How to be an interesting person like Gao?

Good-looking skins are the same, and interesting souls are one in a million.

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Some time ago, a topic was widely circulated on the internet: who do you choose for the interesting and boring?

Netizens' brains are wide open and they all say:

"You can't judge a book by its cover, but all that glitters is not its cover. Highly talented and humorous, it can add a lot of fun to life. Such people are very likable. So I chose Daniel Wu. "

"A good skin is only twenty or thirty years, and good eloquence is eternal, so I choose Daniel Wu."

"Good-looking skins are the same, and interesting souls are one in a million. I choose Daniel Wu. "

This reminds me of a roommate in college, a standard appearance association. Before, she only liked handsome guys. Counting her former boyfriends, none of them are offline. Although she is not as good as Daniel Wu, she is a little fresh meat that can be recognized at a glance.

In her opinion, finding a handsome boy as a boyfriend and just looking at that face can minimize the chances of quarreling.

However, after several semesters, she began to sigh:

There is a boyfriend who will invite her to dinner, go shopping and watch movies at first. After their relationship is stable, her boyfriend will stay at home and lie down on weekends. She doesn't seem interested in anything.

Roommates suggest going to the movies, and boyfriends find it troublesome to go out, so it is better to go online directly to watch it. My roommate suggested climbing the mountain, but my boyfriend felt too tired, so he might as well brush his mobile phone at home.

There is also a boyfriend, any holiday or anniversary is as usual in his eyes, and the days are as plain as water.

Once, my roommate didn't receive a sign from her boyfriend for his birthday. I resisted disappointment and said to him, forget it, I don't like birthdays very much anyway. I didn't expect him to follow his roommate's words. Yes, after a year, he is one year older. Anyway, there is no point in celebrating his birthday!

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Having been in love several times, my roommate found it really boring to be with a boring man.

Finally, she finally realized that if you can't have beauty and fun at the same time, you must choose an interesting man.

So, what are the characteristics of interesting people?

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First of all, interesting people are expected.

Material is connotation, and connotation is height, depth, width and thickness.

For example, Gao can hold music, talk about literature and history, and get comments because of his content.

After Komatsu's strange story was broadcast two years ago, my friends have been urging me to watch it. At first, I was not interested in this ugly fat man with an upside-down face.

But after reading the first issue, I found that the talent of this ugly and fat man is a pyramid.

When it comes to the World Cup, he can talk about religion, culture, history and even bad temper from the flags of participating countries.

He talks about history, from Nanming to Europe, to Brazil, to Taiwan Province Province, to Australia, and all over the world.

What is commendable is that the history he talked about, without the accumulation of data and historical facts, is to string together some historical events according to his own ideas. Even people who don't know much about history won't be unbearable because of the strange subject matter.

His humor can be seen everywhere in life. When Weibo's middle and high selfies were teased by netizens, they were not only angry, but also entertained themselves.

For such an interesting and knowledgeable person, even if he encounters adversity, he can face it with a smile and easily resolve it.

20 1 1, Gao was sentenced to six months' detention for drunk driving. But he said that half a year in prison was the happiest time of his life.

"At that time, I seemed to have returned to the Tang Dynasty. The pace of life every day is very slow, which makes me completely calm down and think about some problems about life. I learned a lot. I feel that I am not in jail, but I am closed to practice. "

Later, after he got out of prison, he only said four words: never drunk driving.

On the surface, a person's knowledge reserve and interest level are not necessarily related, but in deeper logic, they are necessarily proportional.

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Secondly, interesting people are always loyal to their own hearts and never cater to others.

As many people know, Gao's family background is prominent, which is a fact that can be found online:

My parents are Professor Tsinghua University, my mother is a student of Liang Sicheng, my grandfather is the first president of Shenzhen University and an academician of the two academies, my grandmother is one of the founders of Beijing Institute of Aeronautics and Astronautics, and my uncle is the head of the department of radio and electronics in Tsinghua University. ...

With this genetic background, it seems that the ultimate career destination should be a tall scientific researcher. But in order to pursue his musical dream, he resolutely dropped out of Tsinghua University and played music with Lao Lang.

