Elegance is a kind of temperament and cultivation

As a girl, your parents will definitely teach you how to be an elegant person from an early age. As time goes by and you get older, they can’t find any trace of elegance in you. , I began to worry about how you would get married in the future, how you would be noticed in a crowd at a glance, and even began to worry about whether your character would be as rough and wild as a man. The feeling of hating that iron cannot become steel is like being unable to wait for summer. Like falling snow, it is difficult to calm down.

When you grow up, you graduate and officially start working in a company. When you see the people who go to work every day, they are neatly dressed and have exquisite makeup. There is no room for any flaws. You silently complain in your heart that these people look so glamorous every day. I'm almost exhausted.

My best friend tells you that this is called the most basic etiquette - respect.

Until one day when the person you like is having dinner with you, he says: "I especially like girls with elegant manners."

You begin to pay attention to your appearance, and you also learn from those exquisite women who come to work every day. They don’t make any noise when eating, smile without showing their teeth, and speak softly.

As time goes by, you find that you do not have this talent at all, and you begin to understand that some innate temperaments cannot be imitated in a short time. They are a person's unique label and evidence of personality.

When I was a child, my parents hated the fact that iron cannot become steel. When you grow up, hard work may not necessarily be effective. You said that if you could start over, you would definitely be an elegant girl. If you can’t do it, at least you will try hard.

Walking on the road, you will deliberately look for such a person with magical powers, and then stop and stare for a long time, hoping to exaggerate your hopeless self in this way. This is a person who is good at The basic expression of discovering beauty and liking beautiful things.

Elegance can be beautiful music, elegant environment, graceful dancing, elegant sentiments, etc. Some insignificant details in life can make you clearly feel that their existence is to beautify Life.

Speaking of elegance, I classify it as temperament and cultivation, which is a kind of magnetism from the inside out.

I am a person who controls temperament. When I see a person with temperament, I can’t help but want to get close to him. This person may not be particularly handsome and may not be the most powerful person in the country, but he is just a person who likes temperament and temperament. Two people with their own temperament love each other for no reason.

Some time ago, I went to the 16th Guangzhou International Automobile Exhibition as a Baidu "invited author". While writing a tweet, I met Sunmer, a fellow from Inner Mongolia.

At first, I thought his character should have the toughness of the Mongolian folk customs. After all, his height of 191cm can be seen at a glance in the crowd. After getting to know him well, I was surprised and unexpected by his words and deeds. We commit empiricism by lumping everyone's nationality and personal accomplishment together. This is an idea that should not occur.

After work ended on the first night, I ate in the cafeteria downstairs of the hotel. I took two dinner plates in my hand, the staple food in my left hand, and the fruits and vegetables in my right hand. I staggered to my seat carefully and tiptoed. He put down his plate before sitting down.

While chatting and laughing politely, I accidentally discovered that he was sitting on my left hand side. When I looked more carefully, I found that there was only one plate on his tablecloth. There was not much food in it, but the presentation was relatively nice. If I hadn't met him later, I would probably have thought that his major was hotel management.

At a glance, I glanced at the dozen or so people on the table. There were no less than two plates in front of each person. What impressed me was not his conversation or height, but the fact that he only took one plate at a time. There was only one portion of food on the plate that was just right. We did not serve several plates at once in order to save time like we did, and we were not afraid of not finishing the food and wasting it.

I still remember my friend once told me that a buffet can best reflect a person’s self-cultivation. The details lie in how much you eat and get.

He held Western-style cutlery in his hands and cut the steak carefully, slowly and gradually. The food on the plate seemed to be waiting for him to tell a story. They were placed one by one in an orderly manner, not to mention deliberate. Just can see the traces of memory.

As he raised his hands, a sideways smile was engraved in his mind. His flaxen hair was tied up with a simple hair tie, flowing down from the side. He held a knife in his left hand and a fork in his right hand skillfully and without exaggeration. meaning.

This is a different kind of elegance that I don’t see in many Western restaurants. I have seen so many people and picked up tableware so many times, but I still can’t pick them up without any sense of disobedience. .

