Children just want to play

Children Just Have to Play. TV and media discuss one after another of parenting views; books, newspapers and magazines display rows and rows of new parenting knowledge. The level of information explosion far exceeds the scope of human imagination. It is always a challenge for you and me to face the parenting difficulties of our children. However, when some parents try to find a set of parenting rules, those theories that are clear-cut and sympathetic start to make people unable to adapt, causing parenting anxiety, and the parent-child relationship may also be messed up. "Parenting does not require theory, because every child is different." Wang Hongzhe, the focus of this issue, said. This is also the conclusion and experience he gained after 14 years of clinical work, contact with about 120,000 infants and children, and years of observation and revision! Children just want to play

It is hard to imagine Wang Hongzhe, who looks very young and has a baby face, saying from his mouth: "This is my fourteenth year of clinical work. The children I have come into contact with About 120,000 people. ”

I think that if parents have more than two children at home, they may never figure out why the children have different personalities. (It is also possible that the only child has made many parents miserable). After all, the parenting attitudes of father and mother are different, and the parenting views of parents and elders are also different. What is the situation like after having come into contact with 120,000 children with different temperaments? ?

As a result, Wang Hongzhe, the CEO of the Sensory Integrated Child Development Center, a gifted leader, decided to combine his practical experience accumulated through many years of interaction with different children with the same experience of raising two little babies. It combines empirical scientific concepts and specific parenting methods for parents' reference and application.

Despite the pressure of delays, he came up with a practical parenting book. According to Wang Hongzhe, in order to write a book that would make it easy for parents to raise children, he was so eager to face the publishing house that he always delayed the manuscript again and again, just like He mentioned to me: "The focus of my work for many years has been to make children happy!" Because as long as children are happy, many learning problems will often be solved. He hopes that through this book, he wants to tell parents: "Don't worry Use (the content of this book), you can play with your children like this!"

Faced with the dazzling array of parenting theories and the explosion of information, Wang Hongzhe said: "Parenting books worry me the most, whether they are local or foreign. Foreign translations often believe that all children can be raised in this way based on the experience of raising one or two children. This is also the scariest thing, but not every concept takes into account that children are independent. It’s an individual matter, and each child’s innate temperament is different. For example, some children are more active and some are less active; some are sensitive and some are insensitive; some are distracted and some are focused. Every child is different. "

This makes Wang Hongzhe feel that the increase in parenting books has made parents more confused, "Every concept seems correct, but what should I do? How to do it?" So he compiled the concepts he gained from long-term observations of Taiwanese children and parents into a parenting book suitable for Taiwanese parents. "Use this book to distinguish what kind of characteristics children have and what methods can be used to teach these children. , and there will not be only one method." Wang Hongzhe said.

The focus of my job is to make children happy! Children just have to play. TV and media discuss one after another of parenting views; books, newspapers and magazines display rows and rows of new parenting knowledge. The degree of information explosion far exceeds the scope of human imagination, and it always challenges you and me to face. Difficulties in educating children. However, when some parents try to find a set of parenting rules, those theories that are clear-cut and sympathetic start to make people unable to adapt, causing parenting anxiety, and the parent-child relationship may also be messed up. "Parenting does not require theory, because every child is different." Wang Hongzhe, the focus of this issue, said. This is also the conclusion and experience he gained after 14 years of clinical work, contact with about 120,000 infants and children, and years of observation and revision!

Don’t rush to teach your children, just play. In addition, Wang Hongzhe, as a teacher of the Greater Taipei Nanny Association, also observed that everyone, whether they are new parents or nannies, is already very good at raising children. , but they all face the same problem: "As children grow older, adults don't know what to play with their children? The so-called golden triangle is: games, education, environment or diet. "Play" is something that begins when children are young. The five-year-old stage is very important, and children must learn through games.” That’s why he wanted to write an “evidence-based” brain science game, which is also a clinical medical game, and it is also a book for parents and parents. Simple games that are easy for children to play and allow parents to correctly inspire their children's physical and mental development.

