How can a child who is far away from home be a long-distance companion of his parents?

I'm in my thirties, and I'm from the northeast. I was 24 when I graduated from college. I came to a completely strange Guangdong by train from the northeast alone. I've never been here, and I don't know anyone. Just because I didn't want my parents to spend huge sums of money to help me arrange my work, I also applied for a job in Guangdong-a high school teacher in western Guangdong. From 20 10, I am a wandering girl in Guangdong, 3000 kilometers away from my parents.

When I arrived at my work unit, I realized that there were more than 20 colleagues in Northeast China. Although it was a little warm, I also witnessed several female colleagues crying because they missed their parents, including myself. Later, I learned that many teachers in the whole school came from all over the country, except from the northeast, Hebei, Anhui, Guizhou, Jiangxi, Hunan and Guangxi. It seems that they all come for work, and some for love, because the other half came first.

I changed my job last year and now I live in Guangzhou. I gradually realized that most people in this city are strangers, and most of them come for work. I remember when I graduated from college, I posted a status on the campus network: "Loyalty and filial piety are hard to tolerate since ancient times." A classmate left a message asking me, what's so big? I don't know how to answer. At that time, I just thought it would take more than 40 hours by train, before and after flying 1 day, with a lot of round-trip fares, limited holidays and few opportunities to meet my parents. How can I be filial to them?

Now think about it carefully to know how amazing the work is. You can leave your hometown, you can get along with your parents day and night, you can stay away from the people you love, and you can wander the rivers and lakes alone.

In the second and third tier cities such as Beishangguangshen and Shenzhen, there are many strangers like us whose parents are far away from home, but we make ourselves a child far away from home for dreams, opportunities, work, wealth, love and a better future for our children. We rent a house, we squeeze the subway, we don't have time for breakfast, we listen to local dialects, we are not used to eating, our climate doesn't adapt, our wages can't make ends meet, we stay up late to work overtime, we are nervous and depressed, and we have no time to accompany our parents at all.

? My parents are ordinary people. They are all in their fifties this year, almost in their sixties. Dad has been a driver for more than 30 years. My mother is a housewife and has no hobbies. She usually has nothing to do except do housework. My family also has a younger brother who came to Guangdong to work last year. So usually my parents are at home, and my father has to drive to work during the day. In June+February, 5438, even if it was freezing, my father didn't want to be idle to earn money. Mom cooks three meals for dad every day and washes them at home. It's nothing.

I was thinking that in summer, my mother was still shopping and dancing in the square dance. Now it's winter, it's cold outside, and it gets dark early. What does my mother do at home in her spare time every day? Besides watching TV, I just play with my mobile phone, or think about it, because at this age, it is easy to worry about my health, whether my children are outside, and so on. No one talks during the day, and there is no communication between them when dad comes back at night, because dad is the kind of person who can't and can't express himself. Think about mom, it's really lonely every day. Dad, if you want to talk to our brother and sister, we're not here.

165438+ I went back to my hometown in the northeast at the end of October. I get home after five in the morning. My mother has prepared breakfast. I was just about to eat when my father came out of the bedroom with a smile. He gave me a USB flash drive and asked me if it could be played on TV. I'm a little confused. Dad even has a flash drive? What is he going to put on TV? Mom quickly said: give it to your father. This is a video recorded by your father's 40th anniversary reunion. I've wanted to see it since August, and no one has given it to you. I listen to this in my heart. I quickly put down my chopsticks, plugged the USB flash drive into the TV, clicked it a few times and let it out. Dad said it was as simple as that, and the happy work was postponed. I sat in front of the TV and told me who my classmates were in the picture, what happened when I was a child and so on. The more I talk, the more excited I get. It pains me to see his happy state. My parents can't do such a simple thing just because I'm not at home.

? That night, I saw my dad using three mobile phones upside down, so I asked him how he used so many mobile phones. Dad said: the screen of a mobile phone is broken, so I replaced it with a new one, but the ringtone is too small to hear. Besides, I bought an old man's mobile phone with a loud ringtone, but I can't transfer the phone number, so I have to look backwards. After listening, a stone blocked my chest in an instant, and I felt like crying. I didn't say anything. I took three mobile phones and quickly transferred all the phone numbers. Dad said it was convenient this time.

