The state of being in high spirits is the "halo psychology" in love

Being in a state of ecstasy is the "halo mentality" in love

When you feel sympathy or gratitude for someone of the opposite sex, your evaluation of your inner feelings will also be distorted. Halo psychology may also be manifested in the evaluation of lovers, and its performance is roughly similar to self-evaluation. With a correct love attitude and appropriate criteria for choosing a mate, the level of rationality will be greatly improved, and the halo psychology caused by emotional fluctuations in the process of choosing a mate will not be easily entangled.

What is the halo phenomenon?

The so-called halo is a photography term. Anyone who knows photography knows that photographic imaging is caused by light sensitizing the emulsion layer of the film. When the light is too strong, it will not only penetrate the emulsion layer, but also pass through the emulsion to the film base and be reflected back by the film base, causing secondary photosensitization of the emulsion layer. In this way, a halo-like image will appear around the image, which is called a halo phenomenon.

The halo phenomenon will affect people's resolution and make people feel blurred about the original appearance of the image. Psychological research shows that similar phenomena sometimes occur in people's psychological activities. People often say "you see a little bit, but you are not as good as the rest". Psychologically speaking, it can be described as the extreme effect of halo.

The halo psychology in love

The halo psychology in love can be divided into two categories: oneself and others according to the objects it reflects. As far as oneself is concerned, it often occurs in the following situations: When one or two aspects of one's conditions (such as appearance, career, family, economic income, social relations, housing situation, etc.) are relatively good, one will rely on the superior conditions for choosing a mate. , being overly picky about your future spouse.

When you are pursued by multiple members of the opposite sex at the same time, especially in the face of enthusiastic praise from the opposite sex, you may become arrogant and have a tendency to self-evaluate.

When you feel sympathy or gratitude for someone of the opposite sex, your evaluation of your inner feelings will also be distorted.

Halo psychology may also be manifested in the evaluation of lovers, and its performance is roughly similar to self-evaluation.

How to overcome the halo mentality in love? You can rely on three "views":

1. Having an opinion is of course the right opinion. With a correct love attitude and appropriate criteria for choosing a mate, the level of rationality will be greatly improved, and the halo psychology caused by emotional fluctuations in the process of choosing a mate will not be easily entangled. This is like when taking pictures, if the light is too strong, you can add a color filter. The emotional light in love can also be adjusted through the color filter of reason.

2. Avoid prejudice and make a comprehensive analysis of yourself and others. Su Dongpo's poem says: "Viewed from the side, it looks like a ridge and a peak on the side, with different heights near and far." Only horizontal vision but no vertical vision; or only close vision but no long-distance vision will produce deviations in perception and understanding, leading to errors in mate selection and love.

3. Listen to opinions. As the saying goes: "Those who are involved are confused, but those who watch are clear." Carefully listening to and analyzing the opinions of parents, relatives, friends, etc., and brainstorming will also help you obtain correct opinions. However, you should not blindly follow other people's opinions, but "choose the good ones and follow them."

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