Why should we let our children see the world?

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Some time ago, I was having dinner and chatting with a well-known photographer friend. When I was half drunk, I asked curiously, when did you plan to start this career? ?

She fell into memories: It was too early. To say that I first had this idea, I went to Yunnan with my parents when I was eight or nine years old. I grew up in the city. For the first time, I saw the lakes and mountains that I had never seen before. At that time, I was shocked. It turned out that this world There are such beautiful places! What I thought at the time was, how great it would be if we could find a way to preserve such beautiful scenery!

She said that this was the first time she had a concept of "beauty", and this concept became more and more clear as she grew up.

In the end, she chose to use photography to express her understanding of beauty, and eventually embarked on the path of becoming a professional photographer. That trip became her earliest artistic enlightenment.

She said that it was strange, why she had forgotten many things when she was a child, but only this trip was still fresh in her memory? I am especially grateful for that trip.

I laughed: Just like you, when I was young, my parents took me on a trip to Beijing. To this day, I can still recall the Great Wall and Forbidden City I saw at that time, with some The smell of old yellow film.

The conditions at home at that time were very average, but my parents still took me out for a walk. What they didn't expect was that from then on, Beijing was no longer an abstract symbol in books for me, it became a place I yearned for. When filling out my application for the college entrance examination, I applied for Beijing without hesitation, and from then on I formed a lifelong bond with this city.

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I told my friends that instead of thanking us for that trip when we were young, we should thank our parents for taking us out when we were so young. Seeing the world gives us more choices and more possibilities in life.

It was they who planted the seeds of dreams, seeds of hope, and seeds of distance in us, allowing them to take root and sprout in our hearts. From then on, we slowly gained the power to pursue our own dreams. The road is long, with the care of our parents in our hometown on one side and the sea of ??stars in the distance on the other. The further we go, the wider our horizons become, and the more grateful we are for the strength our parents have given us.

——That is the source of our perceived happiness and the starting point for us to move towards a more open life.

Bi Shumin said in "The Woman I Love": "I like women who are deeply grateful and travel alone. They know how to thank their parents, but they don't blindly follow them. They know how to thank the world, but they are not afraid. . I know how to thank myself, but I don’t feel narcissistic. I know how to thank my friends, but I don’t rely on them. I know how to thank every seed and every breeze, and I also know how to get up early to sow the seeds and walk in the wind.”

The best education is the education of love; and the best love is the company of parents.

When we grow up, many of the beautiful memories we can recall are related to the company of our parents. Later, I had my own children. There was a time when my career reached the most critical moment and I had to choose to leave my child to his grandparents.

After a few months of work, I hurried home to pick him up, and found that he was looking at me with indifference in his eyes, and he kept hiding in grandma's arms. Grandma said that at the beginning, he cried and called for his mother every day. After more than a month, he stopped crying and sometimes talked to himself while holding toys, and sometimes lost his temper at his grandparents.

My heart is like a knife. After taking him back to Beijing, I spent a lot of time with him, slowly reconciling the previous estrangement, and slowly melting the hardest part of the child.

One day, the child whispered into my ear, Mom, please take me to the beach to play.

At that moment, I hugged him and burst into tears. ——It turns out that he remembers everything. He remembers that I took him to the beach to play. He remembers all the happiest times between mother and son. Little by little he was forgiving me and opening up to me again.

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Later, our family of three went to many places. Go to the beach, go to Yunnan, which my photographer friend never forgets, and go climb the Great Wall that I climbed when I was a child. I know that this may not be important to us, but it is far more important to the growth of our children than we think.

As parents, we cannot give our children a future that belongs to them. Children will have their own lives. All we can do is try to protect the current joy and happiness that he can get, without anxiety, blind obedience, or comparison. What we can do is to slowly appreciate every scenery and every mood we encounter when we are together with our children. As we get along, we slowly plant the seeds of dreams and the seeds of love in his heart.

In one of Li Yuansheng's poems, he wrote:

I want to waste time with you, such as looking down at the fish

For example, leaving the tea cup on the table Go up and leave

Wasting their beautiful shadows

I also want to waste the setting sun, such as taking a walk

Washing until the sky is full of stars

< p>I still want to waste the time when the wind blows

Sitting in the corridor in a daze until the dark clouds in your eyes

are all blown out of the window

My dear baby , this poem, how your father and I wish to read it to you over and over again.

As long as we are with you, we will not feel that we are wasting our time, because we know that education is the art of leaving blank space.

It is said in "The End of Time": "You haven't even seen the world, how can you get a world view?" We cannot let our children's world only cover a few miles around, what we want them to see The world is open, rich, beautiful, and diverse.

In an interview, Yang Lan asked Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, how to deal with the relationship between work and family?

Professor Gilbert replied: "Ten years from now, you will regret that you did one less project today, but you will regret that you did not spend one more hour with your children. So, you know the answer." ”

He will love the world because you accompany him to see it, and take the initiative to explore the world. Once he has the ability to perceive beauty, and the ability to love others and himself, from then on, no matter what kind of difficulties he encounters, he will be able to grow the energy to solve problems on his own. No matter what kind of pain he has, he will be able to solve problems. Has the ability to heal itself.

Maybe it was a trip that seemed useless to you, but it fulfilled your child’s most precious quality and made your child’s life a success.