The new book does not emphasize IQ learning, from emotional cultivation (EQ), frustration improvement (AQ) to creative intelligence (CQ), and uses this principle to design and implement it into parent-child games. Wang Hongzhe further pointed out: "It is necessary to Let parents feel that this is a "useful" game, not just a "fun" game, but "Have Fun" is the intrinsic motivation to attract children to play, so it is also important to screen the games. "So every chapter and every game is important. After one chapter, there are "Small Games You Can Do" divided by age groups, which are also practical sharings of Wang Hongzhe's work experience. He is very proud to say: "Each game has been actually used in clinical experience. "It's too late" is not a wild theory.

Furthermore, in the past, there were many siblings in society, and many childhood games often involved playing and learning with peers. Although Wang Hongzhe always reminded parents to "please find a playmate for your child in advance", in order to fully understand Through the process of group games, children can naturally learn social skills, and they will have less difficulty in adapting when they enter kindergarten in the future. However, the trend of reducing the birthrate is the trend, so he constantly encourages parents to play group games with their children at the same time, so that the children will naturally have the concept of "you, me, and him" and let the children learn interpersonal interaction from games and action memories.

When adults play games with children, they are virtually observing the children. Children just have to play. TV and media discuss one after another of parenting views; books, newspapers and magazines display rows and rows of new parenting knowledge. The degree of information explosion far exceeds the scope of human imagination, and it always challenges you and me to face. Difficulties in educating children. However, when some parents try to find a set of parenting rules, those theories that are clear-cut and sympathetic start to make people unable to adapt, causing parenting anxiety, and the parent-child relationship may also be messed up. "Parenting does not require theory, because every child is different." Wang Hongzhe, the focus of this issue, said. This is also the conclusion and experience he gained after 14 years of clinical work, contact with about 120,000 infants and children, and years of observation and revision!

Let me do this for easy parenting. In fact, I asked Wang Hongzhe curiously: "Are you worried that this book will cause parents a different kind of anxiety?" He said: "My purpose is to tell parents about easy parenting. Many novice parents are relatively inexperienced and often go online to seek answers. The piles of experts’ opinions often make people feel at a loss, but I hope everyone can have a relaxed parenting without too much pressure.”

Wang Hongzhe further said that the book There is a child development checklist attached to the book. If there are no development or learning problems, parents can use natural games to understand their children's growth, shorten their children's problem behaviors, and improve their children's development. For example, children aged two to three are also the time when separation anxiety is strongest (Editor's note: Children with separation anxiety problems cannot leave their primary caregiver, cannot sleep alone, and may not like going to school.

< p> Quoted from "Teaching Children More Important Things Than IQ"), at this time, adults can play hide-and-seek games with children repeatedly to let children understand the concept of object permanence. It turns out that things (or people) are gone, but they are still there. Will come back again. According to Wang Hongzhe’s experience, through the guidance of games, children’s separation anxiety will gradually improve after four to six months.

Game learning involves both playing and observing. On the contrary, when adults play games with children, they are virtually observing the children, observing their growth and development, behaviors, processing abilities, emotional representations, etc. On the other hand, they are also observing the children. Reduce parents’ worries and reduce parents’ excessive worries about whether their children have ADHD, autism and other issues. For example, children in early childhood are prone to be curious about everything, run up and down, and have no time to spare. However, in modern living The environment is narrow, which often prevents many energetic children from getting sufficient activities from the vast space. They often become restless and search for sensation. If parents fail to intervene and deal with it in a timely manner, children will often suffer from learning interference in preschool. Phenomenon, or poor interpersonal relationships, etc., the extended time will have a wider impact.

