Don’t cut down trees in winter

I once read the article "Don't Cut Down Trees in Winter". It tells the story of a 9-year-old child who went to his grandfather's small farm to play and found that one of the several fig trees in front of the house had grown. If it dies, let grandpa cut it down and plant another one. Grandpa said: "Maybe it is indeed dead. But after the winter, it may still sprout and branch - maybe it is recharging its energy! Remember, kid! Don't cut down trees in winter." As grandpa said, Unexpectedly, the tree really sprouted again the next spring. By summer, the whole tree looks like its companions. The 9-year-old child became a primary school teacher when he became an adult. In his more than 20 years of teaching career, he encountered similar situations more than once. The stuttering Pierre who could not even recite the letters has now become a teacher. A slightly famous lawyer; Basque, who was the naughtiest and had the worst grades, later became an honors student in the university and so on.

I think of the naughty and mischievous disciples back then. Now some are famous in the business world, some are prosperous in public institutions, and some are thriving in universities.

Today I want to talk about Yu Fan, a unique girl. On December 6, 2018, she sent a text message: "Teacher Li, I will go back on January 9th to see you. It's cold, so you must take care of yourself and don't be too tired." Every holiday, she always Don't forget to wish me "Happy Mid-Autumn Festival", "Happy Teacher's Day" and "Love you", or greet me with happy holidays, or remind me to put on clothes on time, or remind me to pay attention to rest. When the teacher's happiness lingers for a whole year because of her greetings four seasons.

? I remember that when she was admitted to Sichuan University of Communication, she couldn't help but be happy and smug: "Teacher, I will work hard in college. What I studied in college are all my favorite broadcasting majors. I will definitely study hard." , I'm interested in this." After she went to college, she happily studied broadcasting and hosting every day, and also studied other majors such as photography and broadcasting. She also did not forget to develop hobbies such as dancing and piano. She had just received a scholarship. As the study committee member of the class, she was strict with herself and set an example. She helped other students in the class practice basic skills. At the end of the semester, she organized study notes and shared them with the class group, and got along well with other girls in the dormitory. He has enough spare time to study and has hosted many public welfare activities. He actively participated in the charity association organized by the school: chatting with lonely elderly people, playing games with mentally retarded children, collecting unused clothing and daily necessities in the school dormitory, and giving them to homeless people on the streets of Chengdu. ... She cherishes her college life even more, wants to learn more during college, and wants to do her best to help those in need. She shows her knowledge and personality in these activities.

She has clear goals, active thinking, open-mindedness, and understanding of things. I am proud and happy for her changes. But during the three years of junior high school, there were ups and downs, laughter and tears, songs and sadness.

She just entered junior high school, lively and cheerful, and did well in school. Keep your student hair shiny and smooth. She has eyebrow-length bangs, big eyes, long eyelashes, and her clear eyes are always shining like stars. The self-introduction when I entered the class left a deep impression on me. I had a bright smile, a confident and generous voice, a crisp voice, and beautiful handwriting. In her sixth year of primary school, she won the first prize in a county-level speech contest and a county-level singing contest. She was deeply loved by teachers and classmates, and even the principal admired her very much. This shows the sense of superiority and happiness at that time.

When she came to junior high school, there were many masters, more subjects to study, and a huge psychological gap. In addition, she was not used to the boarding school life with a break every two weeks. Several times I saw her standing alone in the corridor looking into the distance, her eyes filled with sadness that a young man should not have. Talking to her, tears dripped down on the student uniform. She said that all her good friends in elementary school were in Great Wall Middle School, and she was feeling particularly lonely now.

I enlightened her several times, such as, "My good friends who are reluctant to leave elementary school are the deep friendships you have established over the past six years. You and your current classmates will also become good friends in the future." "Our school is the best in the county." "The school, others want to go to school but can't get in, you should cherish it if you go here." "The curriculum reform model here is very suitable for you...", she said a lot of good things, she agreed very well at the time, but she couldn't last three days and started to With tears streaming down her face, she only wanted to go to Great Wall Middle School. She communicated with her mother several times, but her mother firmly disagreed. Children who are obsessed with one idea are not easy to change.

In order to make her like it here as soon as possible, I want her to like the subjects I teach first, recommend good books to her, and arrange for her to be the Chinese class representative. I can’t wait to let the spark of love for Chinese come out of my heart. transplanted into her heart. She participates in early education research, assigns early reading tasks, sends and receives homework, calculates Zhou Qing's grades, etc. She is serious and responsible, and does everything in an orderly manner, but the melancholy in her eyes still exists, which makes people worry.

Later, she was asked to assist She Xishuo as a sports committee member. The morning exercises and recess exercises were well organized, with formations and slogans, and she was strict and in place. During the radio exercise competition, she stood in the front row of my class to demonstrate. Her movements were in place and her arms and legs could stretch freely. I think she must have a sense of accomplishment and be filled with joy. But when he approached her, he had his head drooped and a melancholy look on his face, and when he talked to her, he burst into tears. Other students have already adapted, and their laughter can be heard everywhere. She was the only one who was depressed and pitiful.

I kept talking to her, hoping that a certain conversation or a certain sentence would touch her heart.

