How to understand women?

Do men know what women need?

Many times men don’t understand women’s thoughts because of women’s so-called reserve or excessive “self-esteem.” But if a man really loves this woman, he should know the following important things and work hard to do it.

A woman needs a man to listen to her patiently

Men are rational, and "conversation" in their minds is a way to study problems, debate rights and wrongs, and then find solutions. To accomplish this, he may interrupt the woman repeatedly to ask her to "get" what he means. However, women don't want them to express their opinions all the time. They just need a man to listen kindly, and they will keep talking until they feel comfortable again.

A woman hopes to become friends with her lover

A woman hopes that the man who grows old with her will regard her as a person of equal status, respect her strengths and tolerate her shortcomings, and she is willing to do the same treat him.

Women are afraid that they are not beautiful enough in the eyes of their lovers

Women need clear compliments: "I like your hairstyle", or "You look good in that white skirt", etc., Such words of praise can encourage a woman and help her find self-confidence, so that the love between the two will continue to be nourished.

Women also value their work

Women hope that men value their work as much as they value their own work. Men should listen carefully every time they talk about their own work. , if you communicate well in this regard, the relationship between you will become deeper and deeper.

Women do not fall in love as easily as men

According to expert statistics, about 25% of men fall in love with each other on the first date, but women fall in love on the fourth date. Only 15% of people fall in love with each other during a date. When women choose a mate, they usually pay more attention to various practical factors. Women may be looking forward to love, but they are still asking in their hearts: Is this man reliable? Therefore, in addition to paying attention to hair, clothes and politeness, men must also be tolerant, generous, loyal and reliable

Women like to hide their deepest feelings

If you ask a man : "Where did you buy this thing?" He will tell you directly. If you ask a woman, she will usually ask: "Is there any problem?" So when understanding a woman, don't just see what she shows. Instead, we should look for the answer from the most fundamental and substantive place.

Gifts are not about expensiveness, but sincerity

From a woman's point of view, the best gifts are those that are more plain, not those that are flashy and exaggerated. There was a man who collected Valentine's cards and gave them to his girlfriend at any time. Whenever she was in a bad mood, he would put a card somewhere where she might find it, which made her very happy. Although with the enrichment of social experience, there is also a lot of communication between men and women. However, sometimes, men do not understand women's thoughts, just like day does not understand the darkness of night.

What a woman wants a man to do

She wants her husband to think of her first in everything

The things that men and women are jealous of are completely different. Men are jealous of potential sexual rivals, and women are jealous of the time their husbands are not spending with her. Regardless of whether my husband is chatting with his buddies or playing golf during these times. She wants to feel that she comes first in his life.

If the husband always doesn’t get home until eight or nine o’clock in the evening, the wife can’t help but nag: “This makes me feel that my children and I are not important at all.” Sometimes even if he is at home, she feels All that remains at home is his shell. One sunny autumn day, she and her children were playing outside, while he stayed inside and watched TV. "I felt rejected."

Most couples only spend about 20 minutes talking face-to-face each week. Especially when they have children. A happy couple who has been married for 25 years has found that to build a good marital relationship, it is not only the quality of time that matters, but also the quantity of time.

She hopes that her husband can take the initiative to do housework

Her husband is envied by many girlfriends. Is it because her husband is particularly handsome or successful? No, it's because he shares the housework. "If I cook, he washes the dishes. When I wash the clothes, he is responsible for drying them." My husband feels proud when he mentions these things. What's even better is that he's not doing this to please her. He said: "We are a whole."

A wife needs to feel that her marriage is a cooperative relationship. Men's attitude is often that they are doing her housework to do her a favor, and those dirty dishes are her business and have nothing to do with him.

Who cleans up children's toys and bathes them seems like a piece of cake. But psychologists surveyed 950 married people and found that housework is one of the three most likely to cause conflicts (the first one is money). Another motivating factor for husbands is that if a man can share the responsibilities of housework and child-rearing, he will have a better marital relationship and a satisfying sex life.

She needs emotional intimacy

Axin and Li are busy with their own affairs all day long. He works as a photographer and she takes care of her two young children. Their busy lives a few years ago took a toll on the close relationship they once had. When they went to bed at night they actually looked like two strangers.

Staying connected during the day made a difference. Li said: "We talk on the phone. Sometimes it's just for a while, but I feel like we've spent some time together.

I just want to hear his voice. "Without early stage conversation, wives may feel stressed and alienated, and they may resist intimacy.

She doesn't want gifts like sexy lingerie and kitchen supplies

Why it doesn't seem like it What Big Issue Gifts Cause Big Trouble Between Couples? Women Consider the Meaning of Gifts Husbands often give their wives a new book by her favorite author, which sends the message: “I’m listening when you talk. , I want to make you happy. But an oven or sexy lingerie makes her feel like a cow. It's as if her husband is saying, "I don't know and I don't care what you like, so I just make myself happy." "

Men complained: "If she wanted me to give her something special for her birthday, why didn't she tell me? At the same time, the woman is thinking, "If I had to tell you, I feel less like a woman, because it means you are not thinking about me at all." "

Xiao Shui had endured for several years her husband giving her a knife as a gift. Later he finally understood how important the gift was to her. "Now if he sees me appreciating something, he will remember it. Stayed and surprised me on my birthday six months later. It makes me feel how much he loves me. ”

When a woman asks, “Do I look fat in these jeans?” "When asked this type of question, what they are actually saying is that they feel less confident. The correct response is not to simply say yes or no, but to make her feel loved and secure no matter what you say.

The secret of a woman is like a sunflower looking forward to the sunshine. When the warm sunshine is given to her whole body, she will be more brilliant and beautiful. For a woman, ideal love is not just a gentle touch, The first is spiritual communication and emotional communication.