What should I do if I have the right person in the case of someone?

Seeing this proposition, I wonder if you have ever encountered such a situation? I always complain that my other half has all kinds of shortcomings, eating what is in the bowl and watching what is in the pot.

I forget where I saw it.

One day you met a "better girl"

You have some different feelings about her.

Almost unaware

She also met a "better boy"

Because I love you.

And choose to give up.

Stick to one's own

Nietzsche said in The Other Side of Good and Evil, "People who fight monsters should be careful not to become monsters, and when fighting demons, they should also be careful not to turn themselves into demons. If you fight the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself. When you stare into the abyss, the abyss will stare at you. "

When we feel that our other half is not better, how do you know that you are not the best in his heart?

In fact, I think the word "better" is a false concept in feelings.

Commodities can be compared, but how to compare feelings?

When I was a child, I often heard my parents say, "Look, how nice other people's children are."

When I grow up, I feel that other people's children have finally disappeared, but I compare my closest people with others and use "better" to describe them.

The back of the moon must be wonderful, right?

Cherry blossoms should taste as beautiful as they look, right?

People always have beautiful illusions about the unknown.

Once, a love expert told me that he was tired after talking about so many loves, but he had a belief that he must find the best girl in the vast sea of people while he was young.

I believe many people have had this idea, while young, you can still splurge, while young, you can splurge and have more time to find something better.

Does this sound like a hero? He even asked me: "You are still young, how can you stand the old-fashioned love story with a face every day?" Even make the same mistake? "

Why do people hang themselves on trees? Maybe there are better people in this world?

I think many people will have this idea when their feelings begin to waver, right? Include this "better person" in facing the problem.

When you put aside your feelings and start to compare your lover one-on-one with others according to the principle of market economy, you will find that you can't finish it at all. After all, commodities are always upgrading, and beautiful bodies and souls are constantly meeting on the road. After better, there will be better.

In the end, it was clearly that I started to crack from the inside, but I was to blame for meeting someone better. Is this the reason? The reason is that you don't actually think about each other with feelings and responsibilities.

An obvious reason why some people don't choose better is that, as everyone says, we have all experienced this kind of excitement and freshness. Everyone is not a little white in love. When you meet someone at first, there will always be endless words, and you will eventually become a better person, and so on. In contrast, we care more about the memories and tacit understanding of two people.

However, it doesn't matter whether it is fresh or not.

Freshness is an opportunity for us to pay attention to "better people", but it is not a reason to give up "better".

Many people say that novelty is not the most important thing, so they choose the original object. What I want to say is that freshness is also very important. If two people's lives become more and more boring and numb, until one day, the commemorative gift you prepared for him is no longer surprising and there is no feeling of quarreling, it is definitely going to break up. Freshness is at least an indispensable mediator in feelings.

In fact, the so-called "freshness" is not a feeling that can be obtained by changing a new face of a lover.

I have a friend who started dating in junior high school and got married at the age of 26. For more than ten years, people around me feel incredible. They have been in love for more than ten years and have not broken up. In reality, they must be very few.

I once asked my friend the same question: "How can you stand sleeping in the same bed with the same person, watching the same street view and doing the same thing?"

I thought he would answer me with some chicken soup or something with his high emotional intelligence. Just before writing this article, I asked a person the same question. His answer is high-concentration chicken soup, which makes sense, but it is eggs. However, my friend shook his head and said, "We are busy enough just to cope with the daily changes in our lives. How can we have the experience of repeating everything you say? "

While others are still immersed in the sweetness of repeated dating, they have begun to plan their weekly or even monthly arrangements.

I watch different movies every week and want to go to different places every month. He learns new photography styles for her, and she learns new cooking techniques for him. Together, they stepped into the lush social forest from the ignorant campus.

Two people with different majors, different occupations and different personalities will always give each other special experiences because of their differences, and will always make themselves better for each other.

Life seems to have unexpected expectations for each other, and such expectations can only be given to each other, and another person can never achieve such a high sense of freshness.

The essence of freshness is to constantly climb to a broader height.

If you always cling to your past feelings instead of creating new ones and exploring a new realm of life, such feelings will be consumed by time sooner or later, even if you don't encounter a "better" experience.

Some people don't want to admit that they can't resist the temptation, give up their responsibilities and lose hope because they are not fresh, but they still have to find a high-sounding reason to accuse their predecessors of doing something wrong. The reason for breaking up is also described as that people go higher and love is better. These people who have been separated really feel that they are particularly pitiful and can't let go for a long time.

If one day, your relationship breaks down due to internal reasons, please don't attribute the reason to meeting someone better, which will cast a shadow over your lover and disrespect your feelings.

Because there is no such thing as "better", only when you put aside emotional factors and compare advantages and disadvantages with market principles can there be more than one better person.

Love is special. The reason why your lover is different from those better people is more because of the existence of feelings, which contain the memories of two people relying on each other and the tacit understanding of smiling, and jointly create the expectation and freshness of the future.

It is because of the same you that I don't have to give up halfway to find a new starting point. It is because of the original you that we can always build a higher and better world on the original basis. It is because of the fresh you that I will always be happy.

There are thousands of roses in the world. Why do you love that one on your own planet?

Because love is not picking flowers, but planting flowers. Your care makes it different, and its uniqueness brings you endless freshness.

You like beauty, there is always someone more beautiful than her.

You like smart people. There is always someone smarter than her.

You like virtuous, there is always someone more virtuous than her.

What is irreplaceable is that no one can compare with him in their common experience and the time they grew up together. You like it better, but you are not satisfied with the present situation and yourself.

The essence of love and marriage is the exchange of values. Whether inside or outside, men and women have always chosen each other. You find fault with each other, and they find fault with you. When you think he is not good enough, she thinks you are not good enough. When you are looking for something better, how do you know if she has found something better?

There are 18-year-old girls/fresh meat every year. Can you pick them up? Can you choose?

When I grow up, I know that there is no perfect lover in this world. It's just that our common experience makes us unique.

Therefore, true happiness is never a comparison, nor does it need to inject new vitality. It is special, full of vitality, and can't be interrupted, but the longer the better.