Barber shop by the sea

Keigo Higashino once wrote a novel "Worry-Free Grocery Store" that touched countless people, giving us answers and hopes, and also giving us courage and strength.

The Barber Shop by the Sea recommended by Keigo Higashino is also a touching masterpiece. The author Dihara Howe uses six classic but ordinary stories to explain the relationship between parents and husband and wife in the family. It makes people scream after reading it. Isn't this our daily family relationship?

Huiyuan's Barber Shop by the Sea won the Naoki Award and the National Bookstore Award, and it is also Leonardo da Vinci's annual book. He said that nothing is more important than parents and husband and wife in interpersonal relationships. But for better or worse, this relationship will change over time.

Barber Shop by the Sea consists of six stories about different family relationships: Barber Shop by the Sea, Journey at that time, Letter from afar, Today's sky is still the sky, Clock without time and Adult Ceremony. It tells us an ordinary story between a father and son who are strangers, between a mother and a daughter who have always been antagonistic, between a couple whose feelings have been diluted by time, between a child and his parents who have been neglected and "forgotten" by their parents, between a father and son who are strangers but live in peace, and between a husband and wife who live in the grief of losing their daughter.

The light behind every short story is the strength we need in the emotion honed by life. Don't let every impulse become the source of regret in the future. We love our family, we love the immediate happiness, and we hope the future can be expected. But why do we want to be gentle and patient with our children, to give our husband and wife a kiss, to give our parents a hug, but our bodies react in the opposite direction, but our mouths say ugly words?

Perhaps in these six stories, we can find the answer, make peace with ourselves, let ourselves go, understand our family and embrace happiness.

When I first saw it, I just felt that the barber shop owner talked a lot and even told his guests all about his life. I didn't find the reason until I read it at last. I was moved to tears for a moment. This was not much to say, but the son came to his father who had never met before and gave him a chance to repent.

Before the shopkeeper didn't recognize the young man, he just said a few words about the hairstyle, and he didn't start to talk until he touched the special position on the young man's head. He asked about young people's work, said what to pay attention to when starting a business, and said that his son wanted to be a painter, so he inherited his father's ambition. Young people graduated from fine arts, which made him excited. This is the beauty of blood relationship, and my son fulfilled his dream for him.

Later, the owner said that he took over the barber shop and got married for the first time. The barber shop couldn't drink any more. He injured his first wife and she ran away. Later, after giving up life, I reopened the barber shop, and the effect was good. He married a second wife and gave birth to a son, the young man in front of him. Of course, they knew each other, but didn't say anything. However, the good times did not last long, and the barber shop was once again depressed. In order to escape from reality, the shopkeeper began to drink too much to find a woman, and even went to prison with a murder case, but his wife still refused to divorce. In order to get a divorce, he tricked his wife into being with another woman.

Having said that, he told the young people that he could not drag down his wife and son, so he divorced. I indirectly expressed my guilt for their mother and son, and also showed that I always loved them.

Finally, the shopkeeper said that the young man's hair was spinning in a special position, and there was a needle wound on the back of his head, which he fell while swinging as a child. Pointed out the relationship between the two, but not Joseph. He said that the swing was installed in the yard when he was a child. Even now, the swing has moved to the yard of this barber shop. He loves his son as much as he did when he was a child.

The young man finally said what he wanted. "I am going to have a wedding next week." This sentence is the most touching part of the whole story It was said by a son who was trying to find his father. Telling my father about life events is also a respect for my son, and it is also a son's forgiveness for his sinful father who has never fulfilled his father's responsibilities. He doesn't blame his father, and he hopes that from today on, his father will let himself go.

Finally, the shopkeeper stopped his son and wanted to see his face again. He finally showed all his disappointment. As a father who used to hide out of life and didn't want to face the reality, he still didn't recognize his son, but indirectly showed his strong feelings for his son. He is afraid that he will never see his son again in his lifetime.

