Don't use cold as an excuse.

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A few days ago, I had dinner with a friend At the dinner table, I mentioned one of his classmates, who is the director of a local bureau. The friend came sourly: there is someone at home! I smiled: is there anyone in his family? He must have his own skills!

At that time, they were classmates, and this friend was smarter and more handsome than his classmates, and his academic performance was also good. The college entrance examination is a watershed. After graduating from high school, he farmed and worked at home. His classmates went to high school and college. He said insincerely: My parents are old farmers who farm land, and they have no money and no power at home. My classmate is only a third-rate university, and his father is a big boss who runs a factory and does business. His family bought him a good job with money and connections.

This friend owes his fate to his poor family, who is the farmer's parents, and his classmates' achievements to his rich family, who is the boss's father. It is said that forty is not confused, but this friend is still confused after forty! There has never been a savior in the world, and the road under your feet has always come out by yourself. When he was a student, he was busy dating a little girl in the Woods. Stepping into the society, he is eager for utility, wants to make a lot of money all day, and does some short-term and quick money-making jobs. From his twenties to his forties, he was not confused. So far, he has no skills.

There is a boy in the neighbor's house who clamors to study abroad after graduating from college and sells iron at home to collect tuition fees. He always puts his foot in his mouth: a person studying abroad like me should at least come from a worker's family or his parents are in business! Unfortunately, he was born in a peasant family, and his ancestors were farmers with their backs on loess.

His father died of serious illness in the second year of studying abroad. On his deathbed, the father told his family: Don't tell his son, let him study abroad with peace of mind. I can't help him in the future and I can't delay him any longer. He returned to China without any guilt, and accused his family and my late father of giving him the name of unfilial.

It was not easy to find a job in that era when returnees were flying all over the sky. He was too timid and picky, and abruptly changed himself from a "turtle" to a "kelp". Now, he has changed his rhetoric: a returnee like me, if he has a rich father or an official father, will certainly be able to find a job smoothly.

It is not terrible to be born in a cold family. What is terrible is this cold thinking. Parents and family try their best to lift you to a certain height, but you are still locked in the mud of the cold door and can't pull it out. What a pity!

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A new college student in the department, from the resume, all subjects are excellent. After four years in college, I won two inspirational scholarships. She applied for an assistant manager, and I arranged for her to make a form. I waited for a long time, but there was no news of her. I walked over and saw that the computer in front of her was blank. She mumbled, "I can't use a computer."

I was so surprised that my glasses on my nose almost fell to the ground. All the children in the kindergarten can use computers. An undergraduate told me that she couldn't use a computer. She really can't use a computer to edit a manuscript without simple typesetting. She doesn't know anything about writing format, can't send and receive emails by email, and can't compress multiple files and pictures.

She explained: I am a poor student, and my college tuition depends entirely on national student loans, four-year living expenses, inspirational scholarships and work-study programs. I suggest that she apply to the society for a computer training class and make up this class as soon as possible. Any company implements paperless office, and her unskilled computer application will affect her stay after three months.

There's a visitor in the office. Her ass seems to be stuck to a chair. She doesn't take the initiative to greet the guests, and she doesn't know how to pour tea and water for the guests. Basic social skills such as dealing with people are poor! There are three books in life. It seems that this girl has only read books with words, but far from reading books without words, the book of the soul is still a long way off!

I learned from the side that she was admitted to the provincial capital from the countryside and began to speak Mandarin when she went to college. She has no hobbies. To put it bluntly, since she was a child, she only knew how to study and didn't even know how to play. It is not enough for her to do odd jobs in her spare time, let alone participate in the club activities organized by the school. At school, what she does most through work-study programs is to tutor children in junior and senior high schools. She thinks she can be a good teacher, but she can't do other jobs dealing with adults.

After one year, except for the mid-term and final exams, she earned an average of six or seven hundred yuan a month. It's not that she doesn't want to change her living condition, buy a laptop, expand her social contacts and make up for her shortcomings, but she gave up because she was afraid that her classmates would make irresponsible remarks and that the school would cancel her qualification as a poor student. She spent four years in college in real poverty, and an old man used his mobile phone for four years.

