The most insidious way to make a woman a mistress in history!

W: Why is it so difficult to find someone?

Problem description:

I am 30 years old and a second-tier provincial capital city. I work in Shanghai, I have a house under my name, and I am an only child. Working in a foreign company is not bad. I know my qualifications are not particularly good, but they are not bad. I just want to marry a man who is similar to myself and not too disgusting, but the people introduced to me are basically grotesque, and occasionally I can meet some people who are qualified in appearance but not as good as me. Even without a house, many families and jobs are average. I want to ask uncle, how to deal with a boy who looks good with almost the same conditions?

Uncle replied:

1. According to your photo, your appearance is 3.5 points (full mark 10, with an average of 5 points). I know you will definitely feel that you are not ugly, have temperament, have big breasts and so on. But according to my experience, girls generally need to subtract three points from their self-evaluation.

2. In fact, whether it is marriage or any other interpersonal relationship, there is an "equal exchange". If you are interested, you can go to some places where wedding photography is concentrated. Handsome groom, beautiful bride, forced groom, ugly bride. Occasionally, there will be a few potbellied but beautiful groom groups.

3. The society has very strict requirements for men's face value, which makes handsome guys a scarce resource. There are 50 students and 25 girls in a middle school class, five of whom can be said to be beautiful, and many people chase them (20%). Class flowers are often quite beautiful, and the 300-year-old boys in science and engineering will not exceed ten digits. Why? Girls are beautiful as long as they account for the top 20% of the image, and the top 10% can eat by their faces. Only the top 3% of men dare to be handsome, and the top 1% can eat by their faces. Anyone who has worked in the entertainment media knows that beautiful little girls emerge one after another, but handsome fresh meat is scarce and expensive. Simply put, there are more men with 3 points than women with 3 points, and women with 7 points are much more than men with 7 points.

4, the conditions are similar to yours, and handsome guys are all for nothing. If you can match your looks, you must match your looks. According to the principle of equivalent exchange, the requirement of hard value must be lowered (however, women in China's traditional culture do not accept this, and the love of "Moscow does not believe in tears" is basically not feasible in China);

People with poor strength are unwilling to lower their requirements for hard values and looks, and they are also confident in their own conditions. Therefore, there is still love between people with good conditions, and diaosi and female diaosi are together, which is the bane of mutual dislike;

6. Many girls will pin their hopes on "true love" when they want something they don't deserve at all. They always hope that a man who is good, handsome and loves her will be willing to pay for it and firmly believe it.

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M: Do you want to be nice to girls?

Problem description:

I have only made one girlfriend so far, and that girlfriend should still be greedy for the characteristics of my provider. I am kind to her, but she doesn't like me at all. Last year on Tanabata, she asked me for a SLR, which I thought was too much. She split it with me without buying it for her, obviously to buy something for her. I have read many textbooks that say not to be a good person. Women don't like good men, but I have a little boy. He is super nice and considerate to girls. He is a typical good man, but many girls like him. He is especially popular with girls. I think it is "warm love rat". And many girls also said that they would like men who are kind to themselves. I feel so contradictory, but also for the good of girls. Why is the result different? Should I be nice to girls?

Uncle replied:

In fact, being nice to girls has nothing to do with whether girls like you or not. Women naturally like high-value men (such as rich, handsome, talented and interesting, good personality and so on). ), and these qualities can make them like you.

What a girl wants is that the person she likes is good to her, but simply being good to her can't make her like it.

Like you+be good to her = love.

Likes you+treats her badly = scum.

Don't like+be nice to her = spare tire/pick up girls/suitable for marriage.

I don't like it+I'm not good to her = the share of the connection disk is gone.

Instead of worrying about being nice to her, we should work hard in three aspects: rich (this is difficult), handsome (also difficult), talented and interesting, and good personality (the only direction diaosi can work hard).

As for the fake exhibition surface like Gao Fushuai, posing in a circle of friends can be faked in terms of "money" and can be promoted to some extent, but the essence is faked. You are still a diaosi in essence, but you have cheated a little, and your efficiency is not as good as that of big health care (it takes more money and time than big health care).

Only the uncle course helps you to work hard in the dimensions of talent, interest and good character.

Sign up for class.

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Woman: Do men mind if I give money to their families now?

Problem description:

I am in Beijing, and my education and work are ok. My home is in the countryside, and the conditions are average. My father is a worker, and my mother has been laid off for a long time and has done a little business. I have a younger brother who just graduated from college. He has a college degree and works in our provincial capital. Send some money home every month, and there are not many posts for my brother. I bought him a computer and a mobile phone when I first went to college. I don't think I am a helper. Some time ago, I talked about a local boyfriend in Beijing for three months. He is old and a little anxious to get married. After learning about my situation, he said he didn't mind. I am very touched. Then he took me on a trip and I slept with him. After he came back, he became more and more indifferent to me, and gradually WeChat did not return. I know what happened, uncle. Isn't it our duty to give money home after work? Why is it a reduction instead? I'm really not a helper.

Uncle replied:

This Beijing brother obviously has the psychology of sleeping back before breaking up. I think criticizing this is beside the point. We'll talk about it later. Let's talk about you today.

The essence of your question is that cultures vary from place to place.

