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Blue and red collocation is the highest probability, and the key depends on what kind of people you admire. Let me give you an example of happiness in red and blue. Moderator's file: Wen Yuan, a senior media person, once worked as a teacher at the Wall Street English Training Center, and loved to explore the unknown world of humanity, gender and spirit. Couple file: Male: Guan Nan Occupation: Photographer Age: 27 Aquarius Female: Bao Xiao Occupation: Freelance Age: 27 Pisces Association Time: 3 years Identity: Guan Nan, who works as a photographer, and Bao Xiao, who studies animal psychology, are alumni, one studying physics and the other studying animal psychology. Bao Xiao needs photography skills, because he needs to photograph the monkey's scalp once, so he turned around and made an appointment with an amateur Guan Nan to "teach" through a friend. The course ended and their relationship began. The rugged man in Northeast China and the gentle woman in Taiwan Province Province have wonderful photosynthesis, from which love takes root. It was vague, confirmed, repeated and stable-today, this is a positive result. Both parents have met and worn engagement rings. Let's listen to the way they get along so that we can learn a thing or two from the world of mortals. From the conversation during the interview, we can see that the Crown Man should be mainly blue and Bao Xiao should be mainly red. The core motivation of blue personality is the pursuit of perfection, and the overall style tends to be introverted, introverted, passive, gradual, persistent, planned, guaranteed, persistent, inflexible and not good at direct expression. Reflected in love, blue is more stable and progressive than red. The core motivation of red character is the pursuit of happiness, and the overall style tends to be extroverted, open, positive, not persistent, good at expressing, not reforming, apologizing actively and hoping to get praise from the other side. Reflected in love, red is more direct and casual, follow your feelings. In love, the collocation probability of blue and red is higher, because they have different styles and are very easy to attract each other. If blue is a big tree, then red is like a happy bird. She likes to build nests in trees and sing songs. Blue appreciates the happy nature of red, which is full of enthusiasm, romance and creativity. Red will be attracted by blue's calm appearance, delicate emotions, considerate care, clear logic and prepared plans. Moderator: How did you start to become "good"? Remember the details? Guan Nan: I just ended a relationship and was dumped. I happened to know her because I was a little lonely. At first, I didn't take it seriously. I have known each other for a month, and everything that should have happened has happened. After getting along, I found that my personality was very harmonious, so I began to associate. Bao Xiao: That should be the beginning when I sent him food ... At that time, my mother and my sister came to see me in the summer vacation, and the afternoon when I sent them back to Taiwan Province Province, I suddenly felt that the room was so empty-it was still full of excitement in the afternoon. I don't want to be alone He was at home repairing the film, so I called him and said, I'll come to you then. So I bought delicious food, ran to his residence, chatted with him and watched him fix the film. That day, it started. In the early days of love, blue is more planned and cautious. I found personality integration in getting along, and then decided to "start dating" in my mind. It's easier to get to know each other than red. When we are together, we are in contact. Blue form is form and content is content; Form is content service, but form is not equal to content; Red form equals content; Red is more casual and active, while blue is relatively passive; After all, it was the first formal contact. She was still a girl, but because she was lonely that day, Bao Xiao called Guan Nan on her own initiative. I think this is the beginning. In fact, in my blue heart, it takes a month to think that I have officially started dating. Moderator: Men and women often have different standards for confirming love. Is it love for you to have sex? Guan Nan: At that time, I thought I should settle down, so I was carefully observing whether this girl was suitable for my life. The confirmation of this love relationship is gradual in my heart, not sudden. It seems that I have never said such symbolic words as "Let's go out together" or "Be my girlfriend". Gradually accumulated-from the moment I realized I was going to marry her, it was about a year. Bao Xiao: Before I met him, I had just ended an ambiguous relationship. Holding hands and kissing mean communication to me. But as a result, the boy didn't think so, so he was hurt. After having sex with him, I was also worried that he would disagree with our relationship. But two days later, I went out with him and met his acquaintances. He introduced me: This is my girlfriend. Regarding the criteria for determining love, blue emphasizes planning and safety, and is good at seeing the big from the small, from here to there, from near to far; Carefully planned. So blue is to seriously observe and think about whether it is suitable for a lifetime, not just to feel good this time. Compared with the yellow character, blue emphasizes the process more. "So the confirmation of this love relationship is gradual in my heart, not sudden." Compared with the simple and frank little red treasure, "holding hands and kissing is communication for me" and "I never seem to say such iconic words as' Let's communicate' or' Be my girlfriend', which are gradually accumulated-it will take about a year from the moment I realize that I want to marry her." Because blue has the highest requirement for tacit understanding, it is rare to express "I love you" directly in love. They think that everything is a process of accumulation, and easy commitment is actually not a responsible attitude. And they think that language is often weak and superficial. If I really love you, even if I don't say it, you should feel it. Bao Xiao, who is red, was