Jiangsu Gaoyou engagement custom?

I'm from Gaoyou, where we got engaged. It seems that the man's family holds a banquet, and the relatives of the woman's family (only relatives, no friends, usually close relatives, unlike marriage, all relatives related to marriage are called) charter a car to the man's house for dinner, and then send it back to the woman's relatives' house after dinner. The man wants to buy the woman three or four gold, two sets of clothes, and then the wedding gift. This is not the same as a bride price. If you are engaged, that's what men mean. Generally speaking, it is 5 thousand to 10 thousand. According to the situation of each family, you can give more money. To tell the truth, it seems that both the man and the woman's family will feel very proud.

But now, like our generation, some of them are simple. As long as both parents reach an agreement, the two families will go to a restaurant to eat together and buy all the clothes they need, as long as they are happy together, and it will also save unnecessary trouble, because if you hold a banquet at home, there may seem to be many contradictions, because many parties are involved.