Used computers can't afford a computer. She can buy one for about 1000 yuan. She discussed with her family to buy a second-hand laptop with the money from her tutor, but her mother said, son, you have food in your hand, so don't panic. Keep it well and don't spend it carelessly.

She doesn't have her own computer, and she doesn't have time to attend off-campus training courses. Many of her homework is handwritten, even her graduation thesis is handwritten, so I asked my classmates to help me print it.

She worked hard to get into college, so what? Poor thinking limited her and held her back. She is proud of how much savings she has, but she doesn't spend money and doesn't know how to invest herself.

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The gap between the rich and the poor and class differences have always existed, depending on whether you dare to face them squarely and cross them. When I was studying in my hometown, guests from all over the country would come to my hometown to collect insects every summer vacation.

When I was a sophomore, a Shanghai guest took his son in high school. When he learned that my son and I were both sophomores, he enthusiastically said: You are in the same grade, so we should communicate more together. He also said: My son went to the United States to study after graduating from high school, and his family has relatives there. I was secretly surprised that my best way out after graduating from high school was to study in a city in China, and this Shanghai boy stepped out of the country after graduating from high school.

When I was in college, I was also a child of a civilian family. At that time, there was no student loan for poor students in the country, and there were not so many financial aid policies for students in schools. All I can do is to increase revenue and reduce expenditure. My parents give me living expenses in 200 yuan every month, and 200 yuan has to pay all the daily expenses, including eating, dressing, socializing and buying daily necessities. I don't have time to go out to work when my homework is tight, so I can only save 200 yuan by this.

As long as I have free time, I will look for a job everywhere, working as a waiter at McDonald's, as a clerk in a supermarket and as a holiday promoter in a shopping mall. While working to earn living expenses, I try to shorten the gap with my classmates around me.

Students in small and medium-sized cities can play, and they all have one or two specialties. Amy from Chongqing can play the beautiful piano, and Wang Ling from Anhui can dance the peacock dance ... I can't sing or dance. For a long time, because I didn't have a good hobby, I was depressed and felt inferior.

I fell in love with photography by accident. Talent is innate. Once I find it, don't miss it. There is no photography class in the department, so I buy books to teach myself. Many students brought expensive film cameras from home. I didn't have a camera, so I went to the studio as an apprentice to help photographers. I spent two semesters, saving twenty or thirty dollars between my teeth every month. A year later, I had my first old-fashioned mechanical camera. Photography is a hobby that burns money. There were no digital cameras on the market at that time. Apart from eating, most of my living expenses are spent on filming and developing.

When I was tutoring a third-grade pupil, the boy talked endlessly about computer applications. Suddenly feel behind the times. An eight-or nine-year-old boy in the city has mastered computer operation. I haven't touched the computer since I went to college. The computer room of the school is only used by students of computer department, but it is still not enough. I spent my evening working as a coolie in a copying and typing company near my school, studying text typesetting and graphic design, and got an intermediate certificate in computer one year later.

After graduating from college, I came to a strange city and made my own way. In just a few years, I have completed the primitive accumulation and can freely choose the life I want. Some people say that I am a lucky person and met Bole in the workplace. I never deny the significance of Bole and noble people in my life. But can you deny the efforts of a good girl?

A few years later, I went back to school to study foreign languages full-time. A young lady born after 90 is unwilling to ask me: Sister Xu, is life really destiny takes a hand? Boys and girls her age in the class learn foreign languages in order to study abroad. Only she is trying to find a better job. From her, I suddenly saw myself a few years ago. I told her with a smile: don't envy others being sent abroad by their parents today. One day, you will go abroad on your own and take your parents to travel abroad. Seeing that her face was still full of melancholy, I teased: an unreliable person like me can still live freely in the law of the jungle. You are a hundred times stronger than me, and you will definitely do better than me in the future!

Please believe: anything is possible, and we don't need to set limits on our lives! Don't use poverty as an excuse. What is poor is our family, our background, not our brains. If you have a rich brain, the upset is the driving force of the rise and counterattack, not the resistance of the rise and counterattack.

About the author: Xu Junxia, media writer, pen name: Haifeng, WeChat WeChat official account: Qilu Haifeng (ID: ID:haishangfeng20 16).

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