Become a leftover woman in a hotel

Not long ago, my friend Xiaoyu got married, but this is his "second marriage" within a year. This second marriage is not in the ordinary sense, but with the first girlfriend, the wedding room is ready, the hotel is booked, friends and relatives are informed, and even the wedding dress and diamond ring are booked, but the two broke up a week before this day. Fortunately, they haven't got a license yet, otherwise they really got married.

After eight or nine months, Xiaoyu had a second bride, and the new house only changed into a wedding bed, and everything else remained the same.

When chatting with Xiaoyu, he didn't have much joy in getting married. I don't know whether he and the "new" bride really love or make do, but only he can understand his complicated heart of choosing to get married so soon.

Thirty-year-olds seem to have problems if they don't get married, and one of the biggest weaknesses of human nature, as Schopenhauer said, is "caring too much about what others think". They are really afraid that if they miss the best marriage age, they will end up alone, so they will choose to get married actively or passively.

Just like Xiaoyu, I may not like it very much, but I don't hate it either. I just did what I should do at my age.

I once heard a saying:

A man will meet four women in his life. The first is that you love her and she doesn't love your woman; The second is that she loves you and you don't love her woman; The third woman you love, she loves you too, but she didn't end up together; The fourth is that you don't love her very much, and she doesn't love you very much, but they are together in the end.

Many people say that this is life.

Not long ago, I saw a hot discussion on Zhihu: "Are you going to die alone or get married?"

This sentence should be said to middle-aged unmarried men and women like us, or men and women who are confused about marriage. This is indeed a topic of discussion. The answers of three of them caught my attention, shared with you, and may also guide you in confusion.

@ Shen Yue

I won't get married, I will choose what you call loneliness to die.

Choose your favorite lifestyle, hate the bondage of marriage system, don't like to make trouble for yourself, and don't like to make trouble for others. Living quietly, dying quietly, not catering to others and not being used by others can avoid most risks and misfortunes.

For those who want to get married, loneliness may be regarded as a demon; For those who don't want to get married and like to live alone, marriage is regarded as the devil, that's all.

@ Not angry

The result of making do with marriage is not necessarily to die alone, but to die alone.

In that case, why not try to get married, give yourself a chance and give each other a chance. After all, grandparents who managed to get married in their early years also had their unique happiness.

There is also a chance to make you happy. Even if we really can't get together, we can go back to being single, and we won't lose anything, just go back to where we were.

@ Sishuinianhua

Being single or getting married are just two ways of personal life.

Maybe people who want to die alone finally get married. Those who want to make do with getting married will eventually die alone. Everything and anyone's thoughts only depend on the mood at that time, and people's mood will change with time and experience, and every minute is different.

Many people may get married now, because loneliness needs a strong inner support, so many people say that "people who can enjoy loneliness are strong."

Personally, I will get married when the time is right, and I will manage my marriage well. I won't settle for it, because the people I meet and the people who can get married must be the most suitable for me. Only by constantly imagining things in your mind and comparing them with reality will you use the word make do.

There is no chance of getting married, and living alone is also a good choice. Life is fleeting, and you can't be sure which comes first, tomorrow or accident. Naturally, we should cherish the present and live every day carefully.

So, if you are married or single, let go of some things, and everything will follow fate, but you can't ask for it yourself, and you will be fascinated by since the enlightenment and enlightened by since the enlightenment.

Writer Bashan said: "Love is the pursuit of romance, and marriage is the end result of the dust settled."

I have always believed that marriage is never a trivial matter, nor is it a trial and error. These three answers have their own understanding and truth, but in the final analysis, it depends on the individual's heart.

Longing for marriage or enjoying loneliness, ready and willing to try, or preferring to die a fair death rather than stick to it.

In fact, getting married or dying alone is an attempt and an interpretation of life. There is no right or wrong, only willingness. Making a fuss is a kind of life, happiness is also a kind of life, mutual respect and love is also a kind of life, and mutual torture is also a kind of life. It's better to have one life after all.

Therefore, if you don't have many hobbies and care about other people's eyes, you can make do with marriage and increase the possibility of life; If you have a wide range of interests and hobbies and are attractive enough to other things, then don't make do with getting married and live in a personal ocean. This is happiness.