A little parting is better than a wedding;

A little parting is better than a wedding;

Emotional choice 1:

Distance produces beauty.

The first time I heard this, it was in the video hall at the gate. The name of this film is Addiction, and the protagonist of the story is dialect and Dumei. It's interesting to think of it. When they got the marriage certificate, the civil administration was very efficient and stamped with a red seal. The dialect says, "Why? Finished? " The stamped old woman said, "Well, that's it. What do you want? " By the time they got the divorce certificate, they were in the same place and working in the same office. This procedure and that procedure failed several times. It was right to think about it later, not to say that "it is better to destroy one temple than to tear down ten temples." China people have a tradition of China descent, but this has nothing to do with corruption.

Get down to business and talk about distance.

The film has been shown countless times, and I have watched it seven times; Finally, when Dialect and Dumei embraced each other in the big classroom, the word "love" was written all over the blackboard. The story was compiled by the author himself, and the author of the story, Wang Shuo, compiled more than 8000 words a day. When I watched it for the seventh time, tears could not stop spinning in my eyes, although the same pain still sank from my throat to the bottom of my stomach. Jumping out of emotional entanglements will naturally turn to rational thinking. It was the breakup that opened the distance between them, and it was also the distance that made them discover the deep love that was originally hidden in their hearts. Maybe it's a matter of time, breaking up-distance-discovery, sooner or later; That's the author's business. Let's also talk about the aesthetic principle of 1 deduced in the middle.

"Distance produces beauty."

"The rain in the sky is crisp, the grass is close at hand, but there is no", Han Yu's poem; There is also a sentence, "I want to commit a crime from behind, retreat from the side and defend myself from the front." I don't remember who said it, but it means the same thing. There should be a limit to this distance: just like an oil painting, it looks beautiful at a little distance; Close to the whole painting, there is no aesthetic feeling at all; Standing too far, I can't see a fart. I was angry with my beloved life and misunderstood it. I can hang it for a few days; After a long time, people think that you have moved on, brothers and sisters have nothing to do, and become enemies; I still miss you, I still care about you, but I turn my head and look away, leaving only resentment and indifference in my eyes and heart.

Zhao Benshan said that with distance, beauty is gone.

In fact, this limit is not complicated. To put it bluntly, no matter how far the body is, there should be no distance between the heart and the body. The basis of "being neighbors with the sky" is "harmony but difference, while China keeps our friendship". "The roots are firmly in the bottom, and the leaves touch the clouds; It seems to be separated forever, but it is dependent for life. " Shu Ting's Oak and Kapok are the perfect interpretations of this aesthetic principle.

It is said in Caigen Tan that wise men are good at "breaking their obsession with temporary things by repenting afterwards". It is an art for brothers and sisters to get along and grasp the distance. I just met a brother and sister and made a new confidant, especially the opposite sex. I feel the rare joy, so I always want to talk to her about everything, and sometimes I even wonder what she is busy with at this time. At this time, we need to be more rational to make this rare friendship last for a long time. Walking too close will increase the pressure on brothers and sisters: give him a few words, it's really something; Don't go back in case he is unhappy. This kind of pressure will cause some trouble if it lasts for a long time. Everyone has his own space, and it is absolutely everyone's nature to love freedom, regardless of wealth, wisdom or stupidity. Just like a popular online saying, "I allow you to walk into my world, but I don't allow you to walk around in it." The foreigner said it well:

People have opened the door of trust for you, so don't walk around in it. (Han Lingsha)

Moderate games strengthen the brain, and indulging in games hurts the body; Eat until you are seven points full, and this world is the same as treating others and doing things. Zhuangzi's "homogeneity" and Einstein's "relativity" all look at the problem from the depths. Happy new year, just because once a year; Eating jiaozi every day tastes like a nest; When the golden wind meets the jade dew, it can "win countless people." Being brothers and sisters with affection, maintaining friendship, reason is indispensable.

Finally, the truth is this truth, and everyone can talk about it. Easier said than done. Think of a person, persist for a long time and there is no way; After drinking a little wine, the truth is temporarily forgotten; A message passed through and life changed from then on; When I find that the distance is too far away, I want to contact, but I can't find words. I want to explain, which is like an excuse. I want to apologize and I can't open the prescription. Look at this embarrassment, it's too late to regret it.

Fortunately, the days are still long and the road is still long. It's never too old to learn, walk slowly and grow slowly.