He said: "When my parents trained me to play the piano, play chess, calligraphy and painting, I originally wanted to be a scientist with artistic accomplishment, but I turned out to be an artist who knew something about pediatrics."

Zhihu gave an example when he talked about fun when answering the main Wang Xiao circle:

In A Dream of Red Mansions, it is recognized that Daiyu Xiangyun is interesting and Tanchun Wang Xifeng is interesting. In contrast, Baochai is not so interesting.

What's interesting about the first four people?

Lin Daiyu: Burying flowers is a game that most people can't think of. Mouth base, "eat with locusts" and so on.

Shi Xiangyun: Heroic, I was drunk and fell asleep on a big stone. I was accused of being a beggar, but I was justly refuted.

Jia Tanchun: A toy collector, a small stove made of red mud, I begged Baoyu to buy him something fun.

Wang Xifeng: You can tell jokes, but quick words make you sharp.

Why are these four people so interesting? Because they all have one thing in common-freedom of life and never cater to others.

Therefore, Daiyu and Shi Xiangyun have a small temper, Tanchun has a big temper, and Wang Xifeng has a violent temper. Neither Yingchun nor Baochai has a temper.

Psychologist Berlyne defines fun as: being interested is an emotion highly related to uncertainty.

Let's extend this definition, that is, fun is an emotion that can bring people a sense of surprise.

Therefore, the above four interesting people are actually not ladies, ladies and daughter-in-law images that meet the standards of the times. And their interesting point is precisely the point that does not meet their identity.

When we saw that all Olympic athletes were talking about the so-called "standard answer" when interviewed by reporters, Fu, who didn't follow the routine, gave us a heartfelt and heartfelt answer, which would make us feel that this girl is very interesting.

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Interesting people don't cater to others. Therefore, when we deliberately make ourselves interested in someone, we are slowly becoming boring.

If we can't be an interesting person, then try to make life interesting.

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The possibility of bravely trying life.

Many people complain that their life is boring. In fact, they have given up the right to choose, so they live a "home-company" life step by step.

Sometimes, we need to live more freely and try something we have never done before.

I admire Jiang's chic most. She is an actress, lyricist, singer and record producer. However, her identity is far more than that.

She published the book "I am Parthenocissus xiaojiang", which recorded her growth and feelings.

She resolutely went to the mountainous area to teach and became Xiaojiang's favorite teacher.

She traveled to Africa at the most popular time and brought back beautiful photos.

It is worth mentioning that on 20 15, Jiang won the only female photographer award in China District of National Geographic Global Photography Competition.

When people questioned her fidgeting or even putting on a show, she just responded faintly: many people told you how to go this way ... in fact, only you know the direction you will eventually take.

From an actress to a singer to a teaching teacher to a photographer, her identity can be switched so freely precisely because she has always kept her choice and dared to try.

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Live with a sense of ceremony

There is a dialogue about the sense of ceremony in The Little Prince:

The fox said, "You'd better come at the same time every day. For example, if you come at four o'clock in the afternoon, I will feel happy from three o'clock. The closer the time is, the happier I am.

At four o'clock, I will be on pins and needles; I will find the price of happiness.

However, if you come at any time, I don't know when to prepare my mood ... there should be a certain ceremony. "

"What is the ceremony?" Asked the little prince.

"This is also something that is often forgotten." The fox said, "It just makes one day different from other days and one moment different from other moments."

In the words of the columnist "I'm bored", the significance of ritual sense to life lies in treating seemingly boring things in life with a solemn and serious attitude. No matter what others do, you can really find the joy of life by doing things seriously.

You can replace the empty bottle on your desk with a bunch of flowers every day and start your day's work in high spirits; Take a graduation trip and bid farewell to yourself as a student; Have a romantic candlelight dinner on your wedding anniversary and start a new era of marriage. ...

I hope you and I can have a poetic world, and I hope that in our lifetime, you and I will have the honor to meet and become the interesting one in each other's lives.

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