How did many wives behind Cao Cao survive in ancient times?

The Three Kingdoms is a world of heroes. From the physical labor of attacking cities and pulling out villages to the mental labor of strategizing, men are operating. Next to this magnificent picture of the times, there will be some inconspicuous lace and tassels, which are the roles played by women. Or even one or two women who walk into the painting center, such as Sun Xiaomei and others, have become a little masculine. But heroes go out to kill and set fires during the day, or stop others from killing and setting fires. When they come home from work, they still have to get along with women. It can be said that there is a world of women around the heroes that is bigger than the stage of the Three Kingdoms. These women didn't contribute to history or make suggestions, but they were so huge and real. Besides, it is not easy for Cao Cao's daughter-in-law to marry a Cao Cao woman.

The first generation daughter-in-law:

Ding Furen resolutely broke up with Cao Cao.

This is Mrs Cao Dingfu's first room. He has no children. Cao Cao and Mrs Liu have a son: the eldest son, Cao Ang. Mrs Liu died young and took Cao Ang as her own. I think a woman who has no children of her own will devote her greatest maternal love to the children she raised. The ancients put it well: "The important thing is to support and hold the negative, for fear that you will not live long." Take it, take it. I was afraid something would happen to him, so I hung up halfway. Ding Furen hurt Tsao Gong's son so much that Cao Cao didn't cherish it very much. He wants to take Ding Furen's children on a trip. This is not a military exercise. This is a real war against Zhang Xiu. This happened in 197. The fighting has been settled peacefully and Zhang Xiu has surrendered.

Cao Cao felt guilty for Ding Furen to the death.

Cao Cao, who doesn't want to be talented, sometimes wastes time because of his personal virtue. When he wants to pick up girls, it is not easy for any girl to pick up girls, but he picks up girls during his period, Zhang Xiu. This bubble destroyed the newly formed United front in Cao Zhang. Zhang Xiu rebelled, and the life of his son, nephew and wife, Dian Wei, was ruined by Cao Cao's first pickup. Cao Ang's death was a fatal blow to Mrs Ding. She didn't turn grief into strength, nor did she talk about glory without conscience. This strong-willed mother cried and shouted to Cao Cao all day: You are not sad at all for killing my son! "If you kill my son, you will never see him again." She was tired of crying, so Cao Cao sent her back to her parents' house to let her relax a little.

Is Mrs. Ding angry? A few days later, Cao Cao felt guilty and went to Zhang Yue's house to pick up his wife. When Ding Furen was knitting a sweater, Cao Cao came behind her, touched her back and said, "Dear, come back with me by car." Ding Furen didn't look back at him and said nothing. Cao Cao reluctantly went outside the house and asked through the window, "Is there really no hope of getting back together?" No, Ding Furen, Cao Cao said reluctantly, "If you really break up with me." So she is allowed to remarry, but who dares to marry a woman led by Cao? This historical material was also mentioned by Yi Zhongtian. My purpose today is to explore this woman's heart knot. As far as her position is concerned, if she wants to stay in the Cao family, she must have resources, and the best resource is children. She raised Ang Tsai with great pains, and there is no record of Cao Ang's date of birth in history. However, it can be inferred from being able to cover the front line that Cao Ang has reached the age of participating in work and revolution.

From the mother's point of view, it is not difficult to understand Ding Furen's psychology: I managed to cultivate this kind of resource, but you didn't save it. After a battle of reimbursement, my position and future in the Cao family were all gone. By Cao Ang's side, the gap between maternal love and fatherly love made Mrs. Ding hate Cao's guts. What really made Mrs Ding hate Cao Cao was that although Cao Ang died gloriously according to the organization's standards, she paid the price for her father's daughters with her own life. Try to understand from a mother's point of view that her most painful son died of her husband's behavior of picking up girls. Can you forgive all this?

Therefore, in front of the loom, it left a decisive background for the history of Cao Jiahe. As the first daughter-in-law of Cao family, her heart is hateful, her life is bitter and she is unfortunate. Many years later, Cao Cao, who was terminally ill, said guiltily, "I died and saw Cao Ang in my grave. If he asks me, "Where did you find my mother? How can I explain it? "I'm afraid this is the softest corner of the inner world recorded by Cao Cao.

The murdered wife Bian wrote a letter to comfort her parents.