On this day, just an hour's haircut gave a father a chance to make peace with the past. Maybe he will never mention the past again, maybe this is the only time in his life to face life directly. He was saved because of his son.

Mother is a face-saving and controlling woman. Her values are black and white. Whether she likes it or hates it, even her children are the object of her criticism. She is very picky about what she wears, very disciplined about the placement of things, and very strict about the children's lives. So that my daughter, who has been away from home for many years, will be criticized by her mother if she habitually looks at her clothes before going home to open the door.

The mother pinned her unfulfilled dreams on her two daughters and began to educate them at an early age. After my sister's car accident, my sister apricot became the only one who devoted herself to expectation. What she wants to draw and how much she wants to draw are all up to her mother. Apricot can't stand this torture. Not only should life be fixed, but also clothes and manners should be criticized and even dreams should be controlled.

Finally, apricot finally found a reason to run away from home after her relationship with her mother was denied. Although she knew that her mother was right to criticize her boyfriend, she chose to stay with him for five years in order to go against her mother. Many times, she will say in her heart, I'm sorry, mom, you are absolutely right. But at the thought of her mother's high desire for control, she insisted on not bowing.

Apricot has been working hard. 16 years later, she finally had her own career, which she gained through hard work and fierce competition. Although she has been talking about breaking up with her mother, she has been looking forward to getting her mother's approval through hard work one day. This is the obsession of most children living in the shadow of parents' criticism. I hope my parents who used to be critical of themselves can say, "Son, in my heart, you are the best."

However, when apricot came home with anxiety and hope and built a defense line to fight back, she found that her mother had forgotten what she had said in the past. In her mother's current cognition, she only remembers her family, her eldest daughter who died young, her soon-to-be-married son, apricot, the youngest daughter who will become a painter like her, her husband who has been standing behind everyone, and the cat. She turned back to the innocence of childhood, and apricot finally put down her heart and told her mother to come again next time.

At the end of the article, apricot said she was sorry for the lost shadow, but it's all right now. This reconciliation has finally arrived, but after such a long time, the girl who once struggled against it is no longer young, and the kneading of society has not eliminated her knot. It turns out that it takes someone to tie the bell to solve the problem.

Fortunately, in my lifetime, I can meet my former self and reach a century reconciliation. Fortunately, in my lifetime, I can still see my mother as innocent as a child, and I can know that my mother loves me.

Xiangzi married her husband Xiao Zhi for three years and gave birth to a daughter. Life is getting dull and trivial. Takayuki was a competent nanny when her daughter was born. But a few months later, he went back to work. He goes out early and comes back late every day, and the chances of counting on him for help are getting less and less. Xiangzi fell into the anxiety of taking care of the children alone. When the child keeps crying, she will want to go back to her dissatisfied job, which is better than her present life.

The arrival of her mother-in-law also deepened their little contradiction. In parenting, her mother-in-law thinks that what she eats is not important, she can't be so delicate, and she also pays attention to holding it. The room furniture looks at Feng Shui ... Xiangzi always resists filial piety in private, but filial piety is a filial son. He understood her mother because her father died and she liked to get along with Xiangzi.

Because of these accumulated contradictions, Xiangzi decided to go back to his mother's house to attract filial piety's attention. She took advantage of her mother-in-law to go out and left with her daughter. She just sent a message to her husband before getting on the bus, stating that she would run away from home, leaving her husband alone and unilaterally provoking the cold war.

But in fact, in the whole process, Xiangzi seemed angry, but he was always looking forward to her husband's appearance. She wrote down the place where she was going, and calculated that it would only take two hours from home to her parents' house, so she waited eagerly at that time. Seeing her husband's text message asked her to review her thoughtlessness and not to leave. Although the reply was a bit ugly, she was actually laughing. Even unknown information is regarded as filial piety for the first time. He told him not to come, but secretly said, come on, this is a lovely angry wife.

