The highest accomplishment is to respect people who are different from you.

Lead: cultured people are the cleverest. They understand that they are the mirror of others, and what attitude you take towards others will be countered by others. Share an inspirational article on life, welcome to read.

The highest accomplishment is to respect people who are different from you.

Text/Ai Xiaoyang

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Go to the art gallery to see the exhibition and get to know Axi and her new boyfriend. A Xi will change her boyfriend for a change of mood, but I feel good about this boyfriend. Nice name, too. I'm Jane White. She is a teacher in an art school, gentle and gentle. Because of the good impression, after watching the art exhibition, everyone had dinner together.

The highest accomplishment is to respect people who are different from you.

It was only at dinner that I realized that my girlfriend who went with me opened her own photography studio. Jane talked about the Japanese artist Mika Ninagawa. It's not that I don't like Mr. Nishikawa's works, but that my friends don't. So when Jane talks a lot, she always eats vegetables silently.

Jane couldn't help asking, "Are you a photographer and don't study Mika Ninagawa?" My friend has to tell the truth: I don't like her style.

The second half of the dinner became a special speech by Jane White to pay tribute to the teacher. He tried to convince my friends that Mika Ninagawa was great. You should like her. You must like her. My friend has always been very gentle, and finally he was forced to say, "It is my freedom not to like her works."

"The Japanese photographer, who do you like?"

"Daido Moriyama and Nobuyoshi Araki"

"You're kidding! There must be a man living in your heart! "

Fortunately, the meal is finished. I dragged my friend to the parking lot. When asked about her impression of Jane White, she said, "Very talented, but unfortunately uneducated."

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I asked her what she thought was self-cultivation, and she said that like Bai Xianyong, let others have the right to "dislike".

Taiwan Province host Chen Wenxi and writer Bai Xianyong are good friends. Bai Xianyong's youth version of Peony Pavilion caused a sensation in three places across the Taiwan Strait. Many young people in the mainland know Bai Xianyong not through the novel Death Story and The Last Night of Jin Daban, but the youth version of Peony Pavilion. Chen Wenxi is not interested in this great, glorious and tasteful talk about art.

After Bai Xianyong discovered it, he seldom talked about the performance of the youth version of Peony Pavilion in front of Chen Wenxi, let alone asked her to comment. But this does not prevent them from continuing to be friends. Chen Wenxi said, "I am very grateful for this! He can innovate, I can be stubborn, and no one will convince anyone. "

"This is self-cultivation. Forgive others' dislike' and respect others' differences with you. Even the greatest artists, the most expensive luxuries and the most beautiful people in the world don't need everyone to appreciate and like them. " The friend said.

Many people can help you open the car door, invite you to dinner and praise you for your beauty, but when you meet different opinions, you will be exposed to lack of self-cultivation and become impatient and aggressive.

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Self-cultivation is a complex problem, and its basic part overlaps with education. For example, don't throw rubbish everywhere, don't make noise in public, be good at listening, have the spirit of contract and so on. But the biggest difference between self-cultivation and education is that education is a habit and the result of family education and school education. Self-cultivation is wisdom, that is, constantly overcoming one's possessiveness and competitiveness, slowly and steadily tolerating, and polishing one's stone-like self into moist and rough jade.

A truly educated person never tells others what to do with his life. The way they get respect is not to refute or defeat anyone, but to exchange respect for respect and freedom for freedom.

I know a few. My husband likes durian very much, and my wife thinks it stinks. But when my wife visits a fruit shop, she will take the initiative to buy durian. Husband is even more ingenious, moving a chair, going to the grass in the community, eating and drinking while basking in the sun, drying his hands and mouth with wet paper towels, chewing two pieces of gum and then going home.

It's good to be together with educated couples. No matter whether love has turned into affection or not, at least I don't have to become you.

Those who are kind to you on the surface always interfere with you and discipline you, hoping that you will be his shadow, and no matter how deep love can make up for the shallowness of training.

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Self-cultivation is also reflected in the tolerance and acceptance of ethnic minorities.

I was dragged to a funeral class by a friend. The teacher used to be a young woman in literature and art, but later she published an autobiography and became a writer, and began to study psychology and funeral. Most students are her fans. She nodded everything she said. Occasionally, one or two people will stand up and ask questions. The teacher gently interrupted the question before it was over.

In the whole communication process, I always feel that I am being questioned and kidnapped, which is particularly uncomfortable. Later, I read her book, and there was a passage in it that said: Every time I see a man and a woman pushing a child, I feel sorry for them. Their world is so narrow. ...

It turns out that studying psychology has not made her tolerant, intelligent and educated, but has become narrow-minded, conceited and rude, with "I am the most correct" written on her face forever.

Educated people seldom think that they are correct and advanced, and they respect everyone's efforts and choices.

A cultured person is neither optimistic nor pessimistic, but objective. They don't believe that there are people with the same views and interests in the world, just as they don't believe that there are two identical leaves. They are very friendly to friends and relatives. I will be nice to you because you are human, not because you are like me.

Educated people are the cleverest. They understand that they are the mirror of others, and what attitude you take towards others will be countered by others.

When you are soft, the world will be gentle with you. After all, we don't live for exams, and we don't have to spell it right or win or lose, but to see who lives more comfortably and freely.

Self-cultivation is a freedom. Give others freedom and convenience.