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Recently, I watched a public welfare short film "Seeing Invisibility with Wisdom" in Thailand, which was very informative. It can almost be described as exploding in the first two minutes and crying warmly in the second two minutes. The video is as follows:

The purpose of this advertisement is to remind us not to judge easily with fragmented information, let alone judge others out of context. This is true in the network, especially in life. After all, what we see with our eyes is only the appearance. Without antecedents, many consequences cannot be defined as right or wrong.

A friend once shared a story. She often takes her children to play with them. Once, several children were playing the game of young trees growing leaves, that is, the children picked up a lot of fallen leaves and put them on a nearby small tree one by one, as if they were newly grown leaves. The children were having fun when suddenly Xiao Xiao threw away all the leaves that Xiao C put on the ground. Now little C is unhappy and starts to cry. Little grandma immediately scolded little, "why are you so naughty?" Look at the leaves that Xiao C finally put on. She is crying for you. Go and say sorry. " End with an apology.

In the evening, after listening to grandma's description, my friend immediately asked the child, "Mom heard that you threw all your children's leaves on the ground today. Can you tell me the reason for this? "

Xiao looked at his mother and said unhappily, "There is an ant on that leaf. I'm afraid it will climb on us. "

Only then did my friend understand the real problem. It turns out that children throw away leaves only because of an ant. Although it seems that the child's behavior is wrong and her starting point is right, she did not handle it correctly.

The friend immediately hugged Xiao A and said, "You are not a naughty boy, but a very enthusiastic good boy, but that leaf belongs to your good friend, so you must ask your good friend's permission before you throw it away."

A word from a friend restores the truth of the matter, soothes a pure childlike innocence and provides a solution to the problem for children.

Children's world is the simplest, and it is difficult for them to consider the consequences of their actions. It is precisely because of this that we need to be patient and let them speak their truest thoughts, so as to better guide their behavior.

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Not long ago, the little god of wealth was going to change his shoes and go to kindergarten. I took out a pair of blue sneakers I used to wear, but I didn't want to wear them. I insist on wearing dark blue. I told him that the dark blue one needed cleaning, but I still insisted. I didn't say why. I immediately put on my unprepared blue sneakers and set off for kindergarten.

On the way, the little god of wealth suddenly found that the shoes were wrong and his mood collapsed. He cried to go home and change his shoes because time was running out. The final result of the discussion is to send him to the kindergarten first, and then send his shoes to the kindergarten to change.

Seeing his stubborn but painful appearance, I asked him again, "why do you like those dark blue sneakers?" Are these shoes uncomfortable? "

The little god of wealth complained at this moment: "Those dark blue uppers only have one adhesive button, I can wear them myself, but this blue one can't."

It suddenly dawned on me that in kindergarten, teachers always ask children to wear their own clothes and shoes, and a pair of shoes that children can wear by themselves is the most convenient and comfortable for them, because it will not bring trouble to themselves or disturb the teachers.

At the same time, I blame myself for being smart. Not guiding the child to speak his inner thoughts has brought him trouble and trouble.

I have heard many people say that their children are too headstrong, and I often describe the little god of wealth like this. Because of their stubbornness, we can't do anything, and even our emotions will collapse. The final result will either end in farce or violent conflict.

I especially remember taking my children to the hospital some time ago: I waited for more than four hours in a sea of people before I saw the doctor. In the face of routine blood test, the little god of wealth collapsed and refused to cooperate with him to draw blood. I tried to persuade him in various ways to ease his fears, but it was useless. He's still crying, but he still won't cooperate.

When waiting for us in line, I can only hold the little god of wealth who wants to escape and draw blood. In his whining cries and people's puzzled eyes, I held him in love and comforted him, because only I knew that he had waited for more than four hours, tired, hungry and sleepy. In this extremely tired state, it is almost impossible for him to cooperate with what he is usually afraid of. In this state, his fears and sorrows are infinitely magnified. To restore a calm state of mind, I can only let him release his bad emotions. What I can do is to accompany him, comfort him, and then tell him what he can do when he is fully recovered, so that he can understand that it is not only crying that can let his emotions vent. Besides this most helpless way, there are many better choices.

Others, after all, are just spectators. They only see the wayward behavior of children, but they don't see the reasons for wayward behavior, maybe not at all. As the writer grapefruit said: "In our time, perhaps it is too impetuous and impetuous about many things. We only believe what our eyes see, with our own subjective color. But sometimes, what you see is not true. You are not me, you will never know what I have experienced. "

This is especially true for children, because they have not yet the ability to think independently. Don't label a child's behavior with all kinds of negative labels because of our negligence. Once the thinking is solidified, it is difficult for us to jump out, and the harm to children will become more and more serious. Because what we focus on, what will grow. Pay attention to the advantages of children, and the advantages will grow; Pay attention to shortcomings and they will grow.

Just like the last sentence of the short film: "The value of a person can't be evaluated only by the pictures you see. Open your mind and use wisdom to see what you can't see. "

About Avenue: Freelance designer, stay-at-home mom, photographer, little writer who loves writing, and a pupil who studies early childhood education hard, but he is also very comfortable and enjoys it. Weibo: Avenue Focus.