If you do, you will eventually lose yourself.

Girl, be careful, don't waste yourself!

End.

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