Why is it said, "Don't ask others if you can solve things yourself?"

There is a basic principle in Japanese education:

This article is included in the first section of the first chapter of "Social Life Education".

In Japanese culture, not causing trouble to others is the first principle in doing things. It is also for this reason that we often hear such words in Japanese film and television works.

Here, I don’t want to praise how good Japan is. After all, “not causing trouble to others” will also lead to many dumbfounding things.

In the Japanese love action film industry, some actresses do not know the specific situation before filming. When they entered the studio, they found that the director, actors, photography, lighting, etc. had already been prepared. So a large group of people began to persuade them how hard it was to get ready and how difficult it was. At this time, this girl will reluctantly compromise because of her deep-rooted desire to "not cause trouble to others."

Of course, this may only be part of the reason.

Compared with Japan’s “don’t cause trouble for others”, it seems that we are more inclined to “don’t cause trouble for ourselves”.

Some people even tend to "trouble others if they can."

Doctrine is the moral standard of Confucianism in my country, which means:

But in real life, it seems that most people have gone astray.

After all, asking others and getting answers directly is a very worry-free and labor-saving thing.

Speaking of which, I would like to ask, the Internet has been popular for so many years, is it difficult to search and Baidu?

It is true that there are many active Lei Feng on the Internet and in life, but can you not squander the goodwill of others to you?

I am not specifically referring to this, but I want to say this to everyone:

Because predecessors have already provided enough tools and methods.

Some people would rather blindly ask the people around them when they encounter a problem than try to find the answer themselves.

Once or twice, maybe someone else will help you. But as time goes by, even if you don’t say it, your mind will despise you.

During the first half of the substitute class, there was a student in the class who particularly liked to ask questions:

As time went by, I felt something was wrong. At the same time, I found that whenever he encountered new words, he was not the first to ask questions. Take the time to look it up, but ask. What surprised me the most was that there was an English dictionary on his desk.

Later, with my repeated efforts, he finally developed the habit of looking up new words in the dictionary.

When I was in college, I often encountered some speechless questions.

The saddest time was when a classmate asked me what types of questions were included in CET-4. I said it seemed to have been reformed now and I was not sure. Ask him to check it out on the official website or find a set of real questions.

As a result, hearing his tone, he was a little unhappy.

Sure enough, after I sent him the link to the official website, he said happily:

"Thank you! I have been looking for it for a long time and I can't find it!"

Forgive me for not being able to describe my feelings at that time in words.

No, I am about to take the postgraduate entrance examination, so naturally I have to find some relevant information and mingle in major forums to dig for gold.

Then I saw a lot of magical posts:

To be honest, should I praise the people who posted these posts for being naive?

Such questions can be found on Baidu, school official websites, and tutoring agency websites! In addition, how can others help you answer your questions?

Faced with such a problem, I have no temper, and I don’t even have the desire to click on it.

At the very least, should you check it yourself before asking?

I don’t deny that some people really don’t understand, but aren’t most people just asking because they are too lazy to think about it?

We generally use three words to call such people:

In fact, it is a very important ability to filter out useful information from thousands of information and integrate it, that is ：

Resource integration ability

For example, when collecting postgraduate entrance examination materials, after confirming the school and major, it is natural to first search for the most reliable and comprehensive place for information - the school's official website.

By searching the school’s official website, I roughly obtained information about examination subjects, reference books, enrollment numbers, tutor information, tuition fees, etc.

PS: In fact, some basic information is available online in graduate admissions information. (Those who are taking the postgraduate entrance exam should not take the exam if they don’t know this website)

Okay, now that you have the basic information, let’s solve the exam questions.

Since it is an exam, there must be question types and scopes. Generally speaking, the school will not release the real test questions. What will be released are the recall versions of the senior brothers and sisters’ summaries after the test. but! There is no shortage of willing people, and there is no shortage of capable institutions and organizations that can get the real questions. At this time, all you have to do is visit all the major forums and search for experience posts.

After that, you will find that there are many live Lei Feng who will tell you all the real questions, materials, experiences, etc.

Some experience posts will also include your contact information, through which you can learn more information. Maybe, you can also get access to some inside information.

At this point, the basic postgraduate entrance examination information search process is completed.

The same is true for writing. When I feel that I have reached a bottleneck in my writing, I will specifically look for where the problem lies.

For example:

After that, you can get a lot of information. Through the analysis, organization and digestion of the data, it becomes your own.

The initial stage of learning must be imitation, and anyone who is good will imitate. And continue to improve your writing skills and exercise your thinking ability.

When you can completely control your articles, you will form your own unique writing style.

If the avenues are connected and you find the right breakthrough point, the problem will be solved naturally.

A good person should understand the meaning of real connections - equivalent exchange.

You are not allowed to waste your own time, and you are not allowed to waste other people's time. Either one is shameful.

People who encounter problems and ask others what's going on without thinking about it can't even do the most basic independent thinking. What else can they think about?

Let me make a bold guess. People who seek help whenever they encounter trouble have an extreme lack of self-confidence and a sense of responsibility. In other words, there is no responsibility. Because the solution to the problem comes from others, even if the final result is not satisfactory, you can comfort yourself while shifting the responsibility to the other person:

For the same problem, if you can think ahead and make a solution If you listen to suggestions later, you will be seen as eager to learn rather than ignorant.

In fact, most of life experience can be found on Baidu. However, professional questions often require professionals to answer them.

This also involves respecting and affirming the value of other people’s time. After all, no one is obligated to answer your questions. If you find the other person's answer valuable, please thank it wholeheartedly. If the person does solve your problem, take action instead of just saying thank you.

Many things in life are really related to personality.

Some people will always feel that they will not trouble others if they can, and some people will feel that they will trouble others as much as they can.

There is a saying:

I believe that as long as it is my own contribution and my own efforts, I will definitely be rewarded.

Even if you can't see the immediate feedback, it will definitely be returned to you in a special way at a certain time and place.

Take myself as an example, I will reply to every reader who comments on the article.

I would like to express my gratitude to those who support me because they encourage me.

I would like to express my gratitude to my critics for pointing out the problems.

Thank you to those who complained about me because they have finished reading the article.

If others respect me, I will give them back.

Value your own time, respect the time of others, and trust others to do the same.

Learn to think independently and optimize resource integration.

In a sense, "Don't ask others if you can solve things yourself" is also an opportunity for us to improve our own value.