In big cities, the so-called filial piety is nothing more than buying some favorite fruits for parents, giving them beloved gifts on their birthdays and taking them to travel to Europe. Nearly 98% young people in big cities are addicted to old age to varying degrees. Young people who stay in this city eat and live at home, buy a house with a down payment or even a full payment, and the car they marry their daughter is also bought by their parents. Parents themselves think it's natural.

If I don't make any money later, there will be a certain degree of gnawing at the old, which young people in big cities must face in the era of class solidification.

However, this economically underdeveloped area where you live is different. You should give your parents living expenses regularly, and even bear certain financial obligations of your brothers and sisters.

So, big cities are for parents, and you are for parents. He can keep his mind balanced in and out. It's a ghost.

Only Phoenix Men can understand you. They also send money home every month.

However, Phoenix men all want to find a city girl, just like you want to marry a Beijinger.

Again, and white is love, diaosi and diaosi are just a curse of mutual dislike.

The biggest problem in Fung Wong-Nui is that urban men still feel filial to their parents when they are living on their laurels, and then they think that you are a man and should support me like I owe you.

Then chicken soup will tell you that loving you is not enough. This is love rat. Whenever women bring up the topic of "don't love me", I know they want to take advantage again.

It is not impossible for Fung Wong-Nui to stand in a big city, but you must first solve the ideological differences between urban and rural areas. It is not advisable to ignore ideological differences and automatically introduce rural thinking into Beijing and criticize others for being "unfilial" and "inhuman".

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Man: The most insidious way to make a woman a mistress.

Problem description:

When I was a freshman, I chased my ex-girlfriend for more than half a year (my ex-girlfriend was my classmate) and finally moved her to be together. I love her very much, because my family is a rich second generation and has business in Southeast Asia and North America, so I think I should give her the best, love her and spoil her. She is a very simple girl. Although the family conditions are poor and I have a younger brother in the countryside, I don't mind these. In the four years with me, she has changed from a peasant girl to a very elegant girl, but she is still so simple. We have a very good relationship and have never quarreled for four years. After graduation, I'm going to the United States for graduate study. My mother flew from Canada to Beijing to persuade her to break up with me. Although I love her very much, I can understand what my mother said, so I have to break up. Finally, I left her the Mercedes we drove together in college, although I felt a little scum.

It has been a year since we separated, and she has been very sad and depressed. I asked her to find a new boyfriend, and she didn't go either. She found a job in a bank while recruiting on campus, and now she has resigned for almost half a year. I couldn't stand it, so I paid her a year's rent, hoping that she would find a job and start a new life, but she just didn't want to be with me. She said she loved me very much, and I loved her very much, but in fact we just couldn't do it.

Uncle replied:

You killed her.

As a female college student who comes to Beijing from the countryside to study, the normal life should be to scrimp and save and her boyfriend who works hard at the hostel to open a room. Hanting always improves her life. If she eats a delicious duck neck before snapping it up, she will feel very happy. Traveling by subway and taxi is very luxurious, wearing domestic masks and Taobao goods.

But your appearance has made her live a life that middle-class people in Beijing can't live-judging from the urine you drove Mercedes with her in college, you didn't get a room at Crowne Plaza Huang Zhuang in Haidian, and you had a lot of slaps at Pangu Seven Stars. Snow Show SK2 was all scum to her, and Taobao hardly bought clothes and bags, so why don't you just go to Hong Kong?

Because of you, she has reached a standard of living that is completely out of her class. It is easy to be frugal, but difficult to be frugal.

After all, she is no different from her roommate. After graduation, I still have to do similar work with the same income. Because of class, it is almost impossible for you to marry her, and she will eventually marry a man with the same level as her roommate.

I know some vicious local tyrants. The way they engage in mistresses is this: first bring a woman into the local tyrant's living standard, and then she can't go back. At this time, her bottom line quality of life will force her to find a man with resources. It's not easy to talk about this. There is only this local tyrant around, and she will be at his mercy from now on.

When the quality of life is out of touch with the real level of the individual, the person loses the initiative in life. And her real level, it is enough to improve the car you sent.

And you paid her rent. Is this the rhythm of continuing to raise her? I know that you are kind by nature and will get married in the future. According to your kindness, you won't let her go. Is this a bag?

You look kind, but in fact you are an extremely selfish person. You have never considered what far-reaching consequences you will have on her. You gave her money only to make yourself comfortable, but for her. The essence of your giving behavior is to make yourself comfortable, not for her.

The reason why she is obsessed with you is simple: she lost those huge love bonuses before. It's not that she won't find a boyfriend, but that she will never find a boyfriend like you again.

Once there was a woman who called me stingy all day: I used tens of thousands of bags myself but let her use hundreds of them. During the rush hour, I won't drive her, but squeeze the subway with her. I stayed in a five-star hotel with her on business, but I never took her to eat anything above 300 yuan. Even though I was hungry, I followed her. Although we live under the same roof, we live in two classes.

Because I know that she can't marry me in the end, and she will still marry a man of her level.

So now she can escape. At the same time, during the year with me, her vision, pattern and ability have undergone earth-shaking changes.

Later, I called her once, and she said she hated me, but I knew she was doing well now.

However, this is not important. I hope she is well, in the long run. Whether you love me or hate me, remember me or forget me.

This is love.

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Man: Why don't women bother my uncle?

Problem description:

Uncle, you played with so many women, why did you finally find yourself a scum? Why don't women bother you?

Uncle replied:

Because they really played me.