Wang Hongzhe pointed out: "There is a thin line between being active and hyperactive, and there is also a thin line between autism and shyness. In the medical field, hyperactivity tends to be less, and hyperactivity tends to be more. On the contrary, autism The same is true for shyness, we hope to design some games to provide parents with how to guide active and shy children." This is from the perspective of preventive medicine. The purpose is to reduce the waste of medical resources and allow parents to observe the behavioral development of their children through games and provide appropriate games***. However, no matter how the children play through the games, they will still be the same. A medical professional should be consulted for further evaluation. Children just have to play. TV and media discuss one after another of parenting views; books, newspapers and magazines display rows and rows of new parenting knowledge. The degree of information explosion far exceeds the scope of human imagination, and it always challenges you and me to face. Difficulties in educating children. However, when some parents try to find a set of parenting rules, those theories that are clear-cut and sympathetic start to make people unable to adapt, causing parenting anxiety, and the parent-child relationship may also be messed up. "Parenting does not require theory, because every child is different." Wang Hongzhe, the focus of this issue, said. This is also the conclusion and experience he gained after 14 years of clinical work, contact with about 120,000 infants and children, and years of observation and revision!

Don’t underestimate the many functions of childhood games. The advancement of globalization has made information flow without borders, and so does parenting knowledge. We often see how mothers from certain countries raise good children, but we forget to think about the fact that many childhood games are interesting and fun throughout the ages, and even have unexpected learning functions.

Therefore, Wang Hongzhe likes to emphasize parent-child games, classify them according to children’s development milestones, and design different games for babies of different ages (divided into 1 to 3 years old, 4 to 6 years old, and 7 years old and above), which are interesting What's more, after reading the whole book, people feel like "Isn't this a game we often played in the past?"

Wang Hongzhe sighed: "Many people don't pay attention to the previous games, like an eagle catching a chicken. You will develop empathy.

Because when you are an eagle, you will empathize with the eagle and try to catch the chicks hiding behind the hens. However, children with poor empathy will only want to fight against the hens and forget to catch the chicks. From the game, children learn the roles of eagle, hen, and chick, experience different feelings, and know whether I am here to catch people, protect people, or be protected. There are many functional functions for children's development in the game. .

In addition to games, pretending to be a house drinker is also related to many social situations. To put it simply, it means whether the child has white eyes and whether he can look at other people's faces. Children over two years old can play simple pretend When everyone is drinking, he will pretend to raise a cup to drink water and look at you happily. In the future, he will become more and more diverse as he plays. He will know what food the chef character needs to cook. If he is a doctor character, he will hold the receiver or substitute the food. Dolls get injections, etc... When adults feel that pretending to be a house wine is very childish, this game helps children practice different mental development. As a result, modern children spend most of their time studying, with less gaming experience and fewer companions. ”

Ignoring the learning that readily available games can bring to children***, Wang Hongzhe also made it clear that many children feel good about themselves. In fact, through many games repeatedly, they can relatively improve their self-centeredness. Children's behavior, promotes children's brain learning and lays the foundation for character. Therefore, he also hopes that this book can also be used as a reference by many educators to observe children's acuity more, or to have more ideas to lead children in group games, and to further understand children's developmental behaviors. Children just have to play. TV and media discuss one after another of parenting views; books, newspapers and magazines display rows and rows of new parenting knowledge. The degree of information explosion far exceeds the scope of human imagination, and it always challenges you and me to face. Difficulties in educating children. However, when some parents try to find a set of parenting rules, those theories that are clear-cut and sympathetic start to make people unable to adapt, causing parenting anxiety, and the parent-child relationship may also be messed up. "Parenting does not require theory, because every child is different." Wang Hongzhe, the focus of this issue, said. This is also the conclusion and experience he gained after 14 years of clinical work, contact with about 120,000 infants and children, and years of observation and revision!

Empathy experts are also constantly learning from Wang Hongzhe, who has been in contact with 120,000 children. After he became a father, he did not rely on others to bathe, feed, prepare non-staple food, etc. He frankly admitted that he had become a parent. Later I realized that it was really tiring, and I could sympathize with the hard work of every parent. In the past, I would tell parents: "What can you do now? We will discuss it when it doesn't work." Now I spend more time on parenting. Consultation, "Who is not tired of raising children? Of course, it will be tiring, but the children will also mature. You have taught some things, the children know it, and they will follow the rules. That is the sense of accomplishment for the parents. The child is just a blank slate. What his personality will become is what his parents taught him, and then he will feel that it is all worth it!" Wang Hongzhe said.

How should Wang Hongzhe, who is always consulted by others, deal with his own parenting complications?