If you don't work hard, you stay where you are.

I have been listening to Wu Zhihong's psychology lecture some time ago. He said, "If you feel stuck on a question, don't rush to find an answer. Try to calm down, let go of yourself and ask your subconscious, and the answer will slowly emerge. "

When I chose Mr. Wu's course, I felt that my life seemed to be stuck in a big problem: why didn't I have a career to fight for? In fact, the subtext of this question is: Why haven't I made any money?

I got a treasure when I heard Mr. Wu ask the subconscious method. I deliberately chose the time before going to bed at night, lying down in the most comfortable position, taking a few deep breaths, calming my heart and asking my questions to my heart. I didn't get an answer once. This lasted for five days, and the result was a sound sleep. I usually dream every night, but I don't even have a dream these days. As for the answer, there is no way to talk about it.

I'm a little depressed, but I don't doubt the correctness of Mr. Wu Zhihong's method. Someone has got the answer in this way. The method is correct, it should be my own problem, and it must be because my heart is not quiet enough, so I want to try again after a while.

No matter how dissatisfied you are with yourself, life should go on as usual. Unexpectedly, just today, I suddenly understood my problem. The answer was so simple that I completely ignored it.

Go to practice dancing as usual today. I have been dancing for several years. I'm not a good dancer, and I have nothing to do at night. I might as well go to exercise.

Tonight is China dance class. Before class, Miss Zhao suddenly sent a message that something was wrong, and today's class was postponed. I am relieved and ready to catch up with the drama at home. At this time, Xie Jie invited us to practice dancing in her unit.

Xie Jie is a friend of mine who studies China dance. She dances better than all her classmates. We usually rely on her. The teacher expects her to remember the movements when teaching new dances, and then teach us.

Xie Jie works in a bank. When I arrived at her office, she asked me to accompany her to the office to get dancing shoes, and then went to the dance studio. I walked to the door of her office and saw "Vice President's Office" written on the door. I was secretly surprised, but I concealed it.

Start practicing dancing. We began to learn this new dance with Xie Jie. But we can't do it at all Xie Jie taught us carefully from the beginning. Practice all the details before talking about feelings. She seems to have thoroughly studied the teacher's teaching. Every place was broken, taught us, and gradually we learned.

When we sat down to have a rest, Xie Jie told us the details of the teacher's dancing. I just know that she studies the details of the teacher's video countless times every day, so she learns to dance faster than all of us.

At this time, a classmate said, "We are not professionals. We jumped around and played nonstop. Why do we study so carefully? " Xie Jie said, "Let's play, too." She thought for a moment and then said, "Well, maybe it's my personal habit. I can't force it. I study guzheng and practice hard every day, so does calligraphy. I feel uncomfortable without writing for an hour every day. I have to dance for at least an hour every day. Even if there is entertainment, as long as these tasks are not completed, I will push the entertainment away. "

She chatted with us naturally, and my heart moved, and the answer I thought for a long time came to my mind. Isn't this woman the kind of person I want to be? I have my own stable career, excellent work and emotional life. I heard that Xie Jie's daughter is also excellent. Currently studying in Singapore, I am going to study for a doctorate at MIT. Mother-daughter relationship is like friends.

We can see the gap between her and most of us from the dance. Go all out to do everything you want to do, and make good use of your own thinking to find the law of things. This is probably the reason why she can become a unit leader at a young age. As far as her spiritual subordinates are concerned, they must be convinced.

How to learn dance well, or how to do one thing well, as we all know, the only way out is to go all out. No one knows this truth, but it is not easy to do it. There is a "self-discipline" gap between knowing truth and practicing truth. On the right side of the ditch are few successful people, and on the left side of the ditch are mountains of mediocre people.

I am one of the mediocre people on the left side of the ditch. If you are not satisfied with yourself, you want to be better, and you know how to do it, but you only insist on it on the surface, or I insist in the eyes of others, but I am completely lazy at heart.

For example, learning dance, I insist on taking six classes a week, and people around me praise me for my progress, which makes me complacent and enjoy the satisfaction that others want to learn from me. This is behind my carelessness in dance movements;

For example, when I was studying photography, I spent a year signing up for various classes. All the photos of my photography class were posted in the circle of friends, but there were few photos that I actually got. Behind the envy of others that I became a photographer, I have never seen the film seriously.

For example, learning writing, I signed up for various courses and learned various styles, but so far I can't come up with a proud work. Behind the admiration of others for my various writing punches, I just want to complete the task and not think about the meaning of writing it down.

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Why don't I have a career to fight for? Because I didn't want to fight at all! I always lie in the comfort zone and enjoy myself, thinking that I have made many changes and even have a sense of superiority in my circle of friends. These so-called changes are actually just anesthetizing themselves. Like drugs, immersed in illusory excitement, wake up in the same place.

I punched in the card two days ago, and the system sent me this sentence: every embarrassing present has a past that didn't work hard. At that time, I was very happy: Oh, I am working hard now, and I will be expected in the future! At this point, I just want to shake my head and send myself another sentence: if you don't work hard, you will stay where you are, and the future will not be much better!