Among Cao Cao's wives and concubines, Mrs. Bian has the best reputation. She is the mother of Cao Pi, Cao Zhang and Cao Zhi. It goes without saying that she is frugal, generous and sensible. Mrs. Bian also played a very good auxiliary role in her husband's work. Once in history, she was good at making crisis public relations records for her husband. Cao Cao killed Yang Xiu, but it didn't end. In a family, especially an old man named Qiu 3354, he meets this old comrade every day at work. There must be an explanation. Cao Cao crustily skin of head wrote a letter to the teacher Lao Yang, explaining that although your Lao Yang son is clever, he doesn't listen to the leader, so I put my family before my family. Of course I put my family first. It is your family that puts family before family interests. You will be punished if you bring the boy to justice. Then, he gave a big gift to Yang's family.

Cao Cao felt that men's words alone could not handle the situation well, so he asked Mrs. Bian to be his wife's publicist, and then wrote a letter from a woman's point of view to smooth the situation out a little bit. Ms Bian wrote another letter to Yang Xiu's grieving parents. As can be seen from this letter, the difference between Mrs. Bian and others is that she is a measured political woman who is resolute and courageous, but can also use political skills. Putting aside political and military principles, she first gave the victim a positive evaluation: "Very talented", and our whole family admired him.

Then, I don't know if Yang Xiu got what he deserved. He deliberately blurred the question of principle, saying it was a time of war and paying attention to organizational discipline. I heard that your son seems to have committed a military order. Use these two points to iron the hearts of the victims' families. Then, she accused her husband: my husband was too impatient, "Gong Ming was too impatient", and brought Comrade Xiao Yang to justice, but the accusation did not mean denial. He argued that Cao Cao was defending military discipline. Finally, I explained that I had reservations about killing Yang Xiu: I didn't know the situation at that time, and I was very shocked and sad when I heard about it. I was "stunned and broke off contact" and begged the old teacher and old lady to forgive me.

This is a skillful public relations letter, no less than the diplomatic letter of the first lady of the president today. With her cleverness and low profile, Mrs. Bian lived in the Cao family and enjoyed all the splendor until her grandson ascended the throne. She happily became the "empress dowager" of Wei. However, is she happy?

Everyone knows the story of the struggle between her three sons. In 2 13 AD, Cao Pi poisoned his younger brother Cao Zhang with poisonous dates, and the poisoning place was the residence of Queen Bian. You are cruel enough to kill your brother in front of your mother xelloss. The poor mother went to the well to fetch water herself, trying to detoxify Zhang Er. But the water container was broken, and the eunuch in the palace did not dare to help. A helpless mother watched her helpless son die helplessly. She must be crying in her heart: Son, what can I do to save you? Finally, in the ruthless political ecological field, the mother begged her eldest son, and the murderer Cao Pi said: You have already harmed the second brother, don't harm the third brother again. Therefore, is Mrs. Bian happy? Everyone knows the answer.

Second-generation daughter-in-law: Zhen Shi was careful step by step, but after her death, she didn't even have a normal adoption.

Cao's most legendary daughter-in-law is Zhen Shi. She is the daughter-in-law of Yuan Shao and met Cao Pi in Youzhou after the war. Gone with the Wind seems to be particularly popular. Zhen raised his head, xelloss bowed his head, and love came into being. Cao Pi loved her, married her, spoiled her, but killed her. Why did you kill her? Is she not careful enough? No, Zhen Shi is careful in this environment, but he is walking on thin ice. A beautiful heart does not necessarily have a beautiful life. This beautiful woman has a beautiful heart. She suppressed the thoughts of her husband and son, but obviously showed her feelings for her mother-in-law, in order to have a safe living space in a society that advocates filial piety. Zhen Shi's two advanced deeds in filial piety are listed. In the sixteenth year of Jian 'an, Cao Cao conquered Guanzhong with his mother-in-law Mrs. Bian Zhen. On the way came the news that Mrs. Bian was not safe, and Zhen Shi "cried day and night".

I couldn't bear it, so I told Mrs. Bian the news of her slight recovery. Zhen Shi still doesn't believe it: "My mother-in-law usually recovers slowly every time she is ill. How did she recover so quickly this time? Are you kidding? " As a result, I became more and more worried. When Mrs. Bian learned that her daughter-in-law was worried at the front, she wrote back to prove that she had indeed recovered and Zhen Shi had returned to normal life. In the twenty-first year of Jian 'an, Cao Cao went on a business trip to fight again, taking Mrs. Bian, Zhen Shi's mother-in-law, Zhen Shi's husband Cao Pi, Zhen Shi's son Cao Rui and his daughter dongxiang princess along the way. During this period, Zhen Shi's thoughts about her husband and children should be thin. Besides, Zhen Shi is still ill. Surprisingly, the Cao family came back from the front line the next year, only to find that Zhen looked better and gained weight. Everyone was puzzled, but Zhen Shi explained, "My husband, my children and my mother-in-law are all together. What am I worried about? " Show my mother-in-law 120 reassurances.