worried at first because he didn't get the "promise", but soon he was relieved because the other party said, "She is my girlfriend". This is the difference between blue complexity and red simplicity. Compere: What attracts you most about him/her? Guan Nan: She grew up in Taipei. She is not an only child. There are three sisters and one brother in her family. Therefore, she was considerate of others since she was a child, and she was always considerate of others. This is especially rare for Chinese mainland's only child. I grew up with a good family environment and a high level of education (Bao Xiao is a graduate student of Peking University), so her quality is quite high-I am a person with no quality, and I always feel that I should find one like this for the next generation. Plus the girl is beautiful, good-natured and perfect. Bao Xiao: Actually, I was attracted at first because he was very kind to me. Moreover, he gives the impression that he is a man and a northerner, which makes people feel safe. Later I found out that he was even very considerate. For example, I don't like onions, so every time I eat them, he specifically tells the store not to put onions. Moved by these small details under his rough appearance. Speaking of the reasons for attracting himself, Guan Nan made it clear from the region to the education level, from the only child to the education level, the external appearance and personality of Western Europe fully reflected the blue deliberation and caution; Relatively speaking, the red Bao Xiao is more from his own feelings and feelings: I think he is a man, and I find that he is very careful with me ... and then I am moved. Moderator: What are you most dissatisfied with him/her? Guan Nan: I am most dissatisfied ... I can't tell you this, haha. But we are looking for a wife, and she really can't find anything wrong with other places. This dissatisfaction can be ignored. Bao Xiao: He is a very straightforward person and doesn't like socializing very much. For example, at a party, someone told a bad joke, others would laugh politely, but he just sat there and didn't talk. When he asked him what happened, he said, it's not funny at all. When it comes to dissatisfaction, everyone is embarrassed, and the blue feature is more critical. He must be dissatisfied with Bao Xiao, but Blue is introverted and cautious. Now that he has decided to get married, what problems have passed? First, we should not be too picky; Second, such things should not be leaked to outsiders; Bao Xiao in red is more direct, which not only expresses her less enthusiastic side in interpersonal communication, but also highlights that she cares more about others, blue cares more about things and red cares more about people. When others tell jokes, the crown man doesn't laugh, which also shows that Lan adheres to the principle and refuses to easily echo the seriousness of others. Moderator: I heard that once you broke up because of a quarrel over eating silkworm chrysalis? Guan Nan: We had a terrible argument that time, but I didn't expect that we would break up. She did it. I especially like to eat silkworm chrysalis. She doesn't like the smell. Once I fried silkworm chrysalis at home, and she said that silkworm chrysalis should be cicada. I said it was a moth, because the smoke was big and the smell was heavy. She was anxious: If you want to be with me, don't eat silkworm chrysalis! Because we had friends at that time, we refused to let anyone in order to save face, and finally we quarreled fiercely ... Bao Xiao: All our quarrels started with such a trivial matter, but silkworm chrysalis was not the focus of breaking up, but the quarrel that followed. At the end of the argument, I thought to myself: Why are we still together? Why don't you break up? The argument about eating silkworm chrysalis first shows that both red and blue have emotional characteristics, but the red emotional thing is external and the blue emotional thing is internal; Once red is emotional, it will immediately "act" to vent, even openly, so it is said that breaking up also proves the randomness of red. Blue is more real, persistent and persistent when it is emotional; But Lan won't decide to get married just because she feels good for a while, and she won't break up easily because of a quarrel. In fact, the real reason for quarrels like this is more because blue is too principled and likes to be reasonable, while red is more coquettish, hoping to get recognition and comfort from the other side. Moderator: How do you solve such contradictions when you encounter difficulties? Guan Nan: Basically, she put on makeup first. I am a strong person, and my former girlfriend is very cold-blooded, so neither she nor I can stand giving up in front of anyone. It is common to ignore each other for seven days and ten days. But Bao Xiao can't. She can't stand it for two or three days. And she will cry, even cry, and I can't stand crying. Bao Xiao: I took the initiative to communicate with him. I can't stand the cold war. You can't talk for two or three days together. Then I will talk to him, and I will say, Oh, fatty, tell me I'm sorry! He just said it. On how to solve contradictions, Blue Crown Man is more persistent and better at the Cold War, which is also a typical style of blue characters in conflicts. Compared with red, the short-term outbreak may be fierce, but red bone is not good at persistence. Whether it is reasonable or unreasonable, red can't stand long silence. In order to be happy, Hong usually takes the initiative to compromise. Moderator: Do you have any expectations for his/her future? What do you want him/her to be? Guan Nan: She is a very casual person, a little lazy and doesn't insist on doing things. For example, I hope she can stick to blogging and not stop writing for a few days. I am a person. Once I have made a plan or goal, I will stick to it. For example, one day I will film her and write, and just do something together. Other things, I am particularly satisfied with her. Bao Xiao: Expecting ... Actually, there is no such thing. I don't want to change anything about him. If you have to say anything about expectation, you may just want him to stop playing so