In the second grade of junior high school, she seemed to adapt, and I breathed a sigh of relief. Unexpectedly, after lunch break, she was late for class, and two girls in the same dormitory ran over in a hurry. The three of them stood in front of me embarrassedly, with their perfectly straight hair turned into wavy curls. I couldn't laugh or cry. "Everyone has a love for beauty, but being late for class because of love for beauty is not a good thing. Wavy curls are not suitable for junior high school students. When you go to college, you can have whatever hairstyle you want. Change your hair after school..."

Her love for beauty made her start to pay attention to her own image. She originally had beautiful fonts but her homework was scrawled, her dictation error rate was getting higher and higher, and her math scores especially dropped sharply. During another interview, I shared with her stories about my school days. She opened up about her joys, sorrows, and joys, and said that when she grows up, she should honor her dear grandma. I asked her to help me investigate "What kind of girl is good?" The most beautiful." She seemed happy every time we talked, but the good times did not last long, and she soon became obsessed with studying.

Perhaps the colorful activities occupied her mind and she no longer thought about it. She participates in the school's broadcasting and hosting and dance clubs. Hosting school get-togethers is elegant and has strong adaptability. With a foundation and talent in dance, she takes on her own role in the dance club, teaching and leading dances. At the May Day art performance, her dance program won a round of applause. I won the first prize in the county in the recital competition I collaborated with a student from Class 21. She seems to have no joy of success, and her indifferent mental state is worrying.

? Her academic performance gradually declined. Later, because she fell in love with a boy in another class, she became even more uninterested in studying. I recommended good books for her to read, hoping that she would find the benefits in the books that would lead her to the next level. She couldn't do that so that she could forget everything else. One night during self-study, I discovered that she was writing a novel about the boy she had a crush on. Her writing style was delicate and her emotions were fiery. She had already written more than a dozen pages. She thought I would be furious, but I told her, you are very sensible, but you don't go to him to talk to him when you are in so much pain. Writing is also a kind of talking, and the process of talking is also a process of relaxation. Maybe one day when you write, you will suddenly understand that this is not love, but love. This is not your whole life, just a part of your life. You may laugh at yourself. Too childish. Keep writing. If you write enough 100,000 words, you can publish a book. I support you in publishing a book, but she did not continue writing. Sometimes suppression methods cannot suppress a person's thoughts and emotions, and counseling may be able to achieve good results.

In the first semester of the third year of junior high school, she began to devote herself to studying. The long-lost smile reappeared, and the two-year protracted battle deepened the relationship between them. When she found out that I was holding a broken umbrella on a rainy day, she quietly put a new umbrella in my office and attached a note, "Teacher, I know you live a frugal life and are reluctant to throw away that umbrella, but it does not look good when you hold it up." Please accept this umbrella." When she found me walking to the office tiredly after class, she put a note in her homework book, "Teacher, you look very tired. If you need my help in correcting your homework, you can call me at any time. "; When I was preparing to go home after studying in the evening, she would tell me "slow down on the road"... learn to be a human being first, and then seek knowledge. Sometimes being a human being is more important than academic performance. From me, she gained not only knowledge, but also quality, education and dignity.

Life goes smoothly, and I hope it will be calm until graduation. As the winter vacation approaches, the school further strengthens its management and stipulates that students must stay five meters away from the school wall. The class meeting had just emphasized that during the afternoon extracurricular activities, she would be at the wall accepting things from classmates outside the school, and her grade immediately notified her to suspend classes and go home. At that time, my colleagues advised me that you had put so much effort into her and you were good enough for her, so it would not be a pity to take this opportunity to persuade her to quit.

Every child has a fire for good in his heart. If this fire is lit, it will burn brightly, and then extinguished, it will kill her growth. I didn’t want to punish someone who wanted to repent. After the suspension, I told her: "I don’t like to look at people in the same old way. Try to be yourself again. Teacher believes in you!" The second semester of the third grade of junior high school made me feel happy, surprised and... Excitingly, she seemed like a new person, focused on nothing, cherishing time like gold, actively answering questions in class, and often asking questions from teachers and classmates after class. Ideological education, for me, is far more than "preaching", but a simple and natural way of being a person.

The difficult students in the class interact with us the most frequently. Although old habits are hard to change, they can clearly see the teachers’ good intentions and have the deepest feelings with us after graduation. After three years of protracted fighting, we have not only a teacher-student relationship, but also trust between friends and care between mother and daughter.

? She kept in touch with me after graduation.

? She appeared in front of me today holding a bouquet of flowers, beautiful and elegant, with eyes shining like stars.

Although she is on vacation, she gets up early every day and insists on memorizing 50 words, and practices piano or dancing in the afternoon. She said that her grandma and I had the greatest influence on her. She learned to be self-reliant and self-reliant from her grandma, and learned from me that cadres on duty should set an example and should first reflect on themselves when they make mistakes. Girls should read more and cultivate themselves.

She worked very hard in college life. She said, "I have always reminded myself of one thing over the years. Never move yourself. Most people's seemingly hard work is actually what they should do. This is just The daily life of a student at a prestigious university is nothing special.

It is inevitable that people are born with self-pity. Only by staying awake at all times can we see clearly where the real value lies. ”

Dear classmates, if you encounter difficult students, please wait. In winter, do not cut down trees. Some trees seem to be dead now. Next spring, when you encounter suitable sunshine, In the presence of temperature and moisture, it will sprout and branch out, rejuvenating itself.