How did you survive your wife’s confinement period?

I am a lady and I am the one who needs confinement. This question is common to all ten confinement families, and each of the nine is different. You can arrange it according to your actual situation.

Here’s what we were like: Before I was pregnant, I already knew that my husband’s family couldn’t help me, and I was thinking about whether my husband’s family could provide me with money (the kind that would provide money). However, when I was three months pregnant, , my sister-in-law is also pregnant. However, my mother did not go back until the day the baby was discharged from the hospital (my sister-in-law resigned during her pregnancy, and I continued to work), and at the same time, the confinement nanny hired that day came to work. Then during the confinement period, my wife was responsible for buying groceries, and the confinement nanny took care of the food and daily life of the family, me and the baby. My lover has a month's holiday: grocery shopping, breakfast, games, lunch, lunch break, games, dinner, games, and sleep. I lived like this in a cycle for a month.

My daughter-in-law is in confinement. At that time, my employer approved a five-day leave for me to accompany the childbirth in the hospital. Because she had a normal delivery, she was discharged after four days. Now the baby is half a month old, and I am my mother-in-law from Monday to Friday. Come take care of her. My mother takes care of her on Saturdays and Sundays. I also help take care of her at home during my holidays.

Let me talk about my inner feelings. First of all, I would like to thank my wife, mother-in-law and my mother for taking good care of my wife and baby during this time. Secondly, confinement is really hard. Taking care of the baby is a grueling job, but it is the unshirkable responsibility of the mother and the father. My baby will get up four or five times in the middle of the night and then cry. At this time, my wife will feed him milk. , and then go to sleep again after eating, which is good; some babies need to be held by adults to sleep. There is an example around me. The baby needs to be held in his arms to sleep, and then the father will hold him for half the night, and the mother will hold him for the next half of the night, etc. When the child is asleep, it is time to go to work. It is recommended that the baby lie on the bed to sleep by himself from the beginning, otherwise it will be really hard. Sometimes when I have a bowel movement, I have to get up to fetch water, and then my wife comes to wash it. This is good, as I prepare a pot of hot water in advance and can use it directly when needed.

To sum up, mothers have the hardest time during the confinement period. Mothers are the main force in taking care of their babies. I hope fathers will understand more and pay more! I hope all babies grow up healthily!

I hope my answer can help you!

Parenting Baby Tinker Bell, the newborn dad shares his parenting experience with you!

I quit my job when my wife got pregnant. Because my parents were a little old and couldn’t take care of my wife, so I quit my relatively high-paying job. Every day, I was like a waiter in a hotel, working hard. I first asked my wife what she wanted to eat today, and then went to the supermarket to buy the raw materials and make it myself. This continued until the child came out for confinement. I purchased a large amount of southern soup ingredients because my wife was not well fed and local confinement meals would put more pressure on her gastric digestive function. My daughter-in-law eats stuffedly when she wants to eat, and if she doesn’t like it, she makes me look bad and gets angry. Friends around me say that I spoil my daughter-in-law. I think it is not easy for men, and it is even more difficult for women. Whether it is a natural birth or a caesarean section, for women, it is a journey before death. It's right to be nice to your wife. Now that the child is four months old, I have no financial resources for the time being. My wife took the child and ran back to her parents' home, forcing me to go back to her parents' home with her. I said that I, a grown man, can't do it because I am the only parent. Son, how could I leave my parents and run thousands of miles away? After all, her parents are not far away, and there are at least two sisters in the daughter-in-law's family with her parents. Now I'm stuck, and I'm getting divorced. It doesn't matter, just feel sorry for yourself. How can you do whatever you want in this world, but please have a clear conscience!

My baby has just turned one month old and I have been helping my wife during confinement. [I had a flash of inspiration]. Don’t think of confinement as scary. Just find the right method and it’s easy. I’ll give you a set. I have worked out a set of experience methods and confinement tools, which makes confinement easy [like]

After my daughter-in-law came back from the hospital, she first paid attention to environmental hygiene. It only takes 30-60 minutes to clean the bedroom, mop the floor, wipe down the tables and chairs, and spray them with alcohol after cleaning.

Postpartum pregnant women are prone to sweating. If there is a local custom of not taking a bath, it is recommended to use dry hair to wipe the sweat from the wife, such as the back, armpits and other places. If you can take a bath, you must accompany your wife. It is best to shower rather than take a bath to prevent pregnant women from fainting suddenly.