Emotional choice 2:

A little parting is better than a wedding;

I have a cousin who continued to study by himself after graduating from college, and got a postgraduate degree and a double degree. She worked in a research institute in Shanghai and fell in love four years ago. She was originally a college classmate, but she was employed in the capital Beijing. I always think that after they get married, they must find a way to transfer to a city. After all, it is not good to be separated just after marriage. Will the lack of communication opportunities affect their marriage and feelings?

Obviously, my fears are residual. On the contrary, that boyfriend is very much in favor of this kind of life. After a year of marriage, the feelings of the two are getting deeper and deeper, and the fire of love is getting stronger and stronger. The heart seems to be getting closer and closer. In view of this situation, as an uncle, I asked them how they felt, perhaps it was the reconciliation of knowledge chicken soup. The two of them said in unison that "distance makes beauty."

This sentence is very avant-garde and creative. "Distance produces beauty", I feel that sentence contains a deep philosophy. It may come from the concept of art or aesthetics at first. Aesthetics includes color, light and composition. It is an aesthetic art that satisfies visual effects, including perspective and intuition. That is to say, only the beauty produced in vision is aestheticism. Seeing an object, including still life and animals, can only be appreciated from an optimal visual observation point. Photographers want to take good photos, they have to use their brains to choose angles and positions. There are wide-angle lenses, close-ups, looking up and bird's-eye views. Different distances will produce different visual effects.

This sentence has a special meaning when used in emotional places. I don't have the erudition of their university. I just want to prove the classic of this sentence with the natural emotional phenomenon in the countryside. Let me talk about myself first. For decades, the partners have looked very tired emotionally, but there is nothing to say to each other. In this land of my hometown, I stay at home all the year round, and my wife and I always live together at close range or even zero distance. My personality is that after she got schizophrenia at the age of 29, her memory function declined seriously, and she could not do without me. Ba dare not let me tie her to my belt for fear of losing her. Every time I go to my daughter's house in Wuxi, there are hundreds of identical buildings in the community. She can't read, but it's hard to say that this staircase is like that, and there is no special sign. (article reading network: three smells)

Being with her all day, she will force my self-thinking on me and make me listen to her instructions. I always let her find fault when I go shopping. It's either too expensive or of poor quality. I was busy thinking about a new topic, and she insisted on nagging me to interrupt or dictate me to do one more little thing. She always complains that I am not as diligent as other boys. Living together all day is bound to limit my vision and make me unable to find beauty. Even the children say that dad is too timid in this life, but the old lady says that I am happier than any boy in this life. (review)

But sometimes there is a magic. That was nearly 20 years ago. My children are not married, and my family of four is very happy. That's when I realized that I was going to leave home for a month and a half. On the day I came back, my wife showed great enthusiasm. My child told me that I didn't look at you at home, and my mother often nagged you endlessly. She misses you just a few days after you left, and it's no use saying that you are around. Your father always feels lonely and empty when he is not at home. It's better to say goodbye than to get married. She is very affectionate with me these days, as close as a child. Really can't live without me. She doesn't mind me being away from home for so many days. Haha, this is probably what my cousin and niece said, "Distance makes beauty".

I couldn't help thinking about a visual concept there. There are indeed some objects and scenes with a concept that distance produces beauty. In other words, many scenery are very suitable for long-distance viewing, and that kind of broad vision will give you an extended imagination space. The beauty of imagination and longing are both extraordinary abstract beauty or intentional beauty. An ethereal retreat will seduce a person's intentional thinking. If you go to the field to see the real scene, you will feel it. It is not unusual to see through this secret. "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but toward which corner of the mountain."

Borrowing the modern sense of "distance produces beauty", there is also a proper poetry. Falling in love is like offering brothers and sisters. When two people are together all day, it is easy to get bored and find each other's shortcomings, so the person standing in front of them doesn't have to be perfect. It has become a common sight, without novelty and unique exploration psychology, and there is no curiosity to repeat emotional stories all day. So as long as there is a little distance, the impression will be much better. There is a kind of missing love and the perfection of dreams. Mutual concern is a kind of red silk thread of acacia, with emotional ripples. We'll be together after a while. Parting is better than marriage, and marriage adds affection.