Xiangzi found his letter before his filial piety at his mother's house, and found that there were sweet words at that time, and he also remembered the difficulty of their being together. At that time, it was love, now it is marriage. The two gradually separated, and the concentration of love was gradually erased in life. However, after reading the letter, her heart still remembers the love at that time. At the same time, in the letter, she found Xiao's dream when he was young, that is, to work in a publishing house, so now he doesn't want to jump ship, but it has always been his dream.

Later, Xiangzi learned that the news might have been sent by his grandfather or grandmother who was already in heaven. She was shocked, but understood their intentions. At that time, the marriage of grandparents, Qian Shan, thousands of waters, separated by countless hurdles, ruthless war. Love is so hard that I have never met my son. Nowadays, in peacetime, the granddaughter who is in happiness does not know happiness. How did this happen? Cherish the happy time.

Finally, Xiangzi took the initiative to take her daughter home, but she didn't tell filial piety when she would come back to find a small way out. She thinks it's a good punishment for filial piety to help her parents-in-law do farm work.

Xiangzi is actually the representative of many of our married women. His patience was eroded by the relationship between the child and his mother-in-law, which made his wife feel anxious. However, for the husband, he doesn't understand this feeling and thinks that his wife is unreasonable.

This story is actually the process of Xiangzi's return to her mother's house to find love, because that letter, the letter from her husband when she was a child, and the wonderful information of her grandparents who were far away from home made her see the happiness in front of her.

Happiness is hard-won, so cherish it. She only left the letter that said "I like you, be my girlfriend", because she only needs to remember his love, and now it is a new beginning. The unpleasantness in other lives disappeared with the information of grandparents.

Xiaoxi, a little girl who is only in the third grade of primary school, is full of novelty to the world and tries to replace everything with the English she just learned. She wanted to be an adventurer, so she really set off, and the destination was the seaside. There is a warm sea home by the sea. She has only been there once, with her parents. This is a very happy day.

At that time, mom and dad were not divorced and dad was still alive. She just wants to be a little princess. But later, because dad couldn't write stories, he began to drink all day, and his mother divorced him. Soon, he fell down the stairs and left this world. Dad said he wanted to see the end of the rainbow, but his wish didn't come true. Xiaoxi wants to help him realize it.

Xiaoxi really wants to run away from home because her mother took her back to her uncle's house and was scolded by her aunt and cousin as a parasite. Mom is always yelling because she can't find a job, which makes Xiaoxi very depressed. Since she is not good, why did she move here? She thinks adults are always so headstrong, so she also wants to take big risks.

On the way of exploring, I met a little boy, Yang Tai Morishima. He hid in a garbage bag and pretended not to see it so as not to be beaten. Xiaoxi pulled him out of the garbage bag and took risks with him as a companion, and named him the forest. He has two fathers. His biological father drives a forklift and dreams of being a driver, but his current father often beats him. He also mentioned to Xiaoxi that when mom and dad sleep, he will go into the dog cage, so this is a child who is unwanted at home.

They didn't see the rainbow in the sky after the rain, but they saw the sea. She rushed into the sea. In the fishy smell of the sea and the fading light and shadow, the stream was awakened by reality. It turns out that her adventure has become a house, and she still has to go home and listen to her mother's sermon. The forest was awakened by the horn of a motorcycle and wanted to go home, otherwise it would be beaten by my father.

In order to protect the forest, she suggested that she should flee to the house by the sea, but she found that not all the seaside houses have warm homes for mom and dad. At this time, a big man appeared and saw the devastated forest and stream. No one wanted to go home. He took them back to his home. In the middle of the night, Xiaoxi woke up and smelled a familiar smell, and her memory was awakened. This may be the home of the sea. Xiaoxi decided to refuel tomorrow and take another road of hope.

