Why is it called picking up girls?

Picking up girls is a way for men to show their affection for women. This sentence first came from Hong Kong and Taiwan, with a certain derogatory meaning. With the development of recent decades, it has almost become a neutral phrase. Bubble, generally refers to the man to please, close, talk to women, in order to achieve friends, love, cohabitation and other purposes. Girls refer to women and generally refer to young women.

First, the requirements for men themselves.

1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 4 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex with someone, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". One sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand. In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.

1, not every MM can catch up.

There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.

Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.

So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.

Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".

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Lesson 65438 +0: Beauty also discharges? The whole world will know that a man loves a woman. As soon as he was electrified, it was clear at a glance. But women are much more subtle in this respect, and discharging is an art for them. Of course, art can sometimes make people feel confused. Therefore, the pronoun of "people" who are casual and affectionate often misses many "present" around them. [Let's see how beautiful women discharge? ]

The prerequisite of the second lesson: "Beauty, beauty, I love you just like a mouse loves rice" is a classic lyric, which has almost become a man's motto. The appearance of men who are "haggard for Iraq" can't help sighing: it's all the fault of beautiful women. Although there are many women in the world, there are few beautiful women, and there are many men who yearn for beautiful women. So who will have the chance to win beautiful women? In addition to the necessary luck, I'm afraid it's more your unique qualities that make a beautiful woman move [what basic qualities do you need to win a beautiful woman? ]

Lesson 3: When a man goes out "hunting" and meets the right woman, he doesn't know what tricks he will use to ignite the spark of love. Eye contact? Language flirting? Or gently lick each other's palms with your fingers? [The strongest trick to learn to pick up girls]

LESSON 1 How to hold her hand: If you carefully observe some photos or magazine covers, you will find that women's hands are the most likely to be "lonely". If you don't make something with props, you will feel that the model is too dull. In the world of men and women, don't let your female companion's hand "idle": hold her hand when crossing the road, and hold her hand when it is freezing ... If you love someone, please remember to "hold her hand" first.

Lesson 2 Dating Guide: Why do you always fail and why is God so unfair to you? Don't complain, mastering skills in love is as difficult as meeting the right person. For a new relationship, a successful date is the key to perfect love. How to perform well on a date? What should I wear for a date and what should I pay attention to when eating? What kind of information did she hint to you? What the hell is she thinking [how does dating shine? ]

Lesson 3 Kissing Cheats: Most men regard kissing as foreplay, and their wishful thinking is how to get through customs quickly, but this impatient attitude makes most women disgusted! Although everyone has a different definition of the length of a kiss, on average, female friends still think that a man's kiss is not enough ... [Where is the best place to kiss] [Look at the six men that women want most] [Pay attention to the thoughts of ten types of women when they fall in love]

LESSON 1 SMS Raiders: Hold your hand, swim in the storm of this life, love songs are leisurely, gently playing in your heart, gently kissing your heart is always sweet, I hope to accompany you to the end of your life. In fact, how can people in two of a kind be together all their lives? If there is an afterlife, I would like to find you again and throw my love back. Happiness has no end, and love has no end until eternity! [Love SMS of Love Juexue]

The second lesson talks about the past and the present: As the saying goes, "A good man doesn't have a good wife, but Lai Han has a wife." Numerous examples in history prove that this statement is correct. If you haven't studied history much, look around and you will find that this is a common phenomenon in the field of love. Love is like a battlefield. When the opportunity comes, whether you are ready or not, don't fight for it. Later, I could only squeeze into the crowd of onlookers and sigh, "A hero has no good wife, but Lai Han has a wife." It seems that shame is the first element of marrying a beautiful woman!

Lesson 3 Veteran Experience: All of them have no money or diamonds, and they are experienced veterans in love. They are unmarried, their careers have just started, and their economic situation is below average, but they know how to please their girlfriends and express their sincerity. How painful would you be if their methods were put on you? [Talking about skills and spending less money can be romantic] [Thirty-six strategies for men to pick up girls] [List of lies that women often tell]

What a man must do to really make the woman he loves fall in love with him:

1, the most important thing for a man is to be strong. Those men who complain at the first failure, feel depressed and fall down and can't get up are definitely not allowed. Men should be able to give women a sense of security. If you find a husband who can't take care of you, you will often cry in front of you about your misfortune and make you suffer the pain that he can actually recover. This is a great failure.