His elegance is like a painter who slowly puts down his pen. It does not depend on whether the painted things are good-looking or not, but whether the action is attractive.

It’s like what Ximen Longting described: It’s an elegant lotus, light as the bones, water as the heart, silent as a lake, three points into the mud, three points out of the water, and four points left. It is a noble soul.

The next day, we ate as usual. This time he sat across from me. In the middle of the meal, he felt an indescribable pressure in his heart. It was the heaviness of standing at a low place and looking up at a high place. In order to cover up my nervousness and unnaturalness, I half-jokingly said to him: "You sit across from me and eat so elegantly, which makes me feel stressed and even doubt whether I am a woman."

He raised his head and smiled: "You must be a woman, you will get used to it if you use it often."

A few hours before parting, we added each other on WeChat. After looking at WeChat Moments, I remembered that he was a student at Wuhan Communication University, a part-time model, and had strong interests in photography, literature, painting, etc. involved.

In him, I saw a side that many people don’t have. That is a person’s personality that cannot be copied and pasted. The inner self-cultivation determines the beauty of a person’s behavior.

I can’t remember where I saw a sentence a long time ago: The elegance of life is not the result of training or dressing up, but the calmness after hundreds of experiences, the wisdom after suffering vicissitudes, and the indifference after countless ups and downs. ; It is to take the world lightly, and live in ravines. Learn to be willing and let go, with less strife and struggle. The greatest treasure is to cherish the fleeting time; it is to take gains and losses lightly, and not be surprised by favors and disgrace. It is so peaceful and elegant.

My university public *** elective course is dance. I didn’t choose it voluntarily at the beginning, but I had no choice but to choose. I don’t blame myself for not being so enthusiastic about dance since I was a child. I just I blame myself for not having that talent.

The reason why I stayed willingly was not because I had a high interest in folk dance and classical dance, but because the Russian teacher’s dancing temperament deeply attracted me and made me addicted.

In the huge dance studio, she sat on the piano bench, facing us against the soft afternoon light, and introduced herself softly.

Get up and move around, like a dragonfly touching water, lotus flowers grow step by step. A piece of Hui nationality folk tune lingers in your ears and wraps around your light body. Your orchid fingertips touch the afterglow in the mirror, your front feet kiss the ground, your back feet touch the board, and your colorful clothes and feathers dance. The gentle body brushing past...

What a beautiful artistic conception! Immediately, countless yearnings arise in my heart. It is a woman's admiration for another woman. In the same-sex world, this is the highest level of courtesy. The difficulty is that one woman can make another woman admire her. .

As the saying goes: Most people who study art are very temperamental.

There is also another voice saying "formal elegance, flashy".

This sentence refers to those people who are judged to be well-educated based on some details of their actions. This is just talk on paper and nothing more.

If you are an idealist, this elegance will be valid. If you are a materialist, it will not be valid. You will have different views from whichever angle you stand.

A person's elegance comes from his accumulation and polishing in life. Under the influence of modeling, graphics, photography and other cultural fields, Summer naturally absorbs the essence of the world and subtly accumulates his own cultivation.

Teacher Russia’s external shape and graceful dance posture are related to her dancing practice since she was a child. In the following years, she continued to grow, accumulate, and sublimate, and became her own unique label.

The living habits of both inside and outside will be catalyzed by the high temperature of time to generate a new substance - elegance.

You may not be able to recognize an elegant person at a glance among the crowd, but if you notice his existence, you will not be disappointed.

Every time I pass by the window of a coffee shop, I can’t help but look at it a few more times, hoping to find a different kind of beauty in the vast sea of ??people, or to meet new friends and sit quietly aside. , quietly appreciate the unique personality of your friends.

Lin Huiyin once said: In a lonely life, desires begin to become simple. A warm afternoon, green grass, a cup of tea, and a book may be everything in life.

Elegance is the color that never fades in the sky. It comes from every moment of life, reveals personal temperament and cultivation, and is the calmness of the sunlight shining directly on the windowsill.