He who can control his emotions is his own king

A person who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can capture a city.

Anger is a major shortcoming of human nature. Everyone is inevitably angry. It is a kind of poison in the heart. It is more severe than other physical diseases and can even destroy a person's life. Many people have the habit of getting angry easily. This should be inevitable in human nature. Although we know this is a bad habit, when we encounter something irritating, we still can't control our emotions and let these bad emotions cause trouble.

Anger is a choice you make, or a habit. It is a natural reaction after frustration. In fact, I think anger is a kind of mental disorder. It is when you cannot control your emotions that you have this kind of insanity. When you lose your mind, you are in a state of insanity.

Anyone who makes a difference will not be swayed by anger. People who want to achieve something must realize this. Only by cultivating good habits of controlling emotions and learning to control anger can happiness and happiness be achieved. life.

By controlling your emotions, you can control the situation. Bad emotions are the killer of happiness. Anger and impetuous mood will lead you to hell and destruction. Don't put shackles on yourself mentally. Only with a good temper and good mood can you have good luck. Learn to control your emotions, be calm and adapt to the situation, don't be easily surrounded by guilt, face ordinary life with your normal heart, learn to love and enjoy wonderful life, taste more of the sweetness of life, calm down and realize The beauty of life, don't care too much about other people's opinions, be patient with the pain in life, add more fun to your life, it will add color to your life, cherish life, understand the preciousness of life, live simply away from fighting and noise.

Create a new life for yourself, live every day happily, and find the lever to remove the pain. Release yourself, eliminate illusions and abandon clinging, get out of the cycle of sadness, suppress anger and balance emotions, control emotions and learn to adapt.

How to control your emotions?

1. Always tell yourself, don’t move yet, count down to ten times before talking.

Emotions often rise sharply in an instant and reach a peak in a short period of time. As soon as you get past this peak, the high emotions will begin to recede. So, when you feel that you have reached this peak, tell yourself, wait a moment. Whether you are angry, nervous, excited, or ashamed...never take any action when you are most impulsive. Stop all actions first and meditate in your brain for dozens of times before you speak. In most cases, after 10 seconds, you can start thinking rationally, and you will usually be shocked by the state just now, and you will be glad that you restrained yourself. This method requires conscious exercise on a daily basis and internalizing it into an instinctive conditioned reflex. Maybe a classmate (or colleague) said something today that made you a little unhappy. Don't answer it yet. Count silently from 1 to 10 in your heart before speaking. Until it becomes a habit.

2. Learn to change your own situation and learn to treat it rationally and in an adult manner.

Even if your boss uses your parent’s self-state to give orders, you should try to respond using your adult self’s conversational style. Just like the question summarized, give feedback to the other person’s thoughts, inquire about the other person’s intentions, and respond to the other person’s needs with a calm, objective and open attitude. . For example, still use the above example. Boss: You did something wrong again, why are you so unruly! Employee: This matter really makes you very angry. I can understand why you are angry. Can you tell me what should I do in the future? This jumps out of the original self-limiting scenario of the boss’s parents. This kind of conversation can allow the other party to enter the adult self-state, at least not full of misunderstandings and disputes because the communication channel is wrong.

3. Learn to meet your own needs positively and take the initiative to obtain positive results directly.

You yourself also believe that your abilities have not received the recognition they deserve, which may make you feel resentful when communicating with others. At this time, try to use the self-affirmation method to speak out and write down your own strengths. You can also comfort yourself in a positive way, such as listening to music and eating a big meal, so that you can have more positive energy and make more good friends. Maybe your work situation is not satisfactory to you, but please learn to master your own life script. Being outspoken is not an advantage, it is a sign of low emotional intelligence. The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds. There will always be people who hate you and are jealous of you. You don't live for them, and they are not worth your time at all. You just need to be motivated by the people who care about you.

4. You can never completely convince someone, so don’t make yourself angry to death.

You can never completely convince someone. Remember this, and then you can calmly reason during the conversation. You say it, and everyone else says it, and everyone has their own reasons. He is aggressive, you keep your posture low, and you are content and happy with each other. To argue means to be dissatisfied and to win. Let whoever raises an argument let him win, but is he really the winner? In fact, everyone already knows it. The purpose of ordinary conversation is not to persuade others, but to communicate and exchange information. This is the essence. If you speak with this purpose in mind, you will naturally be able to control your emotions well.

