Looking for wedding customs in Penglai, Shandong

Penglai people usually go through three procedures when getting married: proposal, makeup, and wedding.

Proposal. Whether it is through introduction or free love, after the man and woman have been dating for a period of time and feel that they can talk about marriage, they can meet each other's parents. The man proposes to the girl's parents. If the girl's parents have a good impression of the boy, they can get engaged. The man wants to give the woman 1,001 yuan, which means that the woman is "one in a thousand." Now that the conditions are good, there are also offers of 10,001 yuan, so the woman is the "one in a million". In addition, the man should also give the woman bedding such as blankets, towels, quilts, and moss, as well as two pairs of socks, two red thread spikes, and a pack of needles. Each man and woman will hold a needle and sew it on the same thread and keep it together. , represents "a thousand-mile marriage is tied by a thread".

Inspiring makeup. After the man decides on the wedding date, he has to go to the woman’s house to inform him. Bring two pieces of red cloth and a few pounds of cotton to make cotton clothes and trousers. There is also a saying: if you want to be rich, wear red cotton trousers from your mother-in-law's house; if you want to be rich, wear a red cotton jacket from your mother-in-law's house.

Wedding. Then comes the wedding. When she gets up in the morning, the woman goes to the barber shop to put on makeup and then waits for the groom to come to welcome her. (The groom prepares cars at home, usually six or eight. Six cars are "Liu Liu Da Shun" and eight cars are "Fa". The cars are fully armed, and the car the bride is sitting in has flower baskets, bouquets, and other car decorations. The only thing on the car was the word "happy" (latte art)) The photographer followed the first car to take a video. When a man goes to the woman's house to welcome his bride, he must bring matchmaker meat, mandarin duck meat, as a gift to his mother-in-law. In addition, a bouquet of flowers must be presented to the woman, and then the woman's brother will take the sister off the kang and hand it over to the groom (to the effect that I have given my sister to you, and I must treat her well in the future) and then go to the yard to take a family photo. Farewell to parents, the bridegroom holds the bridegroom and is accompanied by four bridesmaids (the bridesmaids are usually aunts and sisters, not aunts, because we have a custom in Penglai: if aunts don’t pick them up, aunts won’t send them off. If aunts and sisters pick up their daughter-in-law, they will get sick. ) Therefore, the bridegroom’s family picks up the daughter-in-law from younger sisters instead of aunts or older sisters. The person who carries the chair is usually the younger brother, and the bride brings the chair (day) to the groom to live a good life. Later comes the "in-laws" (composed of the bride's grandfather, father, uncles, uncles, cousins, uncles, aunts and uncles - all male). The general idea is that if you meet your in-laws and leave your relatives to leave your daughter to your family, you should treat her like your own daughter from now on. When the car arrived at the entrance of the groom's village, he was stopped by the bride's wife, who started setting off firecrackers to remove the bad luck. The man who picked up the wife first peeled off a piece of candy and put it into the bride's mouth (sweetening the bride's mouth first) and then handed over a red envelope. Inside the red envelope Pretending to hold down money (so that the wife has money to spend). The chair (day) that took the chair was taken over (live a good life), and then the wife-in-law trouble started, and everyone cheered and hugged each other. The groom holds the bride, takes three steps back, two steps, turns around, kisses her on the lips, and then the woman performs a show, sings, and introduces her love story. When you arrive at the groom's front door, you should close the door and suppress your temper. You should live a good-tempered life in the future. After entering the door, you should sit on a chair and sit on the kang (sit firmly and live a good life). Then the bride will change clothes and eat a small meal (peaches made of flour brought by her parents). ) It is said that whoever eats it first gets the final say). After finishing the small meal, we start to sit down. Every time a dish is served, the chef will ask for a hard work fee (usually cigarettes, sugar, and sometimes red envelopes), otherwise the dish will not be served. Halfway through the meal, the bride and groom drink from a cup of wine, wrap their wrists around their wrists, and drink it together. Then the person accompanying the wife says some auspicious words of blessing. Such as: growing old together, loving each other for hundreds of years, having a son early, and so on. Every time a dish is served, the bride has to take out a chopstick and put it into a prepared bowl. After the banquet is over, she divides the dish into two portions, one for her mother-in-law and one for her parents' family. It represents the filial piety of the daughter-in-law. If she has food for herself, she will have food for the elderly. The man also has to send someone to bring a banquet to the woman. The bride-to-be is going home to say goodbye to the bride. At this time, the bride-to-be should avoid meeting the in-laws. Those who meet the in-laws should tell the bride that she should be filial to her parents-in-law and husband, love each other, respect each other, understand each other, and live in harmony. Stop quarreling and grinding your teeth, live a good life and get rich.