Is cohabitation after divorce helpless or unsatisfied?

Marriage needs a house, and divorce needs a house more. Have a house of your own, which is an indispensable shelter in the world. Many divorced couples have to continue to live under the same roof for various reasons. After the divorce, we will live together in the same room. Is it helpless or dissatisfied? A To wait for my daughter to come home, Xu Hong: Male, 48 years old, head of a foreign company. After my wife and I divorced, we remarried, but our two families still live under the same roof. The current living conditions are mainly for my baby daughter Xu Juan, and I hope she can come back and visit us one day. My ex-wife and I were introduced. /kloc-We got married in a hurry within 0/month, and our daughter was born the next year. After marriage, due to the great differences between the two sides, we inevitably quarrel often, and the cracks are getting bigger and bigger. Marriage is mainly maintained by our daughter. When I was 40 years old, I met my high school classmate Ying Huang. She was discharged from the army and came to Shenzhen. She is divorced and has a daughter. Maybe it's because my wife and I don't have a good relationship. I have a close relationship with Huang Ying. At first, I felt guilty about my wife. It didn't take me long to know that my wife was already outside. After several quarrels, we were going to get a divorce, but considering that our daughter was a senior three at that time, no one said anything. This awkward relationship was not broken until my daughter was a freshman. One weekend night of that summer vacation, as usual, I cooked several delicious and refreshing dishes and prepared beer and drinks outside. The difference is that my ex-wife and I are in a particularly heavy mood at this time. Only my daughter ate chicken feet with relish and said innocently, "Dad, you will cook chicken feet for me and my mother every Saturday night!" " "Listen to my daughter, my nose is sour, tears almost welled up in my eyes. The expression on his wife's face is strange, too, and she seems to have a feeling of anxiety. I calmed down a bit and said to my daughter awkwardly, "Juanjuan, I have to tell you something today. Your mother and I have been divorced for two years. In order not to affect your participation in the college entrance examination, we kept it from you. Now that you are a college student, you should be able to accept this reality. Starting from tomorrow, you and your mother will live in grandma's house. " "Why? "My daughter was shocked. She looked at us both puzzled. I don't know how to answer at the moment. The daughter was a little angry and shouted, "No! I won't let you divorce, I want to live with you! ".The ex-wife is a little impatient:" Juanjuan is obedient, or mom won't want you! " "My daughter didn't say anything, threw down her chopsticks and rushed out of the house, disappearing into the dark night. I found my daughter in a hotel. In her eyes, her father is a good person and her mother is also a good person. Both adults love her very much. Why do two good people who love her want to divorce? I know that if I tell my daughter the real reason for the divorce now, it will leave a bad result for her fragile psychology. I don't want my daughter to get hurt in this marriage tragedy. After all, she is innocent. My daughter gulped down a glass of beer and asked me, "Dad, why did you and mom divorce?" I was silent, and my daughter said sadly, "Dad, don't keep it from me. I know you all want to reunite a family. But what should I do? Have you considered my situation? " Looking at my mature daughter, I was silent for a while, and then tentatively asked, "Juanzi, will you blame Dad?" The daughter shook her head heavily: "No! But I really sympathize with you! " I didn't expect my daughter to be so tolerant to accept this reality. It seems that my daughter is not as fragile as I thought. A stone that has accumulated in my heart for several years finally falls to the ground, which is a sense of relief for me. However, I was wrong, and the child's heart was really hit hard. She didn't go home at first, listened to her classmates, often didn't go to class, and even took exams. No one could persuade her at that time. A week later, she suddenly came back to me and her mother and said, "Dad, Mom, if you really want a divorce, I can't stop you, but you must meet your daughter's condition that you must stay with me if you divorce." Otherwise, I will not be your daughter, and I will never come back to this home! "We know that our daughter has always been willful and can do whatever she says. On the one hand, our daughter is very tough, and we are afraid that something will happen to her. On the other hand, we can't afford to buy another house in the short term. So, we agreed to our daughter's almost harsh requirements. The next day, we separated the original three-bedroom and two-bedroom house from the front. Because it is on the first floor, my ex-wife and daughter come in and out from the front door of the house, and I open the door in the backyard. Divorced and never left home, we spent half a year like this. Unable to resist Huang Ying's urgent request for marriage, I remarried, and my ex-wife is also going to wait until her daughter graduates from college. At the beginning of my remarriage, my daughter came home almost every day, but she didn't want to accompany her mother, but went to "torture" my new wife Ying Huang. Ying Huang is afraid of bugs. Juanjuan put all kinds of bugs in Ying Huang's bag and clothes pocket from time to time, and then hid in different places to listen to her scream. Huang Ying is really scared. Sometimes her face turns white because of fear. Huang Ying has a headache and insomnia. Her daughter often invites a large group of classmates to play at home on weekends. It is midnight. My daughter tried her best to plan all kinds of practical jokes. Sometimes her mother and I think it's a little too much, but we are all forbearing, hoping that our