If the daughter-in-law has a caesarean section and it is inconvenient for her to get up, she still needs to help finish feeding and apply medicine. I recommend a water-feeding artifact. It is very common to mention it, which is the screaming drink bottle. I just use this to feed my daughter-in-law water, which is convenient and will not choke her. [Flash of inspiration]

In terms of diet, don’t eat too much oil and water during confinement. Just eat light food, such as Wuhong soup, loofah and egg soup, apple and millet porridge, etc. Too greasy will block the milk and the baby will not be able to digest it.

In fact, it is best to take care of babies during the confinement period. There are only two things - hungry and diarrhea.

If you are hungry, it is recommended to continue breastfeeding. Breast milk is the best nutrition for your baby and can improve your baby's immunity. If the daughter-in-law's milk volume is not enough, she can use milk powder to assist feeding. Generally, 30-50 ml is enough.

Furthermore, it is necessary to wear the right amount of clothes for the baby, not too much, as it is easy to cover up eczema. Just touch the baby's feet frequently to make sure they are not cold. The baby should sleep close to the mother at night to ensure adequate body temperature.

It will be easier to handle if you poop, just change the diaper in time. When you hear the baby making noises (farting), you can check the status of the diaper after a while to see if it has peed or has a smelly stool. If it is not changed in time, the baby will have a red butt. You can also apply some red butt ointment or sesame oil on the baby (we are used to applying sesame oil in our hometown).

That is to say, feeding at night may make you sleepy. One thing to note is that the wife must put on clothes when feeding at night to prevent the mother from catching cold. Furthermore, prepare a constant-temperature kettle, which can prepare milk for the baby in time and reduce the crying of the baby, so that the baby can have a good sleep at night [Applause].

Confinement is a big event for women. Confinement is equivalent to a "rebirth". If the confinement is not done well, you may suffer from many confinement diseases. Therefore, for the husband, the wife needs to be very energetic during the confinement period to take care of the wife and the newborn. As for his wife’s confinement period, how did her husband survive it? I specifically asked my husband how he felt. How did you all survive your wife's confinement period?

I never felt that my husband was "suffering" during my confinement period. So when I asked my husband this question, his answer was really beyond my expectation.

My husband said that he was really exhausted during the confinement period. I gave birth to the baby in the delivery room, and he didn’t sleep a wink for two days. Although I hired a confinement nanny in the hospital, there were still many things to do. He needs to do it himself. After returning home, he took care of me and the baby at the same time. When the baby was asleep, he had to run to the supermarket to buy groceries. My husband said that he had never experienced such a fulfilling life, and basically his buttocks did not touch the floor the whole day.

During his wife’s confinement period, as a husband and father, he must take the lead in taking care of his wife and children. No matter how difficult it is, you have to get through it, and you can't complain to your mother in confinement.

My husband said that I was very small-minded during my confinement period. I would use a magnifying glass to magnify every little thing, and then I would shed tears silently. Maybe the mother who was in confinement at that time did not feel that she was stubborn and petty during confinement. In fact, this cannot be blamed on the mother. This is because progesterone has dropped significantly after giving birth, and the maternal endocrine system has not yet been adjusted. In addition, she is physically weak and has to breastfeed the baby, so she will be more psychologically sensitive (if you do not take care of the maternal feelings during the confinement period, It is easy to cause maternal postpartum depression).

Regarding the aspect of cohabitation between husband and wife, my husband said that he was so tired in the first half of the month that he had no bad thoughts at all. In addition, the puerperium lasted 42 days. For the sake of my health, there were no bad thoughts. I can only endure the thought.

So, for all you dads out there who are still in confinement, although your wife is in confinement for 30 days, her puerperal period is 42 days. The fastest time for vaginal delivery is 42 days after delivery, and the fastest time for caesarean section is two days. months later. Of course, for the sake of the mother's health, it is best to wait 2 months after normal delivery and 3 months after caesarean section.

Let’s talk about myself. The baby was born naturally. I was discharged after staying in the hospital for two days. My husband’s company is a small private company and cannot give me so many days of maternity leave. After I was discharged, he stayed with me at home for five days. Just went to work.

During the confinement period, I would nurse, change diapers, and hold the child to sleep all by myself. Sometimes, when the child cries in the middle of the night, I would feed the child myself, hold him, and walk around the room. I would try my best to get him to fall asleep as early as possible for fear of being disturbed. After my husband goes to bed, he has to get up early to go to work. She doesn't want to disturb the elderly. My mother-in-law is responsible for cleaning, buying vegetables, cooking and bathing the children.