Some people will habitually deny all opinions they hear. When two people with the same problem meet, they will start to argue. Therefore, when you admit to the other party that "you are right" or even repeat the other party's point of view, you give yourself a positive and tolerant psychological hint, which will make you subconsciously think about the other party's words and discover that they are correct. side. This mentality of yours will naturally be passed on to the other party, creating a virtuous circle, and the bar will no longer be lifted.

5. To improve your ability to manage your emotions, stay calm first! Steady first! Steady first!

Only by stabilizing your emotions first and preventing the situation from getting worse can subsequent actions be carried out one after another! Don't rush to counterattack and consume the remaining resources and energy. Don't give up just yet and lose a thousand miles. Whenever I encounter a lot of difficulties, fall behind, or feel that I have no control over something and am going to die. I would always say to myself silently in my heart: Stay steady first! Steady first! Steady first! Once the situation really stabilizes, you will find that the situation is not as bad as you first imagined; in many cases, the situation can even be reversed after a little waiting and control. Life is like playing mahjong. The key is not to play randomly when you are not lucky. If you lose too much when you are unlucky, when your luck improves, the losses will be too great to recover.

6. Improve self-cultivation to achieve conscious control, transfer situations and learn to recognize yourself.

Cultivate a broad mind, a good attitude, correct thinking methods and improve the ability of rational control. Be tolerant and generous to others, be considerate of others, and not care about others. When indignant emotions are about to explode, you should use your consciousness to control yourself and remind yourself that you should remain rational. People with self-cultivation can generally control it. When you are angry, you tend to get angrier and angrier when you look at people and things that you don't like. At this time, you might as well use the "Thirty-Six Strategies" to quickly leave the situation that makes you angry. If you can listen to music and take a walk with friends you can talk to, you will gradually calm down.

7. Try the attention regulation method and learn self-psychological balance.

When you do something and the result is not ideal or you fail, you feel ashamed and think that everything is lost. This kind of self-denial makes it difficult to extricate myself from the depressed mood. The more I think about it, the more terrible it becomes. My anxiety, tension, and fear become increasingly serious, and my mood becomes worse and worse. You are not the only one who is a failure, an ugly person, or someone who does something wrong, so why bother about it. These behaviors or phenomena can happen to anyone, and there is no need to blame yourself too much. Just remember, the next time you encounter these situations, don’t forget to face them bravely and treat them correctly. In this way, when encountering difficulties or setbacks in daily life or work, your mentality will be balanced and your emotions will be stable.

8. Exercise to relieve emotions, combined with music relief method.

Every time I feel unhappy, I go for a run or listen to music! According to research by psychology expert Wenslav, one of the best ways to relieve emotions is exercise. After sweating and venting, I felt balanced and returned to work. In addition, music has strong emotional appeal, so it is also one of the effective ways to relieve emotions. For some people, when they are feeling down, listening to their favorite music can make their depression disappear. Therefore, it is recommended that friends who like music prepare a few boxes of their favorite tapes and keep them by their side. When they are in a bad mood, they can play a few songs to adjust their mood.

Don't take away when you are angry, don't give out when you are happy. Words made in anger are bound to be leaked. On the road to success, the biggest enemy is not the lack of opportunities or your shallow qualifications. The biggest enemy of success is the lack of control of your own emotions. When you are angry, you cannot control your anger, which makes the collaborators around you stay away and depressed. Sometimes, it is important to indulge your own malaise and waste many fleeting opportunities. It is important to take care and manage all aspects of your life to maintain emotional stability.

Everyone should pay attention to self-cultivation and eliminate depression and selfish thoughts. For things that easily irritate you, you should deal with them with an open-minded, optimistic, humorous and magnanimous attitude. You should be able to withstand setbacks and be self-restrained and not narrow-minded. This can often make an originally tense matter easier and make an embarrassed person more relaxed. The scene was resolved with humor and laughter.

Complaining too much will prevent heartbreak. It is always advisable to take a broad view of the scenery. We must have normal and healthy reactions and emotions, be able to relieve ourselves when encountering sorrow, and be able to detach ourselves from adversity. Only in this way can we benefit our physical and mental health.

When people live in this world, they should be open-minded about everything. As a person, I should be more open-minded and generous. I believe that whatever happens will be beneficial to me. We must always believe that there are always more solutions than difficulties. There is no water that cannot flow out, no mountain that cannot be moved, and no hole that cannot be drilled out. And the fate that cannot be formed.