However, the police came to arrest the big man because they suspected that he had kidnapped the two children. In order to save the big man, Xiaoxi loudly defended him. He is not a bad person, which means that all her hopes have come to an end and the forest will be sent back to that violent home. However, she is ready to save the forest, and calling the welfare department for help with the number written by the big man is the only feasible way to save her.

In the end, the sky and the sea are still hopelessly blue and have not changed at all. Just like Xiao Xi's life at the age of twelve, the people and environment that he doesn't want to face are still unavoidable. This is a big problem for adolescent girls. Adults always complain about life, but they don't change it. They want to change it, but they can't.

Through the adventure of a girl of 12 years old, this story describes the adults in children's eyes and their expectations for their parents. It's easy for children to see the world. They want their parents' warm company, a home in the sea with laughter, a father to explore the world with her, and a mother to change her life instead of complaining. Also, help her friends get the same happy life.

This is the best life a child can expect. The dearest parents accompany them to know the world. No lies, no complaints, no harm, only beauty. The sky at that time was not just the sky, but endless life.

In our family relationship, father is often a silent role. His love is as quiet as a mountain, but he is always there. Children's impressions of their father are mostly half-baked, and they rarely know what their father really looks like.

The hero's memory of his father is almost blank, and his father is always there, but he rarely accompanies the conversation. It was not until he got his father's relic, a watch he bought forty years ago, that he began to understand who his father really was. It turns out that my father loves to follow the fashion and will spend a lot of money to buy himself a watch and coat. When my father bought these things, it was actually the worst time in the family's economic situation. At that time, he and his brother had a terrible lunch. The TV was broken and never repaired, so my mother began to do odd jobs. In order to save face, my father ignored the life and death of his family. After learning about this, he had a very bad impression on his father, even dissatisfied.

Later, I chatted with the owner of the watch shop and remembered some memories related to my father, who loved photography and used a popular camera. They once saw a movie with their father. After the movie, they went to a restaurant. Father ordered a beef stew, pretending to be very skilled, but in fact the way he was burnt and knocked over proved that he had never eaten it. My father is just trying to save face. The scene of that day became the only deep memory of sons for their father. It turns out that my father had such an interesting time.

When the watch was repaired and settled, the hero suddenly remembered the moment when his father bought the watch, that is, when he jumped ship. Maybe his father is not selfish, but excited and happy. It's a pity that his father has passed away, and he didn't have a chance to talk about this past with his father. The watch is still there, but he can't dial it back. At this point, he no longer blames his father for buying luxury goods. It was not until the owner of the watch shop told him before he left that the watch was actually a fake that he really breathed a sigh of relief. His father is still the same father. Although he loves face, he loves his family more.

In the story, the owner of the watch shop is also an old man who has experienced many vicissitudes. There are many stagnant clocks in his shop, all of which record his regrets. If time could go back, his life would definitely be completely different. The daughter will not stay in the clock soon after birth, nor will the wife stay at the moment when she runs away from home. Everything is harmonious and beautiful. He knew that he had done something wrong, and the fantasy time was still there. He still had time to choose to let his wife have a caesarean section instead of obstinately giving birth. However, the clock has stopped and time is still running.

The owner of the watch shop asked the hero that there must be a moment when he wanted to put the hour hand back. The protagonist tried to hide his denial, but in fact he regretted it at the moment and resigned on impulse. He has fantasized for countless times that if only he had not submitted his resignation. But there is no if in life, and everyone has to pay for his momentary impulse.

Who hasn't had regrets? Life goes on. I wish I hadn't. I wish I had listened to other people's advice. A clock without time records the regrets at a certain moment in life and the regrets that you want to dial back when you can't go back. Cherish the present, pause for a moment before making every choice and think about whether the consequences are tolerable.

Five years ago, a ruthless car accident took away the ringtone of the couple's only daughter. Since then, this originally happy home has become a dark place shrouded in sadness.

