Say goodbye to the annoying "Xiong Haizi", cultivate children's border awareness, and let him move towards high emotional intelligence

If you are on a high-speed train or plane, and you are about to fall asleep, suddenly there are children shouting or chasing around, is your heart very annoyed? I want to say a few words, but I am afraid that others will say that I generally care about children, but if I don't say it, I will see that the parents of these children are indifferent and the people around me are disgusted.

In recent years, news about Xiong Haizi has been endless. When these three words are mentioned, everyone will feel helpless. Many people even blame Xiong Haizi's fault on his parents. Can't their parents see that such children are so unpopular in society? In fact, parents are also deeply worried about this, but they have no choice but to watch it fight.

The reason why people are very resistant to this kind of Xiong Haizi is that these children's emotional intelligence is very low, which leads to their lack of border awareness. It is this loss of sense of boundary that has been challenging the bottom line of others. There is no bottom line, so everyone will not welcome it.

Are parents so tolerant of their children? No one doesn't want their children to have a bright future and be welcomed by everyone in the society, so from now on, cultivate their border awareness as soon as possible.

To put it bluntly, in the relationship between people, children can clearly know what belongs to them and what belongs to the rights of others. No amount of noise can invade other people's private space. In fact, it is also a restriction for children to understand the border awareness, so that children can know what they should and should not do. After doing so, it will infringe upon others and arouse their antipathy.

1. The physical boundary is perceptible.

The most popular is to give you an example. Did we all draw the 38th parallel with our deskmates when we were children? This is a physical boundary. In children's minds, one side of the 38th parallel is their own private space, which they cannot cross or let the other side cross. This physical boundary makes children closely protected. Even the closest parents should respect their children. Don't probe into their privacy, let alone read their diaries.

2. Emotional boundaries are abstract.

It means that a person wants to get the greatest emotional security and comfort, so how big can this range be? For children, learn to respect and understand. For example, when playing all kinds of games, you should abide by the rules of the game, be able to put yourself in the other's shoes, never speak at will, and never make fun of others at will.

Border awareness is very important. If this awareness can be established, the emotional intelligence of children will be improved invisibly. So how to help children build in their daily lives?

First, parents themselves must first establish a sense of border.

Parents are children's teachers, which will let children imitate slowly, so we should set an example for children.

When checking out in the supermarket, parents should not cut in line with their children, walk on the sidewalk in the street, and don't take their children through the red light regardless of the danger. This is a concept of border consciousness. Imagine, if you often do these things and step on the scope of laws and regulations, how can you ask your children? To improve children's emotional intelligence and cultivate children's border awareness, parents should set an example and become good examples for their children.

Second, don't spoil children, let them shoulder the responsibility of family members.

In today's family, children grow up in doting, and parents are more responsive to their children's requirements. The days when clothes come to hand and food comes to mouth are endless. How to cultivate children's independence? Although the child is still young, he is also a member of the family. Parents should clearly tell him what he should do and what his parents can do to help himself. Doing housework as much as possible will not be bad for the child, but also cultivate his independent ability. Letting them take on family responsibilities is also a chance for children to grow up.

Third, resolutely say no to the unreasonable demands of children.

To let children have a good understanding of border awareness, parents should learn to say no when they grow up.

Children don't know what should be, what shouldn't be, what is reasonable and what is unreasonable, so parents should give their children a clear understanding at this time and resolutely refuse unreasonable demands, but the tone can be gentle. For example, when shopping, children will buy a toy, cry or even roll if they don't buy it. At this time, parents must stand firm, rationally reject them and say no to them! Let them realize what their parents' bottom line is, so that the border awareness will become clearer and clearer.

To love children is to teach them how to be human and how to become useful talents in society during their growth. Instead of blindly forbearing and blindly doting. Only when they can be independent as soon as possible and have this sense of boundary can they become people with high emotional intelligence.