2. loyalty. Needless to say, I believe all women don't want their husbands to have an affair.

3, there is tolerance. You must not find a petty man, even if he loves you. But it's selfish to be jealous because of a little thing, whether it's going out on business with your boss for entertainment, or getting together with friends who haven't been around for years for personal reasons, making a scene after going home or moping around for a long time. Of course, he will say that he is jealous because he loves you, but don't forget to love someone and set her free. Sisters should never be housewives who are left at home by men in various ways and only do laundry and cooking. It's not that housewives are bad, but as women in this society, they should have their own social circle, be independent and strive for self-improvement, and never find men who can't give themselves free space.

4. Good health. Don't ask how powerful and tall that person is, but be sure to be in good health. There is something wrong with a woman's health, which can be called weakness. What do you say if a person is sick all day?

5, don't be a good baby. No one says filial piety is wrong. Filial men are very kind. However, everything between husband and wife is for xxxxxx's advice, and they have no opinion of their own. They always say, "Mom said. . . . . . . Mom said. . . . . . "Such a good baby in front of a mother must be unnecessary. Remember, you married a man, not a man's mother.

6. Love me, love my dog. If a man really loves you, he will love everything about you, including your bad habits, your friends and your family. . . . . If he can't stand your friends or family members' defects in some aspects or are dissatisfied with the people around you, then as a smart woman, he should try to avoid meeting them; If he is demanding, ask you to break up with them, don't hesitate to dump him!

7. Have a stable income. Love is very important, but it should be based on bread. You don't have to be rich, but life must be guaranteed. The so-called but unlike those who have been poor together, if a man can't even get the money to buy milk powder for his children, and he starts to worry about the mortgage next month at the beginning of this month, then you will have to suffer with him.

8. Self-confidence. A man who exudes confidence can make women rely on it with confidence.

9. Appearance matching. Don't ask him to be handsome, but if he doesn't seem to cause public outrage, you can't be a beautiful woman. Find a short, dark fat man around you.

10, careful and interesting. He may not remember your uncle's and brother-in-law's birthdays, but he must remember your birthday and wedding anniversary. These two days are very important in married life. It is best to go out for romance and receive gifts.

1 1, no bad habits. You can smoke a little and drink a little, but not too much. You don't want to go back to face a drunk every day, do you? He still smells of smoke from time to time, right?

12, strong social skills. It doesn't mean that you must take the initiative to laugh at people like that and hold hands like that, and you don't need him to be tough in social affairs, but you can't be shy. When we go out to socialize together, all he knows is to stand aside and giggle, but he can't find a topic to talk to your colleagues. A man who needs you to put on a show will make you lose face.

13, masculine. By male chauvinism, I don't mean male chauvinism. For a man who doesn't do any typical housework at home and reaches for food with his clothes, this is not desirable. Masculinity means that when you are bullied outside, he can stand up for you without hesitation and really protect you. Only this, this man is worthy of your consideration and commitment for life.

14, responsible for. A man must have a sense of responsibility and dare to undertake what he does, whether it is official or private. The kind of man who pushes something on others is not only despicable, but also shameful.

Have a peaceful heart. The world is used to measuring a person's value by his career success. In fact, a person's value lies in whether his existence is important to others. Even if that person can't achieve as brilliant achievements as others in his career, his ordinary life is as important as the people around him, which means that he is valuable. If a man can't look at his gains and losses with a peaceful heart, and he is cynical all day, complaining about social injustice and unfair life, then being with him will also affect your mentality, which will easily make your mind bear extreme pressure and lead to your unhappy life.

A girl talks about picking up girls.

I am a girl. I am disgusted to see that some boys want to chase girls who they like but dare not chase, and want others to chase them backwards.

From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.

When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!

Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!