Now life has more free space, and even young men and women in rural areas have flown to the far north and the far south, often separated from each other. Nowadays, young people are no longer obsessed with the comfort zone where they have been together for a long time, and both of them have a long distance to separate. However, modern communication tools still make people feel as if they are close at hand. Even in foreign countries, a mobile phone can talk in a few seconds. We can discuss the major events at home at any time. Besides, there are QQ online chats on the computer, and videos can see people every day. They are still attracted to each other, and their images have always been my lovers. Isn't this a distance that produces beauty?

Sometimes the same is true of the friendship between brothers and sisters. Two people still stumble together for a long time, no novelty. If we haven't seen each other for many years, once we suddenly come together and meet again after a long separation, the feeling of joy is really beyond words. I haven't seen a junior high school classmate for decades. In the first twenty years, I wrote letters, and in the second ten years, I greeted by phone. The warmth of not meeting each other makes our friendship grow day by day. This year, my brother retired from the department-level post and remembered my brother again. He even wants to stay with me for a while and experience the fragrance of the original ecology and the beauty of "distance produces beauty".

Yes, sincere affection, affection and friendship really need to cater to the concept of "distance produces beauty" if they want to stand the test. You and I really love each other.

Emotional choice 3:

Some people say that "distance produces beauty", which is very insightful. There is an ink shrimp painting by Qi Baishi in my living room, which contains 7 or 8 shrimps. I stood at a distance and watched. These shrimps are different in shape, lifelike and lifelike, just like live shrimps swimming in the water. I was stunned. Qi Baishi's ink shrimp painting has reached a quite high artistic level through the change of pen and ink and vivid depiction. At this time, I couldn't help but go near the ink painting and want to have a closer look. However, when I look closer, I am disappointed: on half a piece of rice paper, there are pictures with different shades and distinct black and white ink dots, and there is no vivid feeling at all. This is the true portrayal of "distance produces beauty".

In spring, I like walking in the garden. All love is full of colorful flowers, attracting my eyes and making me linger. I especially like to appreciate peony. Some people say it is Kao. The flowers are huge and colorful. But I leaned down and looked at it carefully, but it was normal, no different from ordinary flowers.

From afar, flowers and trees, green branches and leaves are in full bloom, which is pleasing to the eye. Close up, there are dead leaves on the branches, insect eyes on the leaves, black spots on the flowers, broken skills and broken leaves and flowers everywhere, which makes people lose interest. What is the antonym of easy?

"Distance produces beauty", which is caused by vision. From a distance, you can only see the outline, but you can't see the details, so it looks beautiful. Look carefully, all the flaws are exposed, and the flaws are mutual, and even the flaws are covered up, so it is not so beautiful.

In real life, examples of "distance produces beauty" abound, such as "foreign monks can chant Buddhist scriptures", "parting is better than getting married" and "wife is someone else's good" are all the results of distance producing beauty.

People tend to be "self-centered" when dealing with problems. No wonder people are part of the solar system. In the solar system, the sun is the center, and all the planets, satellites and even fragments of space matter revolve around the sun. Man is the "spirit of all things" on the earth, so "being a teacher" is often "self-centered" in dealing with interpersonal relationships. You know, looking at yourself from your own point of view is different from looking at others. Similarly, looking at yourself from the perspective of others is also very different. Whether it is interstellar or interpersonal, being too close will produce insecurity; Too close, easy to produce friction; Too close, it is easy to see the shortcomings and flaws of people around you. The distance is far, those "shortcomings" and "flaws" can't be seen clearly, so there is a sense of beauty. Looking at people and things with a broad vision will save a lot of disputes. To take a step back, the distance has increased, the vision has been broadened, the mind has been broadened, and the beauty has followed. No wonder some people sigh: "Take a step back and broaden the horizon" and "Distance makes beauty"!

Husband and wife get along day and night, but they don't look up at each other. Everyone's temper and disposition are deeply touched, and their shortcomings are exposed. If they stay together for a long time, they will not.

It looks beautiful. And other people's wives, who have little contact and understanding, just look at her from a distance, and the flaws are hard to see, so they look beautiful and kind. Now some people practice that it is better to live in one room than to sleep in two rooms and get together every day than to live in see you on monday. If couples can continue to "distance", they will love each other as always, and they will be wonderful.

When people get along with each other, they should also have the necessary distance. They should be far-sighted in dealing with people, and they will feel attractive, handsome, flawless, admirable and worth understanding. Only by carefully examining ourselves can we see our own shortcomings clearly, and "three rescues a day" will not be empty talk. You can see "small good and small evil" at close range. As long as you are strict with yourself, you can be an upright person who benefits the people.