Thirty days after the full moon, my mother-in-law returned to her hometown, and I was the only one taking care of the children the whole time. Many sisters around me have this experience. But we all have a problem, we tend to suffer from low back pain, and this is probably how we tire ourselves out. Therefore, if there are people in confinement at home, we should try to let them rest as much as possible and lie down as much as possible. Our parents have to boil a large pot of ginger water to bathe the mother every day for a whole month to drive away the cold. Mothers who are in confinement should rest more and drink more soup. In addition to feeding the children, other family caregivers should do as much as they can. Mothers who are in confinement and in good health can have more energy to take care of their children and family. Do not Like my sisters and I, when we bend down to wash our hair, we have to wait for a long time before we can straighten up.

Besides, many mothers still have lochia during confinement. Are you sure you can get rid of it?

Of course, it seems that there are some who are really willing to do it. I have heard of a young couple where the man asked to have sex when the woman was more than ten days old, but the lochia was already gone. , started bleeding intermittently again, and eventually caused an infection. It was the woman who suffered, and it was really not worth the loss.

During the confinement period, the woman’s uterus has not recovered due to childbirth, and there are still wounds in the uterine cavity. Sexual intercourse at this time will affect the normal recovery of the wounds, and at this time the woman’s immune function It is worse. Sexual intercourse will bring bacteria in and cause various infections. Therefore, you must not be too impatient during the confinement period. If you really love your wife, it is best to wait until two months after delivery. .

My baby was born vaginally. During the confinement period, the mother-in-law took care of the baby, changed diapers, and held the baby at night. Help me cook and wash clothes. When the baby cries, she takes her to another room so that I can get enough sleep and rest. To be honest, I am very grateful to my mother-in-law.

During his wife's confinement period, her husband said that he was more tired than he had been working for two years, and all the hair on his forehead fell out in a month.

During the confinement period, my husband took care of me. After I was 32 weeks pregnant, my husband began to rest with me until the baby was three months old. Therefore, my husband is deeply aware of the ups and downs of raising a baby. Experienced. Although we are very old, as new parents, we really have no experience at all, so raising a baby is much more difficult than imagined. The first night after my baby was born, because I had a caesarean section, I couldn't do anything but lie on the bed in a daze. My husband is responsible for everything about the baby. In his words, he never closed his eyes for a moment and was busy with his eyes open until dawn. The next day, the baby's jaundice was high, so he went to have a blue light treatment. My husband felt relaxed for eight days, but the real pain began on the ninth day when the baby was discharged from the hospital and returned home. The baby gave her husband a blow on the first night. She cried from nine o'clock in the evening to six o'clock in the morning. During this period, except for feeding and changing feces and urine, the baby was always held in the hands of her husband. I asked me to hold the baby for a while, but he didn’t want to. He said that the doctor told me not to hold the baby too much for fear of the wound opening.

Since the baby came back, we have been living a miserable life. In addition to cooking three meals for us every day, my husband also has to take care of everything for the baby. Although the baby in confinement has more time to sleep, he also has more things to do when he is not sleeping. He eats very close to each other and feeds every two hours. Once, clean the bottle before and after each feeding. The time for eating is tight, and the time for defecation is also long. I often change her diapers and then feed her. After feeding, I just put her on the bed and before I have time to wash the bottle, a stinky smell permeates the air. Well, her poop stinks. Well, my husband has been busy for a while. Anyway, our impression is that the confinement period is spent in a repeated cycle of breastfeeding, changing smelly, feeding again, and changing smelly again.

As soon as the baby came back and cried all night, she told us about her habit of not sleeping at night. So our baby has been active at night and slept during the day since confinement. My husband had to take care of the baby at night and cook and do housework during the day. During the confinement period, he basically didn't sleep much day and night.

If you ask him how he survived his wife's confinement, he will tell you: it was more tiring than his two years of work, and all the hair on his forehead fell out in a month.

Confinement is nothing to worry about. When my wife had her second child, I was under a lot of pressure. As a small Taobao boss, everyone thinks that I live a petty bourgeois life with plenty of time. In fact, I am so tired that I wake up very early in the morning. Cooking or buying breakfast, taking care of the older wife who cannot get out of bed with her second child, and the children who have difficulty getting up to cook and dress. Just say that they can’t put on their shoes 10 times, and then send them to school, and then buy groceries, cook in advance, and do Three meals, a child, a wife with different tastes, and a sick mother. During this period, my mobile phone was idle to chat and take orders, and the afternoon was intensively packed and shipped! I also have to pick up the children, cook, tutor the children in the evening, wash the children, do the dishes and clean up the house. If the children have training classes, I have to go to them. It’s a day’s workload for me alone. As an only child, I am the only one in the whole family who can run errands. Now I am so tired that I only sleep 4 hours a day. My child cries and goes to the toilet at night and I have to get up to serve him! People say that the special forces only have three weeks of devilish training. I can last three months and I will die every day! , I don’t know who is dissatisfied and come to compare! !