I especially hope you can succeed, because I know if you can, so can I.

Illuminate others by the way.

Show the hope of living and pass it on.

-Ma Ran "The more you write, the more you understand"

I have been asked many times recently: How do you keep your study friends?

I also asked myself gently: Yes, how do you keep those who come to you?

Thought for a long time, no solution.

Because, I never thought I would keep them.

If you really want an answer, this sentence in Ran Ran's "The more you write, the more you understand" is the best answer.

Live for yourself.

Illuminate others by the way.

Show the hope of living and pass it on.

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"Because I allow myself, I want to allow others." This is what my little friend Tong said when sharing, and I deeply agree.

I am full of shortcomings, but I stubbornly live according to my own wishes, and I live in it.

They watched me try, watch me fail, and watch me do something bit by bit. They are with me, and I am with them. We create together and grow together.

Because I allow myself, I also want to allow them.

I tried my best to show live high the original appearance, and also led them to see themselves and live the original appearance.

I hope to have a ceremony after reading Love Yourself and Five Languages of Love. We ordered cakes, prepared snacks and fruits, took floor mats, walked into the spring, ran wildly on the grass, laughed under the blue sky, shared our feelings in the Woods, and learned from the sound of birds and gongs and drums. The friends who are good at photography left a wonderful moment for everyone.

In the photo, they smiled in front of me one by one. In my eyes, I see the shining souls around me, so I write down my blessings to them.

When I sent these blessings to them, my little friend Ann responded in the group: "I love you, and I love myself more when I am with you."

Someone can always express my feelings in the most appropriate words. I put this sentence in a group photo and gave it to them and myself.

Suddenly, I remembered what my little friend Jane said to me. She said, "Teacher Dandan, I especially hope you can succeed, because I think if you can succeed, I will succeed."

Some people will succeed because many people want him to succeed. I am lucky to be the person that others hope to succeed. Before this success, I tried my best to do every little thing in my life and make myself worthy of that success.

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If I just "live for myself", maybe I won't get such feedback:

Another sentence is "by the way, illuminate others." Although it is "illuminating others by the way", the light may be much weaker if you don't put in the "heart".

I'm really attentive.

I set up a stage with my heart and let my friends contribute to the reading club. I did three things for this.

First of all, contribute part of yourself and leave some for others to do.

I prepared a red wine glass, I prepared red wine once, and the second red wine was brought by my friend.

I have prepared all kinds of tea sets, some for kungfu tea, some for scented tea and some for white water. Also prepared a variety of tea, scented tea, Pu 'er, Tieguanyin, black tea, honeysuckle, ginger, brown sugar, lemon; Boil water to make tea, but I didn't make it.

I prepared flowers, vases, flower arrangements and pruning, all made by friends.

I have prepared an essential oil incense machine, candles, what essential oil to smoke, roses or wild oranges, mint or sandalwood. It's up to my friend whether to light a candle or not.

I treat you as I can, and you should treat yourself with your actions.

Second, there are some things that I can't do, and I also need encouragement and help.

The desk in the studio is made of wood, so it is difficult for me to move it myself. I need everyone to repair the table together. After the reading meeting, restore the desks and chairs to their original state.

Sometimes I have other classes in the studio, the floor is dirty, the books are in a mess, and I don't have time to clean up. Sometimes, I need your help to clean up, or even clean up.

Everyone has high energy and naturally has low energy. Book club fixed on Wednesday, sometimes my energy is very low. At this time, I need to be gently caught by everyone.

Sometimes, I can give; Sometimes I need them to pay.

Third, see their contribution and let everyone see their contribution.

Every time I read a book, I try to remember to thank every little friend for his contribution, and I will encourage all my little friends to thank him. Sometimes I forget, here, thank them very much for their tolerance.

Although our friends don't want to ask for thanks when they make contributions, it is precisely because of this that we should let everyone see their contributions.

Everyone contributes to the reading club. It no longer belongs to someone, but to everyone in the reading club.

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You and your little friend * * * created a reading club that belongs to each of you. Next, let your friends show their uniqueness on the stage of the book club.