As children, we are not at home, and no one can finish these little things in our parents' lives in an instant, and we can't finish them until we get home. I think only you who are far away can understand. Because I can't make it clear to them on the phone, because they don't want to bother others.

I don't know your parents. How old are they? What are you doing? What are you doing? Maybe they have work to do, maybe they have hobbies to choose from, maybe they are accompanied by other brothers and sisters, maybe they are just like my parents. However, I think either way, they will care about us because we are far away from home, and even miss them alone.

Go home as much as possible while your parents are still at home. If you really can't go back, stay with them in different places. No matter how old your parents are, try to teach them to use smart phones, because that is an indispensable tool for you to accompany them in different places in this era. There are no parents who can't teach, only impatient children, just as our parents taught us when we babbled. Time flies and my parents are getting old. We should be their little assistants, tell them about the outside world, teach them advanced knowledge, and hope that they will grow old slowly. Don't wait until "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind doesn't stop, and the son wants to be filial but not close." I think the most beautiful praise in life is not being called a successful person, but being called a "dutiful son".

1. Add clothes to parents when changing seasons.

When we were growing up, every dress was not made by my parents, but bought by my parents. They are always willing to give up on us, but now they are too old to spend money for themselves. We should consider buying some new clothes for our parents, even one. When they wear them all the year round, it's a miss for their children who are far away from home.

2. Give gifts to parents in the New Year.

Most children who are far away from home can't go home until a few days before the Spring Festival annual leave, and some even can't go back for the New Year. So before the usual traditional festivals, we can send zongzi to our parents on the Dragon Boat Festival and moon cakes to our parents on the Mid-Autumn Festival. Even if it is not a holiday, as long as there is something delicious and useful, send it home to your parents. They will be overjoyed when they receive it. That's the memory of children far away from home.

3. When parents are free, call their parents and send videos.

Parents usually have more free time than we do, so we try our best to take time out of our busy schedule, give them a call, listen to their voices, talk to them about their family, and let them not be too lonely; Send them a video to see their aging faces, let them see how you run around and reduce their worries. Far from home, we have to admit that the most talked to parents is the phone.

4. When parents are busy, leave messages and send pictures to their parents.

If your parents are still busy or working in the field during your break, you can leave them a message saying: I miss you! Let them take care of themselves and go home when they have time. They will be very happy as soon as they hear the news. You can take pictures of your own cooking, newly bought clothes, award certificates, beautiful scenery and so on, and send them to let them know that you are doing well outside, so don't worry; You can form a family group and often give out red envelopes. The amount is not much, as long as the family is happy.

It's best to find something that you can do with your parents and stay with them remotely.

Many children may say, I don't think there is anything to talk about with my parents. Our lives have not changed much every day, and we don't know how to talk about work. Some families may still have a big generation gap. Then we need to create a topic for communication. I'm studying a therapist's course recently, and I let my mother take part in the study online. I didn't expect her to be interested, so we had a common topic, and my mother usually had something to do.

In fact, as long as you want to create, there are many things you can do, such as taking your parents to learn Confucianism, Buddhism, Tai Chi, yoga, cooking, tea art, flower arrangement, Zen dance, photography, running, health preservation, making handicrafts, listening to online courses and so on. As long as you like to do it and they like to do it, then do it together, which will make the usual communication have more common topics and enrich parents' leisure time.

? There are 365 days in a year, and we spend less than 5 days with our parents. Therefore, we should do a good job in the company of these long-distance relationships, so that parents can feel that they are always in our hearts, our filial piety is always with them, and they are not alone. Filial piety can't wait, because parents are getting older every day. Parents are the source of our life energy and our living bodhisattvas. You don't have to go to the temple to worship God. Being kind to parents means being kind to yourself tomorrow. If we do our filial piety, everything will be fine. We will all get old eventually, but filial piety will be passed down from generation to generation!