Those lives nourished by hobbies are simply shining.

The kind of thing that you think about when you don't do it, the kind that can keep you doing it for a long time, the kind that can make you calm and enjoy the present when you are disheartened?

My hobby is handwriting, which has been with me for 6 years. For me, this is not only a happy thing, but also helps me plan my life.

I especially agree with a principle about work and play in Japanese best-selling author Matsuura Yataro's 100 Fundamentals: "People who enrich their lives can do their work better, and they are more sympathetic and imaginative than those who bury themselves in their work. Get experience from playing. "

Many people feel frustrated with playthings, but life without hobbies is boring, what's more, many people around them have turned hobbies into their own careers, which is enviable.

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Why should people have hobbies?

Martin? Seligman mentioned in True Happiness that there are three kinds of happy experiences, the first one is called "happy life", the second one is called "active life" and the third one is called "meaningful life".

The first is the most common pleasure, such as finding money, chatting with friends and eating delicious food. The second is about flow, which is also the experience mainly discussed in this book. The first two experiences focus more on the experience of "self", and the third is to find a sense of belonging in things bigger than self, such as charity and volunteer work.

In psychology, flow refers to a psychological state that people show when they focus on a certain behavior. At the moment of flow, people usually don't want to be disturbed, which is also called resisting interruption. It is a feeling that one's personal spirit is completely involved in some kind of activity.

When "flow" happens, there will be a feeling of effortless, just like people who like sports play basketball, even if they sweat like rain, they don't feel tired; People who like painting are all creating, and they haven't felt hungry for hours.

When the flow of mind occurs, people must devote all their energy to it, without distracting thoughts, so that their thoughts can be completely coordinated and unified, and there is no room for irrelevant thoughts or emotions. At this moment, self-awareness has disappeared, time flies unconsciously, but this feeling is stronger than usual, life has been the ultimate play, and life itself has become an end.

Hobbies often make us forget my flow experience.

When people are young, it is difficult to find the meaning of hobbies, because we can get happiness from various social activities and entertainment activities.

When we are old, we don't have to work anymore, and we can't socialize any more. We will find that those who have hobbies can get happiness from life, because that kind of happiness is a personal active experience without external help.

In this life, what people can never escape is failure, depression and pain. Because of this, hobbies are very important in those dark days. Because of the happiness they bring, they can support us to keep going, and we still keep working hard in the darkest time.

This is its power!

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How to cultivate hobbies?

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When we don't have any professional knowledge and don't know what to take as our hobbies, we can see what others are doing around us and whether those can interest you. You can also discover and explore your interests through various training courses.

Before I fell in love with Shouzhang, I joined the same city photography association, badminton sports group and tried various clubs. Later, I mistakenly entered the account group, but I didn't expect to write for six years. Try more and experience more, and you will find your hobbies.

Perseverance

It takes a process to discover and cultivate hobbies. Many people want to take a shortcut to see if there is a direct elevator on their favorite road, but this road must be climbed step by step to reach their destination.

Observe carefully, feel with your heart, don't worry, a heart that loves life will definitely find its own interest. Slowly cultivate, persistent pursuit, will eventually gain something.

Not to please others, but to like yourself.

At first, my friends around me, including my husband, laughed at me and thought it was childish and just a child's trick.

After six years of persistence, my body began to change slowly. They never laughed at me again, but admired me instead. Some colleagues even asked me to teach her to write a handwritten account.

If you really like something, you can enjoy it even if it is not appreciated by others-this is your happiness, and no one can deprive you of it. We choose our hobbies not to please others.

It doesn't matter if a few people are unpopular.

When I started writing my personal account, my husband said, your hobby is very small. Indeed, if you want to buy a hand-held account, you have to buy it on Taobao. There are almost no hand-held bookkeeping tools in physical stores.

But so what? I redesigned my life through my personal account and found my soul mate. Gradually, the hand account is no longer unpopular. All kinds of bookstores and stationery stores have hand-held items. We also set up an offline account club to gather more people who like accounts.

Even if your hobbies are different, there will always be some like-minded people to enjoy. It's small, but it's also fun.

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Running with the wind, dreaming of setting sail

Cai Kangyong said in his prose, You see the boy you like likes swimming, and you hate that you didn't like water cooling when you were a child. I want to go abroad and regret not learning English well before.

Actually, it's never too late to start a hobby.

Some time ago, I read a lovely collection of poems, Please Don't Lose Heart, written by a Japanese grandmother in her 90s. She sprained her foot and can't dance her favorite Japanese dance anymore. Desperate, she began to write poems with the encouragement of her son, and accidentally used these warm and funny words to appease the hearts of Japanese young people.

90 years old can still be the starting point for finding hobbies, and it is never too late to start. Age is not the most important thing, but loving life is; The best posture to find hobbies is not to wait, but to run with the wind.

Many people muddle along every day, not knowing what they can do or what they will do, just shouting slogans to change. Instead of paralyzing yourself with slogans every day, it is better to calm down and find a hobby and stick to it.

Slogans don't change life, but interests can. Many people play with their interests as their own careers.

My friend Lu Xiao quit his job because he likes baking, and now he runs a great dessert shop. The great playwright Moliere's father was a businessman, and he wanted to follow in his footsteps, but Moliere was addicted to the script and eventually became a famous great playwright.

Run against the wind on the road of life, find the hobby you really like, and don't let regrets replace dreams!