children will accept the reality one day. But our hopes were finally dashed. When the daughter learned that her mother was going to remarry and live with an inexplicable brother, she disappeared again. Our two families are in a hurry. We have started all the relationships, and we can't find them everywhere. Finally, she reported the case to the police, published "Looking for You" in the newspaper, and finally found her in a place rented by one of her classmates, but she still refused to go home. When I graduated, my daughter asked me and her mother to go to school and said that she had something to tell us. We hurried to school, and she told us with an employment notice from a unit in Heilongjiang that she would leave us, go far away and never come back to this home. She said that she didn't let us live separately just to "punish" our selfishness, but in the end she was hurt. Now my father has a daughter and my mother has a son. Neither of them is her compatriot. She'd better disappear. Although my ex-wife and I tried our best to persuade her, she left, even without a hukou, and moved to Harbin without nostalgia. Now she has been away from home for almost a year. Although she occasionally called to say hello to us, she never came back. In order to wait for her to come back, our two families made great concessions and reached an agreement. The ex-wife remarried and built her own building. I also bought a luxurious duplex building by mortgage, but neither of us proposed to move. For the sake of our daughter, our two families still live in a room less than 120 square meters, waiting for our daughter to come home. She became the threshold for my remarriage. Mo Jun, 35, a bank clerk, although I married my ex-wife, now she has nothing to do with me except my son's mother, because we divorced three years ago. To my pain, for various reasons, we still live in the same apartment and live together day and night. Although our marriage is not respectful and pleasant, everything has changed since I went to college at night. I have classes four nights a week, so I spend much less time at home than before. Accustomed to the step-by-step life of husband and wife, she showed extreme dissatisfaction with this, and later even suspected that my classmates and I were "lovers." This ridiculous idea will often make her do things that embarrass everyone, and it will hurt me. After two years of studying at night university, our five-year marriage has come to an end. The court ruled that my son should be raised by me and the house should be half. That is, my son and I share a room, she shares a room and uses it everywhere else. I think it will be a kind of torture for everyone to get along day and night, so I put forward the idea of giving this house to one person, and I will buy her half or she will buy me half. But she refused without thinking. I had a vague feeling in my heart at that time. Sure enough, trouble will come soon. Whenever an outsider comes to my house, she will naturally pose as the hostess. Sadly, she became the threshold for me to step into the marriage hall again. I met Maggie the year after my divorce. We hit it off and even got married, but our ex-wife spared no effort to block the way of our happy life. Maggie came to my house to play, and her ex-wife was jealous, so she pretended to be the hostess and talked about things. Or throw things for no reason, pointing fingers at mulberry. One night, I was preparing dinner when someone rang the doorbell outside the door. As soon as the door opened, Maggie came in with a big bouquet of lilies. She kissed first, called "Jun", and then handed me the flowers. When his ex-wife saw her and asked her if she had eaten, Maggie shook her head gently. The ex-wife quickly added two bowls of rice, greeted Maggie warmly and said, "I am your ex-wife." Sorry, we still live together after the divorce. Please eat with us! " During the dinner, my ex-wife and Maggie talked and laughed, telling me interesting stories about my childhood, telling me about my good and bad, and keeping silent about "I am a smelly man." My voice is sweet, not like a divorce. That meal became my hardest time. I lost my appetite and sat there watching my stomach turn sour. I can't get in a word at all. I really want to slam the door and leave, but is it rude to think about it? Maggie was sensible enough to leave after dinner. I got up to see Maggie off and explained to her. My ex-wife stopped me and said bluntly, "It's dark outside, so don't send it, just let me." You look as if you are thinking of me. The ex-wife turned and closed the door before being sent to the stairwell. I can't bear to yell at her, "Why do you interfere in my life? You are unreasonable! " She turned to me and said, "I'm unreasonable. What about you?" You bring a woman in before I leave, and you can't get married before I find someone! "Later, Maggie and I often came in, and my ex-wife followed. Maggie came to my house once, and I burned my hand while serving soup. Ex-wife makes a fuss, help me apply medicine. Maggie and I were chatting on the balcony, and my ex-wife had the cheek to listen. My eyes flew into the bug, and my ex-wife blew my eyes with my face in front of Maggie. Over and over again, Maggie began to call me less and come to my house for dinner once a week instead of once a month. Gradually, she seldom came. The most unbearable thing is that she ran to Maggie's office and shouted, "That shameless woman stole my husband!" " "In addition, my ex-wife also provoked the children behind my back and said," If you have a stepmother, you will definitely be bullied by her in the future! " One day, Maggie came to my house and said, "If you want to marry me, besides your ex-wife, you also have your son. You must make your son accept me. " I called my son to Maggie and said to him, "This is your aunt Maggie. She will be your new mother in the future." Who knows, the son said rudely, "I have a mother." I don't want this new mother, you shameless woman, divorcing my parents. You will