You have to be confident and become your own boss

Friends, you have to be confident and strive to be your own boss! This "bole" does not mean that you will definitely succeed, but at least it will make you better and better.

In the past, I didn’t dare to try the things I liked. I always put the words “fear of embarrassment if I don’t do it well” first. Over time, my life was filled with “unconfidence” and I would be timid about strangers. people, things, or even the environment; dare not express one's thoughts; always think with a pessimistic attitude, lacking the courage to move forward...

As I grow older, one day, I told myself to learn to change and strive to be the best version of myself.

(1) Abandon timidity and have the courage to try what you want in your heart

Will there be some friends like me who clearly want to do something but are afraid of not doing it well? give up.

In the past, even if countless ideas flashed through my mind, I would never write a word, because I always felt that it would be embarrassing to be read by everyone if my literary talent was not good, so I "storage" this hobby in my heart. Countless years.

I tried to write when blogs were still popular, but I immediately deleted them immediately. My mentality at that time was: "Don't be embarrassed." Later, when I wrote articles in QQ space, I could only read them at that time. They are all familiar people around me. Sometimes when I get likes, I just think: "It's just the emotional points given by acquaintances after reading it." Not long after, I was not confident and kept all the articles private. In this way, in fact, I obviously like words, but I never wrote again later.

Until one day, I said to myself: "There is obviously something I want to do, why don't I try to do it?" In order not to let myself regret it, starting from 2016, I tried to start I wrote articles and learned to express my thoughts. Although my writing was not good enough, I still mustered up the courage. Those few likes, comments and attention really gave me great encouragement and confidence at the moment. I sincerely thank every stranger who has given me encouragement. Slowly, I became more courageous and preferred to write down my feelings and thoughts in words. I also loved to think about the people and things around me. I also learned to write articles on various topics. I even began to hope that one day I could pass My own efforts make my articles more meaningful. Yes, even this small change helped me find the meaning.

If there is something you like, it can make you better. Don’t be afraid of being embarrassed if you don’t do well and give up on your dream. As long as you work hard, it is enough. Even if you fail, it is a valuable experience. . Just like some time ago, I worked up the courage to contribute to the public account. Although it failed, I was still very excited because I would not regret it if I tried it. What you fear most in life is not failure but regret, isn't it? !

(2) Have your own passion and live a life you like

? "Boring" was my favorite mantra. When I had nothing to do at home, besides watching TV, There is really nothing to do while playing on the phone.

? "What are your specialties and hobbies?" Such a simple question, I really didn't know how to answer. At that time, people asked me, what do you like, but I said none, and I was not even interested in food. So, they immediately said to me: "If you don't like anything, what's the point of your life?".

Gradually, I reflected on why in the eyes of others, I was such a boring person and such a meaningless person in life. One day after this state of affairs continued for many years, I suddenly fell in love with mobile photography, which was the beginning of finding my passion.

One day when I was walking in the park, I saw the sunshine scattered among the trees, so I picked up my phone and took a photo. It was from that moment on that I fell in love with photography and observing the beauty that I encounter every day. , and thus became more passionate about life, and gradually started to like traveling from a person who was super at home and didn’t like to go out. When I couldn't go out during the epidemic last year, photography also brought a lot of fun to my life. I previously wrote an article about the insights brought by photography. Some of the photos in it were taken at home during the epidemic. For the first time, I truly felt that staying at home can be so fun.

Photography has been my lifelong passion, because it has changed me a lot, allowing me to learn to discover the beauty of the world from different angles, and to enjoy life more, because in addition to the scenery, there is also the fireworks of life.

Having your own passion and living your own life should be the most ideal state for everyone. For love, sometimes you really need to discover it on your own, because only you know your own preferences and strengths best. After I became interested in photography, I also had a hobby of painting. I just accidentally saw a painting video, and I immediately bought myself tools and started practicing. I am actually a three-minute person, and I was hesitant at first. Will you persevere, just like when I was a child, my mother enrolled me in the Children's Palace drawing class, and then I didn't want to learn it after a day. Later, my mother said to me: "Others can learn to be famous, but you can't learn anything by sending you to this class."

"Thinking about what I said at that time, I am hahaha... But how will you know the result if you don't do it? So after the brush arrived, I couldn't wait to start the painting journey. Unexpectedly, I fell in love with it right away. Just now At the beginning, the most impatient thing was to go home from get off work and paint. I would patiently paint one picture every day, which suddenly enriched my life. It was no longer limited to mobile phones. I really enjoyed the process of painting from black and white to color. Just like our life, it gradually becomes rich from a blank piece of paper

In this way, I am no longer the person who can't even answer my hobbies and often talks about "boring". Now I have a more confident and interesting life.

Some hobbies don’t cost you anything, but they can bring you a positive life and help you live the life you like. Getting closer.

(3) Encourage yourself and don’t care too much about other people’s evaluation of you

In today’s society, under strong pressure, many people will appear more or less. For various emotional problems, "self-encouragement" has become a particularly important thing.

I want to ask myself: "Why do you always care about other people's opinions? ! Who do you live for? ! Is it to please others, or do you just want to be a person with a perfect impression? ! ”

When I did things, I often thought about other people’s opinions before speaking, which made me too entangled and unhappy. I often blamed myself because I didn’t speak well to others or didn’t do something well. In fact, Maybe there is no displeasure or concern in the hearts of others, but I am full of sadness on the sidelines. Sometimes, the more I want to do well, I am nervous and afraid because I care too much, which leads to the unsatisfactory final result over time. , people gradually become tense. They always end up being an unhappy "good guy" because they care about what others think.

But life is yours, so why should you care about everyone else's feelings. ? ! I often envy those who live a happy life without caring about anything. I hope to be free and easy, so I tell myself: "As long as you don't do anything wrong, just follow your inner thoughts and don't care about any opinions. Everything only needs the final result." As long as it's right. "I began to adjust my mentality and started to focus on my own thoughts. Of course, I couldn't be selfish. When facing criticism from others, I should objectively and rationally judge the real good and bad. I couldn't just be dragged away by my emotions, let alone Because of the so-called evaluations of others, your confidence and courage to move forward must be learned to encourage yourself and believe in yourself. When faced with unhappiness and lack of confidence, you must remember that no one in this world can knock you down except yourself. , so I have to work hard to make myself stronger.

Now I am very happy, I have more ideas, and my personality is more lively than before. I feel that my own frankness is coming back little by little. Then my mentality became more relaxed and comfortable. I think the best thing in life is to "be the best version of yourself"

When you are confused, you have to learn to heal yourself and find the best. Suit your own hobbies and lifestyle, and push yourself forward when the time comes. Say it to yourself, and to you too!

The "Bole" may not be someone else, it may be you. , learn to discover yourself, you will really change a lot. Everyone is a treasure, it depends on whether you are willing to "mine" it.

? Thank you for reading~

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