I am very happy to tell you about the uniqueness of my friends at Wednesday's sugar reading club.

The master of essential oil money, every time you read a book, it will bring a different experience of essential oil. On cold-prone days, she prepares mint for everyone; On sunny days, she will bring the fragrance of roses; When a friend brings a baby, she will ask everyone to wash their hands and disinfect them with orange essential oil.

Hong, an elegant little woman, likes baking and always has different snacks, such as biscuits, cakes and peanut cakes. I really miss her snacks these days when she gave birth to a baby.

Ann likes photography. She has a strong sense of beauty. Every time we study, she leaves us a wonderful moment. Waiting for her to send a circle of friends has become our expectation after every book club.

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There are also many small partners who bring different experiences. At the reading club, we enjoy professional services from different industries. The little friends also showed their uniqueness.

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If you are satisfied with this step, there is still a distance between you and me.

Sugar cube reading club, with its own aura and good books as the medium, creates a field of "no judgment, no criticism, no accusation, only companionship", so that everyone can see themselves in a safe environment and grow from each other's stories.

Reading club leads people, we can not only pass on these, but also give more.

Guess what? The ultimate secret weapon is:

Provide value beyond the expectations of small partners and support the real growth of small partners.

Some of my reading friends have known each other for more than a year, and everyone can see their growth these days when I study with them.

Jane, a master of engineering, left the workplace to take care of the children full-time. When she came, she wanted to find her sense of value through Amway. Now, he is the curator of a picture book museum. In addition to choosing good picture books for his children, he also chooses good picture books for more children. At the same time, she kept writing with me for a year and wrote hundreds of thousands of words on the blackboard. Of course, she is doing well in Amway now.

Qian used to be a high school teacher. She gave up her job and came to Shanghai, but she gave up her job because she had a child. Now, she is a professional master of essential oil. While taking care of the children, she is willing to expand her career and prepare one essential oil experience after another for the busy elites in Shanghai's high-rise buildings.

A, the middle level of the company, life is not busy or idle, work is not good or bad, compared with others, it looks good, and promotion seems not easy. Now, she is busy with her current job, doing the selection and editing of official WeChat accounts in her spare time, and teaching herself community operation.

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If you are HR, you can contact me for more information about your friend. Of course, I know you're not. You just want to know what I have done to set off their Excellence. Here, remember to reward after reading the article.

Keep sharing. I did three things.

Let's share some practical ways to do things first.

Share some useful methods that you have practiced.

For example, I will share my own practices, how to determine the goals that suit me, how to make an executable plan, and how to encourage myself to complete the plan and achieve the goal.

You can also share some useful methods you have seen.

The key is not to forget to tell him that there are other ways to get advice from others besides the way you share it, and he can choose one to do it.

Second, link more resources and enjoy all resources.

My ability is limited. I can borrow wisdom and ability.

Recommend different courses to different friends, share the books I have read with friends in need, take friends to activities in Ran Ran, take friends who are interested in community operation to the signing ceremony of Uncle Akiba, and bring friends who like writing into the 007 writing community.

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Encourage everyone to go out and broaden their horizons.

Third, try your best to provide support for small partners who want to do something.

I like the sharing of resources, especially the integration and utilization of internal resources.

I will provide venues for friends who want to hold activities, and I will recommend friends or friends with children at home to go to Jianyi photo gallery; Will recommend friends who need essential oil to Qian's essential oil studio; I suggest that in the season when oranges are ripe, I should publicize my own orange orchard to you. It will also provide all relevant information for friends who want to be leaders of the book club.

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five

A friend said: You try your best to help others, aren't you afraid that others are better than you?

I smiled.

I once said: In the future, my best point is that I can bring out people who are better than me.

The universe is vast and rich in material, which can satisfy everyone. What others get is not what I lose.

Who said that all the people who walked out of me were better people, not my signature?

Today, I will share my wardrobe cheats with you. If you find it useful and enlightening, do it quickly. After all, someone gave you a bowl of rice, but there was no way to feed you.

Wait, don't run so fast, go and reward first.