The couple have been living in the thoughts and regrets of their daughter, especially the father, who has been blaming himself for being too busy and not spending too much time with his daughter. Just a few days before the car accident, he and his daughter were still in the cold war. It was not until the day of the accident that the bell was reconciled. She is wearing a scarf from her father. However, he blamed himself for not telling her to walk slowly that day, but urging her to hurry up. He blamed himself for not being nice and asked her to stay with him for a while.

Whenever I recall the scene that day, my father regrets it. He imagined countless scenes that might change history in exchange for the luxury of ringtones. If it had been a few seconds earlier, or a few seconds later, it might not have caused this tragedy.

Shortly after that day, the couple fell into a heavy yoke and stopped being happy and laughing because they would feel guilty; No longer watch TV with ringtones, because it is unfair to ringtones; No longer live a normal husband and wife life, because they failed to save their only daughter. It was not until a few years later that they could laugh slowly and watch TV normally, but a booklet about the adult ceremony of mobile phone ringtones brought them back to the abyss.

Father had a whim, and they went to the bar mitzvah to ask for a ringtone. Wearing a pair of clothes, his wife Mei painted a bell, putting on a vibrating sleeve kimono for her to attend the adult ceremony. These two men are determined to change their image and make themselves look younger. The process of this transformation has gradually moved them away from the grief that they are unwilling to face up to. When his wife, Miyuki, appeared in front of her husband with a brand-new look, he thought her wife was beautiful and wanted to live a husband-and-wife life again.

From the initial embarrassment to the determination to end the bar mitzvah, they need a chance to break this state. This adult gift is not only for the bell, but also for them who are alive.

At the ceremony, they listened carefully, not the ringtone, even though the uncles on the stage were about their age. Her husband stood up for Miyuki like a teenager when there were voices laughing at her nearby. When I came out, I was just like when I first fell in love, arm in arm, feeling relaxed and full of excitement between words.

Miyoko felt sorry for ringing the bell, because they were so happy. But my husband said, no, I'm happy to watch them laugh when the phone rings in the sky. In his mind, the bell will always be when he is two or three years old, and he will coax quarreling parents to make up, using the way of "one plus one equals several".

How much is one plus one? Of course not two. Because, in their family, one plus one equals three, and with mom and dad, there is a ringtone. Five years later, this coming-of-age ceremony is a gift from the ringtone of the mobile phone to parents. Sad days will always pass, and the future time will go on happily. After today, be born again.

Balzac once said that marriage produces life, love produces happiness, happiness disappears, and marriage still exists, which is more valuable than the combination of men and women. Therefore, to get a happy marriage, it is enough to have a friendship that forgives human shortcomings.

As for marriage, we are bound by love. Perhaps the passionate love will gradually disappear in the middle, but we are still the closest couple. Think of those couples who can't be together for life because of various accidents. Are we much happier? Everyone has shortcomings, you have them, and so do I. Why can you be so tolerant of outsiders and so harsh on each other?

When you find it difficult to go on, think about the light you see in each other when you are in love, think about each other's busy back when you are working for your family, think about whether you will do better if you change places, and think that it seems better to be together for the rest of your life.

Washington once said that it is wise for educated adults to make children feel that family is the happiest place in the world. This kind of beautiful affection, in my opinion, is as precious as the most exquisite gift that adults give their children.

About children, he is the crystallization of love, because love came to the world, with the angel's light ring. Although he is a little noisy and disrupts the pace of our life, he adds color and softness to our life. Since he has been brought into this world, it is his responsibility and the most precious gift to give him the truest love and let him live in a happy family.

About parents, maybe they have brought us some trauma, maybe they don't have a good educational concept, maybe they are too busy to ignore our growth. However, we just need to remember that they are the people who give us life. They are not good at expressing, but deep love is true. Love them the way we love them, not in their way.

Parents, children and husband and wife, life is rare. Cherish it and don't regret losing it. There is only one life, and the unhappiness on the way is not all. Happy times are always waiting behind.

Only by reconciling with ourselves, our family and the world can we embrace happiness.