Make peace with her, but don't make her the boss.

You are the master of your body, kitchen and garden. How can you let the guests make a decision? "Hospitality" Recipe

Sister Na doesn't play WeChat, so I can't see her information in my circle of friends. However, whenever I see all kinds of sunbathing, sunbathing love, sunbathing happiness, sunbathing food and sunbathing gardening in my circle of friends, I will still think of Sister Na. Sister Na's reality show kills many micro-friends, but it doesn't make me feel sick.

Sister Na is very capable and feminine at the same time. She often criticizes me for not praising my husband and dressing too casually. She recommended me to read fashion magazines and Korean dramas and taught me various life skills such as cooking, sorting and storage. When she said these words, it was inevitable to take herself as an example, but instead of boasting, she shared her failure lessons and successful experiences with others by teasing and self-deprecating.

We used to be colleagues, and I still remember that when I had my period, people were not feeling well. Sister Na only looked at me and knew my situation very well. She gave me a small bag of brown sugar and told me to drink it quickly. Every two days, she copied a cookbook and steamed it with grass chicken, salt, ginger and rice wine as a supplement after menstruation.

She said: "My period is a guest who comes once a month. Treat her well."

Sister Na copied this secret recipe of "hospitality" to almost all female colleagues. However, it seems that only Sister Fang and I followed suit, and we exchanged details such as material selection, cooking and ingredients with Sister Na.

Maybe the friendship between women is because of such a simple thing. Sister Fang and Sister Na and I left the company one after another. Ten years have passed in a blink of an eye, and the irregular gathering during these ten years has made the three of us become deep-rooted good friends.

Once at a small gathering in a cafe, Sister Na listened to me talk about this past, but after laughing, she sighed.

"Fang Jie has been very busy since she moved, and the three of us have less time to get together. I'm afraid I can't cook this' hospitality' dish several times. I have said hello to my husband and son. Surprised, emotionally unstable. You'd better leave me alone. "

I was shocked, and then I thought, Sister Na is 47 years old, which is really an extraordinary period for women. The "distinguished guest" has arrived

Since then, every time I see Sister Na, she will mention all kinds of discomfort in menopause. She said that at this stage, she should change from a woman to an old lady, have the dignity of an old man, and not be gentle or willful. She wants to seize the last chance and enjoy the benefits of being a woman.

I just thought Sister Na was joking and said something to support her idea. As time went on, I found that Sister Na was not just talking, but practicing.

For example, when we go shopping, she no longer goes to the adult women's section to buy clothes, but goes directly to the girls' section. She said she was thin and could wear those fluffy skirts and shorts. Compared with her peers, Sister Na's figure is really good. However, in spring, summer, autumn and winter, everything grows according to its own laws. The woman looks young again, and the actual age is there. Eyes and neck lines will reveal the secret of age. Are these little ladies suitable for Sister Na?

Sister Na calmly bought a bunch of pink clothes, and after buying the order, she said to me, "It's easy for you to stand and talk!" At this stage, you may be dressed more tender than me! "

I feel a little guilty when I think that Sister Na is in an "extraordinary period". I quickly helped to get some shopping bags, enthusiastically praised her figure and appearance, and invited her to a new dessert shop for dinner. I was relieved until the smile reappeared on her face.

The world is big and small. I saw Minnie as soon as I entered the dessert shop. Mini is a colleague of Sister Na now and a relative of my classmate. I greeted her happily and exchanged a few commonplaces. When I turned around, Sister Na had already left the store. I hurried out, and Sister Na explained airily, "The store is too stuffy, and I don't want to eat."

At the dessert shop just now, Minnie's face was quite sad when she saw Sister Na. Are they fighting?

Sure enough, Sister Na complained to me about Minnie: "Her client is a mistress, why should she put on airs in front of Minnie?" I can't stand Minnie's servility. What's wrong with scolding her? Minnie is ungrateful, arguing with me for such a person, blaming me for talking nonsense and offending people. Really don't know! "

I'm a little depressed. It's not Sister Na's usual style to make trouble across the border! Before I could speak, Sister Na turned to comfort me and said, "My colleagues all know that I am in an extraordinary period. Even if I do bad things with good intentions, I should understand. I finally understand that people who don't understand me at this time are not real friends. "

I vaguely felt that something was wrong, but Sister Na's words blocked all my persuasion.

On the solstice of that winter, I went to the suburbs to visit Sister Fang, who accompanied my mother, and talked about all kinds of menopausal symptoms that happened to her. Sister Fang said with a smile, "I always talk about' extraordinary times'. Nana treats this guy as a guest. "

Sister Fang is old and passed the menopause safely a few years ago. I asked Sister Fang to persuade Sister Na to teach me the experience of entertaining this "uninvited guest". Sister Fang smiled and said, "Just be normal."

The experience of people who have experienced it should be taught by people who have experienced it. Sister Fang and I discussed it and decided to invite three of our old colleagues, Sister Na, to get together next weekend. Live in peace with "guests"

Sister Na was late for the party. Wide sunglasses covered half of her face and refused to take them off after taking a seat. It turned out that Sister Na had a big fight with her husband last night, and her eyes were swollen with tears. She made her husband swear that he would treat her wholeheartedly after menopause and never fool around. Although her brother-in-law swore as he spoke, she still sighed, obviously reluctant.

"You see, I am in an emergency now, and he still has this attitude to say something nice to comfort me. Only God knows what he will do to me in the future! "

As usual, I apologized to her and advised her a lot of good words. Sister Fang also advised Sister Na not to have a hard time with people around her. She can distract herself, take photos, travel, grow flowers, dance and do anything, and don't take menopause too seriously.

"How can you take it seriously? Sister Fang, you know better than me! In the past, my period came once a month. Recently, she can come whenever she wants, but she won't come if she doesn't want to, which makes people anxious. A woman's body is like a garden. After this time, the old friends will not come at all, and the garden will wither completely. "

"According to you, postmenopausal women don't want to live at all." Fang Jie smiled, but her tone was harsh.

Na elder sister see fang elder sister, "that's not what I mean, I'm afraid. By the way, sister, you look good. Did you take any special supplements? "

Yes, Sister Fang is fluent and full of energy, and her state looks better than in previous years.

"What special effects supplements? The key is mentality. If you are an old friend during menstruation, menopause is an unwelcome long-term guest. In a woman's life, this guest only comes once, but she always leaves when she comes. You must learn to live in peace with her, don't spoil her, and don't neglect her. I have read Hemingway's The Old Man and the Sea, and there is a very reasonable saying: A man can be destroyed, but he cannot be defeated. Like you, I was defeated by menopausal guests first. "

Sister Fang said a lot and criticized Sister Na for being arrogant and too headstrong.

"Menopause will always end, and the days will continue. Like you, this stage has not been completed, and the character value has been brushed away. Do you think it is appropriate for everyone to stay away from you? Nana, what are you afraid of? You are the master of your body, kitchen and garden. How can you let the guests be the masters? "

Sister na cried, and I was very sad. I kept handing her paper towels to wipe her tears. An unusual woman needs the understanding and care of people around her, but I really think Sister Fang should also listen to her.

Sister Na hasn't contacted us for several days after the party.

It was spring when we met again. I have an appointment with Sister Fang to enjoy the flowers in the Botanical Garden. The crowd was bustling, and Sister Na and I collided head on. All three people were surprised and embraced excitedly. What makes me happier is that Minnie and Sister Na, who broke up with her, came to the Botanical Garden to enjoy the flowers.

I think everything is going well. Sister Na and her "unexpected" guests must have reached an understanding.