Very painful ... Wenzhou Ruian marriage engagement custom. Ask local experts to distinguish between true and false.

First of all, I'm not Ryan's There may be some differences, but overall there should be little difference. Let me explain it to you one by one. . . . . . .

1. If a woman doesn't get married at the age of 25, she has no chance.

It is out of the question. But girls in Wenzhou usually get married before the age of 25. Because parents like to have grandchildren early.

They must be engaged before they get married.

You must get engaged before you get married. Like some ordinary citizens or families with little money, engagement often plays the role of marriage. Engagement is a big deal. Engagement means informing all relatives that every family should share the sugar. This step shows that your marriage has been recognized by everyone.

3. Besides the dowry, you must also give it to your daughter 10W (otherwise you can't get married).

Dowry is also necessary, 10W is still the starting price, and many of them are 20W+. . . But if the man is really not well-off and can't come up with 10W, I suggest borrowing it and taking it to the woman's house. It was agreed in advance that the woman should be returned to the man behind. But in front of relatives, it is necessary to give dowry. Not less.

When you are engaged, no matter who you are, everyone can get red envelopes from the woman's host family (no less than 30, no matter how many people go to each family)

This is to see if the hostess is polite. This is often called a return gift. If you do this, your relatives will speak well, but in the final analysis, it is still face. Of course, it doesn't matter if you don't come back We have some here and some here.

When getting married, everyone should give at least1000,2000.

At present, the general classmate relationship is at least 1000. The relationship is a little better, 1000 is not available, and relatives talk a lot.

6. When the host accepts someone else's red envelope, he must first look at the relationship with that person, and then decide how much to accept from others (for example, I gave 2000 yuan, and the host thought that the relationship with me was average, so he opened the red envelope, drew 300 yuan and returned it to me 1700).

We don't have this here, so it's not shameful to do it in person. . ? Wenzhou people value face the most, so this kind of thing is generally not. However, it may be that the relationship is really unfamiliar, or the guest's family is poor. When the host family returns the gift, it will be several times more than the ordinary gift, or it may be returned in full. Yes.

7. As for inviting people to the wedding banquet, it depends on how deep the relationship with the couple's family is, and it is decided to invite several other people's families.

(For example, if you ask my family to go to No.1 Middle School, will others go to No.5 Middle School or the whole family? )

This is not stipulated. Generally, there will be a famous brand (a brand with the name of the guest) on the wine table. Then there will be several empty tables without famous brands, and that table is for extra family members. Of course, the family must come together. So if there is not enough space, you will sit on an empty table here. So if there are many people going, it is best to inform the host family in advance.

Some weddings have both money and silver. Then it is possible not to accept red envelopes. After all, there is no shortage of money. I just want to have fun, and I don't want to put pressure on my relatives and classmates. Therefore, there will be situations where not only do you not accept red envelopes, but you will also return gifts. But after all, there are still many ordinary people, so they usually receive red envelopes. After all, many people hold banquets in order to get back the red envelopes they sent before. You know that. . . .

So, in the final analysis, it's all about face. No need for egg pain, simple and simple. After all, a wedding comes once in a lifetime. Don't care too much about money, and don't care too much about earning or losing. This is not business. Just be happy, lively and full of sweetness at the wedding. . . I volunteered anonymously. . .