much. For example, he spends most of his money on airplane models, which is not very planned. When it comes to expectations of each other, it is obvious that blue has a desire to transform, and red does not; Guan Nan emphasizes planning, goals, persistence and expectation of future career, which are typical characteristics of blue, and once again highlight the concern of blue characters. Red Bao Xiao said, I didn't expect to change him either. The so-called reason for wanting Guannan not to play too much and spend too much money on airplane models is actually more likely because Guannan once snubbed Bao Xiao for this reason. Bao Xiao's subtext is actually: Pay more attention to me, okay? Wen Yuan's interview notes: I interviewed them separately, but found that many of them gave completely different answers to the same question. So, are there any problems with their understanding and getting along? Is it necessary to correct it? Is their relationship perfect enough? Or there is room for further improvement. Please invite our personality color expert, Mr. Hong Wei-the beautiful moment when healthy red in love creates blue is: red will constantly create all kinds of sudden romance for blue, red will be ecstatic for a piece of chocolate, red will render blue seemingly dull and even sad things into magic, and red will turn blue friends into their own friends as soon as possible, making each other icing on the cake on the original basis; Because the relationship between blue and cool color becomes rich and colorful; Red sweet mouth will coax blue parents to be elated; Red will make blue, who likes to punish herself, breathe a sigh of relief. Red will give blue a vivid interpretation with innocence: what is real, natural and seamless ... The beautiful moment created by healthy blue in love is that blue mouth will not often say "I love you", but blue may spend the whole night writing you a love letter wandering around and deep in the ocean, making red cry all night. Blue doesn't always give red a kiss and hug, but blue will not only remember every important day, but also keep in mind what you expect occasionally and quietly present it to you when you don't have any expectations; The thoughtfulness and delicacy of blue will make red not only enjoy, but also be proud of it; The rigor of blue will make red confused and unable to rely on; Blue is careful and well-planned, which can make red sit back and relax; The persistence and self-discipline of blue make the free and rambling red life full of sense of security ... The misunderstandings and conflicts that are easy to occur are: why red doesn't understand blue and has something to say, which always makes people guess; Blue hates red very much. Talking is always outspoken and unreliable. Red hates blue to find fault anytime and anywhere, and blue hates red to get carried away for no reason; No matter how hard red tries, it is always difficult to get blue praise. Lan can't figure out why red is more important to attention and recognition than life. Red hates blue and always makes sense, and blue hates red to "do" for no reason; Red pursues randomness and freedom, while blue likes neatness and rules; Red likes to make friends, but blue prefers solitude and quiet; Blue doesn't like red to do something interesting for three minutes, but red doesn't understand blue. It really doesn't know how to be flexible in everything ... blue needs to pay attention to the emotional needs of red: praising red needs the attention, praise and love of others, and they always have a good impression on those who are interested in listening to him and show great interest. When the personal value of red is appreciated and recognized, it is very exciting. You can repeatedly praise him as "really cute, smart, charming, energetic and creative …" Red has a special liking for conveying friendship and intimacy through physical contact; Therefore, as a red partner, it is difficult to reason with red. It is better to go up and hug her, and you will definitely find the miraculous effect of four or two thousand dollars; Red is more eager to live in groups than blue, which likes to be alone, so when red is puzzling, it may be her lonely time. At this time, she can only be crazier than criticism or even derailed. A more effective way is to plan a romantic activity with him. You will find that red is actually very easy to coax, and you can better understand it when you move with red. The artistic conception of high spirits ... Red needs to pay attention to the emotional needs of blue: support blue as a thermos bottle with a cold appearance and a hot heart. So I am often unhappy because of the trivial things that make my eyes red. This is red. What needs to be overcome most is endless questioning and chatter: "Why are you unhappy? Are you talking? Are you worried to death? What's going on here? ..... "In fact," please support me, don't make fun of me, please give me more quiet and independent space. " This is a blue heart. When Lan needs to know that you are on his side and ask "What's wrong with you", it is better to make a cup of green tea silently, put it in front of him, wait quietly and tell him with a tacit expression: "I can see that you are hurt, so I will stand here until you want to tell me." Bottom line: What blue needs most is that you can feel what you are feeling. Blue hates noise and chaos. They need a space away from noise for a while. If possible, help your blue partner keep a quiet personal space, which can reduce his pressure and make him extremely grateful to you. If blue is allowed to write love letters to red lovers, it may be like this: I would like to be a torrent, as long as you are a lovely little fish swimming happily in my waves, I would like to be a barren forest, as long as you are a bird nesting in my dense forest, I would like to be a ruin, as long as you are an ivy vine climbing up my desolate forehead, I would like to be a blue sky, as long as you are a white cloud floating freely in my sight. Populus euphratica takes root in my heart and stretches your dense branches and leaves in the wind. As long as you are a happy little penguin, dancing on my cold shoulder, I am willing to be a glacier.