Good man Dānlín was cheated, how to save his "Dan Xin"?

Hang Cheng record teacher Alfred: A good man, Dānlín, how to find his "Dan Xin"? The article expounds. The content of the article is as follows, I hope it will help you.

Badminton Grand Slam winner "Super Dan" cheated on his wife Xie when she was pregnant?

According to Zhao Wuer's studio, Dānlín cheated during pregnancy. In the middle of September, Dānlín was photographed holding hands with Zhao Yaqi. On June+10, 5438, Dānlín went to Guangdong to participate in the competition. In the middle of the night, the woman came to the door by express delivery and made out with the woman's hotel. They kept flirting in five-star hotels. At one time, Hexie was the happiest family in Mandarin and even in China. They just had a baby half a month ago, and now their past sweetness is embarrassing.

Usually, when news reports an event, there will be a phenomenon of one-sided public opinion, because from the moral level, Dānlín is problematic and untenable, and the collapse of Dānlín's image of a good man is beyond doubt. Even so, did Xie reflect? What keeps Dānlín moving forward? Is it a unilateral problem for men to cheat? Don't women reflect on themselves? Speaking of this problem, we can start with the psychology of gender relations and analyze this problem from the perspective of men and women. Alfred, a teacher from Hangzhou Record Enterprise Consulting Co., Ltd., wrote an article, "Why do people often eat what is in the bowl and watch what is in the pot?" Have a detailed interpretation of this kind of problem. Let's review the philosophy of the master.

Someone asked why people often "eat what's in the bowl and watch what's in the pot". Life and career are the same, especially love (especially men)? It is said that we should "cherish what we have in front of us" and "it is not easy to have someone who loves you", but why are there so many "heartbroken people"?

If you know some psychological knowledge about gender relations, it is not difficult to understand that once men and women enter marriage, men's initiative will usually be slightly higher than before, while women will face a certain discount more or less, which is related to the different roles and functions of men and women in marriage. (The specific principle is not detailed in this article). It is usually not difficult to understand that after marriage, the man's work ability, income, knowledge, mature charm and social status may improve with age, and these factors are often attractive to other women. It happened that one of the gender characteristics of women is that the "mate selection period" is not as long as that of men. Especially after giving birth, women's "sexual attraction" will be (greatly) discounted. Of course, the probability of attracting other men to make "lifelong investment" (such as love, money, material, etc.). ) It will be much smaller than before. In addition, due to legal and moral constraints after marriage, women tend to be "sexy" and have the right to choose. As a result, many wives worry that their husbands will "eat what is in the bowl and watch what is in the pot". On the whole, women are more vulnerable in this field, so here I will explain it from the perspective of women alone.

What exactly should I do? In fact, I deliberately put the case of intimate relationship at the end and elaborated it from five angles, which is very meaningful. You can easily see that there is a core idea above: everyone is free, and as long as he does not break the law (some people will add "not violating morality"), he has the right to make more favorable choices for his life. It is not recommended to discuss "good and evil", "loyalty" and "betrayal" here. I have to express my opinion cruelly: there is no unconditional loyalty in the world. The popular saying is: Flowers fall in bloom, and the breeze comes. We advocate "being good to ourselves" and "increasing attractiveness" to solve the problem radically, instead of taking "being good to ourselves continuously" as the premise and taking moral kidnapping and public pressure as the common means to control husbands and "defend" love and family. If you really know the first five situations, you can certainly understand what I'm talking about. Remember, I'm not making excuses for "men's mistakes", but looking for a way to "love you only for your man all my life"

You know, men's love for marriage is equal to women's love for sex, and they usually only give it to people they like. Especially marriage, can only be given to one person at a time. So I bet you will get married. Basically, he loved you at least once. But why (later) still want to "eat what's in the bowl and see what's in the pot"? The most direct answer is that he thinks he has "increased the price". Instead of "increasing prices" or even "reducing prices", he thinks he has suffered a lot. After a long time, some "broken hearts" will itch.

I guess you will ask: didn't my "sexual attraction" become smaller after I gave birth? This is irreversible, so what can I do to keep my husband infatuated with me?

Answer: Since he "eats what's in the bowl and looks at what's in the pot", turn yourself into a "pot"! At this time, you can say in your heart: Look at your little appearance, how to escape from this fairy's "maze".

Look at it:

You have a love foundation > 30 points

The fact that you are married+10 points.

You have the same baby +30 points.

Can exercise and increase vitality+1 point.

You can change aggressive words into gentle expressions+1.

You can read some books about communication and sales psychology.

Help him on key occasions. +1 point

You can read some women's books and love yourself more correctly+1 point.

You can always praise him, especially worship him in front of people +2 points.

Can do some beauty maintenance, light makeup+1 minute.

You can be more friendly to his family.

You can pay attention to the hairstyle and dressing collocation+1 point.

You can let him have a tidy room (you can let your aunt do it for you, the result is more important)+1 point.

There are many ways to make yourself more attractive! I can't guarantee that you will make your family "forever", after all, there will be too many unpredictable factors; But I can assure you that once you do this, your love and family will be sweeter and safer than before. When you do this, if your husband doesn't keep up with you, he is likely to be more infatuated with you. If his career is like a rainbow, you will be more confident and qualified to attract his attention than before. To say the least, if you really become the girl mentioned above, even if you are still separated, you will become much more attractive than before. Have you ever suffered?

Special reminder: According to the above principles, if you are a single woman, when you finally meet your favorite "Prince Charming", you'd better not make a crazy plan of "chasing men and women". Because your behavior like that is tantamount to telling him, "Hi! Girls at my level will take the initiative to chase you! So as long as you work hard, you will definitely catch up with girls who are better than me! " Then, after you have been together for a period of time (for him, you have been "devalued"), is there a great chance that he will abandon you and go to another pot? Therefore, the only thing you can do is to improve your charm and "attract" him to chase you instead of chasing others stupidly. Remember: being yourself is the real attraction.

The above excerpt is from Alfred's article, hoping to inspire you. Whether you have a happy family or men and women in love, whether you are in the sweet joy and loss of love and sorrow, the last thing to say is that dealing with love and marriage afterwards will have the effect of repairing it afterwards. How to prevent and solve beforehand, how to avoid and deal with conflicts and contradictions between the sexes, and how to manage feelings better and better ... all these require your usual practice. If you want to improve your happiness and success, you want to manage love, marriage, gender relations and family better while doing a good job ... Don't hesitate, you can join a series of courses taught by Mr. Alfred. Here is the answer you want.