I seriously doubt these two advanced deeds. Because Zhen Shi's affection for her mother-in-law seems to be beyond its proper scope, she went too far and put on a show. There must be an overly cautious attitude behind excessive behavior. Zhen Shi, a female member of Yuan Shao Group, became Cao's daughter-in-law because of a tentative encounter. The original political ties of Yuan Shao's family have been broken, and the original resources have suddenly evaporated, resulting in her becoming an isolated individual. She needs a safe living space in a completely unfamiliar family field. In order to get this space, we must get the approval of our parents. To gain recognition, fire is not enough, but nothing is enough. Zhen Yinshi's intentions can be described as good. However, Zhen Shi's good intentions did not bring a good life. In the second year of Cao Pi's accession to the throne, Zhen was executed for his new favorite, Queen Guo. Zhen Shi died miserably with his hair covered and rice bran in his mouth. He looks like a ghost. Zhen Yinshi is very unhappy. However, Guo, who deprived her of happiness, was happy? Don't forget, Zhen has a descendant, his son Cao Rui, who came later. The death of his mother greatly stimulated Cao Rui's young mind. He often asks Queen Guo: How did my mother die? When Queen Guo asked, she was startled and replied awkwardly, "Your father killed her. What does this have to do with me? As a son, should I pursue my father's criminal responsibility? Will you kill your stepmother because of your mother? " Cao Rui was outraged. When he became king, he had the power to kill and seize, so he "forced him to kill" Guo, who was already the queen mother. It is also reported that Guo died suddenly because of fear. Anyway, he died strangely. Wanting to avenge her mother, she gave Queen Guo the same treatment as her biological mother-unkempt and with chaff in her mouth. What you did to my mother, I have done to you now.

The third generation daughter-in-law:

Workers' family background

A wrong question will kill you.

Cao Rui's mother, Zhen Shi, was a victim of court rivalry, and Cao Rui also avenged her mother. But she only stayed at the point of revenge and did not realize the liberation of lesbians. Of course, before 1700 years ago, it was difficult to ask Comrade Cao Rui to achieve this kind of consciousness. Shi Mao, Queen of Cao Rui, was born in the working class. Mao is a car on the assembly line. Up to now, workers have a glorious background, but at that time, they were not so good. Yu Guifei had a good chance of becoming a queen, but she let the industrial girl grab the index. Mrs. Bian comforted her grandson's daughter-in-law, and Jade's daughter-in-law said sourly, "Cao Shi really has his own ideas." In other words, Cao Jia likes being a bitch. It is estimated that Grandma Bian, who came from a family of entertainment stars, was angry and Yu Jia was returned.

Is empress Mao happy? It is also a kind of false happiness. Soon, playboy Cao Rui fell in love with a concubine named Guo. In 236 AD, Wei Mingdi visited the back garden accompanied by many concubines. Guo felt a little guilty and said, "You should inform the queen." Cao Rui said cruelly, "Whoever dares to inform the queen will die." Empress Mao, who was full of grievances, tried to say to Cao Rui the next day, "Did you have a good time in the garden yesterday?" Just ask carefully, but angered Cao Rui. A dozen witnesses were killed, as well as the empress Mao. A romantic jealousy ended in blood. However, in order to put a veil of happiness on the blood stain, Cao Rui gave a good posthumous title to the Queen Mao who died unjustly, reburied her and rewarded her.

Conclusion: The History of the Three Kingdoms puts a happy coffin lid on Cao's daughter-in-law, saying that Cao's daughter-in-law is very happy and classic, and their manners are "more beautiful than others", which is an example worth learning and "enough to be a model for all kings". In short, the happiness of Cao's daughter-in-law is a secret that cannot be said. In contrast, Shi Ding, who dared to break with Cao Cao openly and knelt on the back of the spinning wheel to see him off, was really happy. Ding Furen's maiden window, lingering Cao Cao, is really great. For women, the Cao family is not as good as a generation, and their career is not as good as a generation. Rich and noble ladies, many of them are the false bitter fruit of happiness in shiny fashion. Of course, this is not just the Three Kingdoms period.