Wretched female passenger male begged not to be exposed. How did such a wretched man practice?

65438+February 19, a female passenger in Xi' an shouted "pervert" and claimed that she had been molested by a man. After the bus driver heard it, he caught the man in time and the police came to take him away. After the man went to the police station, he asked for exposure and said that he didn't fight or get married. Everyone knows about this exposure.

For this matter, everyone is indignant, saying that this love rat should be exposed, and that this love rat is still going to get married, so don't harm other girls!

Every time I hear such news, I feel angry. This man is an exhibitionist!

Just ten days ago, on the evening of February 7, 65438, Ms. Xu, who was waiting at a bus stop in Shenzhen, met an exhibitionist.

Ms. Xu said that when waiting for the bus with her companions at the bus stop, the man standing by actually pulled the pants chain open for them, revealing her lower body.

This is still an event that we can see from the Internet. Where we can't see, there are too many exposure events that we don't know.

Some commentators said: generally, this kind of pervert wants to get psychological satisfaction by scaring girls!

Not only exhibitionists, it is often heard that a public toilet in a shopping mall is equipped with cameras to spy on women going to the toilet.

Or so-and-so hotel found a camera peeping or something.

Why on earth did these peeping tom become like this?

And everyone can't become a wretched man and a pervert in one step.

Although I am angry at their behavior, I think it is a disease. If it is a disease, there will be a cause. So when was their career buried?

Because of this, I went to check the relevant information on purpose.

It is a high-speed period and a very special stage to discover that a person is about three to six years old, which is called "sexual germination period" in psychology.

It is the education at this stage that is very important, and improper education will have a very great negative impact.

Sexual bud stage

How did the wretched man come into being?

Some time ago, I often went for a walk with my neighbors, and my son had a particularly good time with their little sweetheart.

But what is particularly embarrassing is that every time sweetheart pees, her son will come over and watch it, which is particularly curious.

I'm sure everyone has encountered something similar. In fact, this is the curiosity of children after they begin to realize the difference between men and women, and it is also a particularly distinctive feature of sexual curiosity in the budding period.

Why is my penis protruding and hers flat? At this time, children will especially want to observe what the genitals of the opposite sex are like.

Children are particularly simple, and we adults think differently. At this time, some parents will say:

what are you reading? Awkward. You are a disgrace.

At this time, our children will feel ashamed, and girls will feel that they have done heinous things, which is easy to produce the view of "sexual sin" and easy to form "sexual indifference" when they grow up.

Boys, on the other hand, are prone to rebellion and voyeurism in adulthood, which is a kind of peeping tom that we often know.

Some old people take care of their children and are especially proud of having a grandson. They often tease their children's penis.

So that some children will be particularly proud of having penises, especially when they find that girls don't have them. Some boys will deliberately show off in front of adults, such as shooting high urine. This is another feature of children's sexual psychological development, "sexual pride".

Many parents will also feel ashamed and beat and scold their children. At this time, the child's rebellious mentality is suppressed, and it is easy to form an "exposure addiction" when he grows up.

Sexual bud stage

The attitude our parents should have.

Don't you think it's amazing that such a disgusting pervert and wretched man should have buried hidden dangers at such a young age?

Sometimes parents' attitude towards sex or sexual organs will directly affect their children and affect the establishment of their impressions and attitudes towards sex when they grow up. So what should we parents do?

In fact, it is natural for children to be curious about sex organs. When we find children staring at each other or even touching each other, we should stop it, but we must pay attention to our attitude.

You must not scold more and scold less, but reason with your children and guide them correctly.

We can tell our children:

Baby, this is the secret triangle that mom told you. This is your little secret. You can't just show it to others. Similarly, we can't just look at or touch other people's little secrets!

We need to satisfy children's curiosity. We can let parents of the opposite sex take a bath with their children before they are three or four years old.

When children see this, they will not care too much after psychological satisfaction, and will naturally develop into the next psychological stage.

We don't need to be too harsh on children who are sexually proud. We can calmly say to the children:

We can't pee anywhere! This is unsanitary!

If you have the opportunity, you can also tell your child that boys have dicks and girls have dicks. Boys are protruding and girls are flat. They just look different.

Sexual bud stage

Two other characteristics of children's sexual psychology

Children masturbation and gender identity confusion are two other characteristics of this period.

Children around the age of three are curious not only about the genitals of the opposite sex, but also about their own genitals. They get pleasure by playing with genitals and form masturbation.

Like many children's leg clamping phenomenon at present, it belongs to children's masturbation.

We don't need to panic or beat and scold when we find this bad habit of children. Otherwise, it is easy to be psychologically attacked and form the concept of "sex-based crime". Most of them are also related to impotence, premature ejaculation or frigidity when they grow up.

We must understand that children's sexual games are different from adults' sexual desires, and they can't understand and experience them from the bottom of their hearts.

All we need to do is gently divert our attention. For example, you can say to your child:

Do you remember anything interesting when your brother was standing? Can you talk to me?

It itches a little here. Isn't it because we haven't bathed for a while? Let's take a bath. You can play with your duckling in the future.

Children around the age of three also began to distinguish between boys and girls. At this time, you must tell your child accurately that you are a boy and grow up to be like a father. As a girl, you will grow up to be like your mother.

Remember not to dress up your child as a boy or a girl because of your own preferences, otherwise it will easily lead to confusion in your child's gender identity, and homosexuality, transvestite and transsexuality may occur in adulthood.

Parental education is very important.

The education of sex buds is really a matter of children's life. As parents, we must study more and try not to let our children affect the future because of our relationship.

Then some parents will say, Oh, I didn't understand it before. It seems that I have done this to my children, so I am very anxious.

We don't have to worry too much. Generally speaking, our children have strong self-healing ability, so we can observe whether children have different performances.

If you have certain abnormal performance, you can seek scientific help and slowly adjust your child's behavior.

As for some obscene male perverts, their psychology has become morbid. My suggestion is to seek formal psychological counseling and treatment.

Otherwise, it will affect marriage and even the happiness of life.

May all our parents realize the importance of education, and may there be no such psychopathy in the future.

Author: Yu Ang in her pocket, freelance writer, second-born mother who loves words. Wechat: Yu Yan _ Ang