never want to be my new mother. " Mom says my stepmother is the most vicious. With you, I will definitely not have a good life in the future. Maggie was so sad that she covered her face and ran away. Maggie finally left me, but I understand Maggie. Who can stand my ex-wife's hysterical revenge? Therefore, even if my favorite girlfriend reappears in my life in the future, I dare not act rashly. We found our old love Song Fang, a 27-year-old girl. He Qiang, an employee of an Internet company, is the deputy director of the Digital Design Office. I met He Qiang because he introduced me to this good job. I didn't know he was arrogant, irritable and vain until I got married. After stumbling for a long time, he stopped doing any housework and was always bossing me around. After all, there is a limit to patience, and the war between two people begins endlessly. He Qiang's mother came to live 1 month. When he left, He Qiang gave his mother 1000 yuan without telling me. We had a big fight about it. He Qiang said that I was not good to my mother-in-law. No cooking, no washing, full of complaints. I think He Qiang is very picky about eggs and deliberately finds fault. Finally, we started to divorce. I said in anger, "You're gone, you can get by, I can get by. Why do you have to fight for it? "At first I wanted to go to the court to divide the property, but I didn't go at last. I'm very proud. As long as He Qiang doesn't push me to the wall, forget it, because neither of us can afford another house. After deciding to divorce, He Qiang and I both felt a little regretful. With the predestination and feelings before marriage, we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to sign a divorce agreement: we will not divide the property and live together in one room temporarily after divorce. On the night of the formal divorce, He Qiang invited me to a restaurant for dinner. He ordered several famous dishes and good wine without asking the price, which really scared me. I said, "He Qiang, what are you crazy about?" He stared at me stiffly, and then said, "Just let me have fun!" "oh! I remember. I always say he is too stingy. I said, "I'm divorced, what are you betting on!" " He Qiang said: "I am not angry, I am sincere, and I always feel that our divorce seems to be a mistake." We didn't eat much, but a meal cost him more than 600 yuan. After dinner, I was going to go by car alone. He Qiang waved and stopped a taxi. We rode home together, without talking or hugging, and went into our rooms and slept separately. On the first night of breaking up, I looked smug and played with the green divorce certificate symbolizing freedom, detailing the reasons for divorcing him: "I don't get up in the morning, just cover the quilt, only eat without cooking dinner, only wash dishes without brushing, and don't rush home from work; Taking a long bath, putting razors in disorder, stuffing dirty socks, and littering books, periodicals and newspapers; You listen to him at once, and he doesn't care at all what you say; A man who is stingy with his wife and angry with his mother should have left long ago! "Counting, I fell asleep. However, without He Qiang, problems followed. One night, the power went out. I looked for it for a long time, but I couldn't find a candle or even a lighter. I don't want He Qiang to call me and tell me that there is a flashlight in the drawer under the bookcase. I asked him where he was now. How do you know there is no electricity at home? He said that he was in an Internet cafe, and the neighbor children who came to play in the Internet cafe said that there was a power outage in our community. I quickly opened the drawer and saw that it was a small gift from him, a small flashlight played by a child. At that time, I thought he was too stingy and threw it away. I didn't realize it was so important to me now. A week later, I jumped ship and went to an Internet company to do multimedia business. At noon that day, I went home to cook, and the gas suddenly ran out. I want to know who to ask to help me change it. I didn't know to go home at night, but I accidentally found that the gas stove could be lit again. Look at the living room again. It seems much cleaner. I think he Qiang must have come back. It's been almost a month since the divorce. One morning, I was preparing to attend an important working meeting. Suddenly, my mobile phone rang and there was a short message: "My period is coming. Pay attention to rest "Oh, almost forget yourself, hurriedly brought sanitary napkins. At the noon banquet, the "holiday" really came. If He Qiang hadn't reminded me, I would have been in a big mess. These things one after another remind me of the benefits of He Qiang, so careful and so gentle. Why didn't I realize it before? And always annoying him. Now he and I have parted ways, but my heart is always empty and I always feel something is missing. I'm beginning to wonder if we made a big mistake in getting divorced. In summer, in addition to a comfortable bed, my bedroom is equipped with a Gree air conditioner. That's what He Qiang put on for me when he saw that I was always so hot and sweaty. He said he was a man and could sleep naked with the door open, but it was inconvenient for me. Every time he is not at home, I find out how deeply I feel for him. One night after a year of divorce, I suddenly wanted to find something in my bedroom, opened my suitcase and found the pile of love letters written by He Qiang. Looking at it, I suddenly began to cry. In the year of divorce, I always thought I was living alone. In fact, He Qiang has always been by my side, in my heart. Our feelings warmed up after the divorce. That night, because it was too hot, He Qiang slept with the door open. I sneaked into his room and slept quietly beside him. When He Qiang woke up, I held his face in my hands and murmured, "Qiang, tomorrow, let's go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to re-register for marriage, ok?" He Jiang listened, hugged me tightly and didn't let go all night.