"Self-cultivation - Self-salvation of middle-aged women"

As night falls, the elegant and intellectual women in the day put on another look in their home clothes. In front of their children, the mothers now look hideous and hateful. In the Internet age, amiable mothers are a legend. Most of them are hysterical, violent and explosive. In a short video with hundreds of thousands of views, a little girl quarreled with her mother, saying that she and her father had sex. Even though she looks like she is no match for her mother, she tells the truth in one sentence: her mother is the tigress of the family and has basically no image at all. So, if someone tells you to be more elegant, do so with a hint of provocation or sarcasm.

Cultivation in the female world is not only the establishment of a cultural system and the support of high diplomas. Since the country implemented family planning, it has basically curbed the idea of ????preferring boys over girls from the source, although some extreme Reluctantly, but unable to change chromosomal inheritance. This kind of policy coercion has made the relationship between men and women more and more stable, basically ensuring equality between men and women. Therefore, the vast majority of women born in the 1970s have received corresponding education. Whether they are elegant and intellectual basically needs to rebuild themselves. .

? Breaking away from the shackles of their original family, many independent young parents are trying to find a stable family structure, following the original trajectory. The male lead outside and the female lead inside have become the choice of most families. A large group of non-professional women came into being. They were extremely busy at a certain time and had nothing to do in their free time. The most empty thing was the blank space in the spiritual world. The spiritual reconstruction of middle-aged women has become a necessary condition for family gentleness. Some people list the consequences of failure in emotional management. Education experts are even willing to make an article about mothers: "What kind of children will a mother who only yells educate?" How important a mother’s emotional management is to a family!” Overnight, women have become the most important factor in the stability of the world.

I am one of those middle-aged women who often get hysterical. I look like I have nothing to do, but my schedule is more precise than the soldiers standing guard under the Tiananmen flag. A haircut requires planning and timing, so I will do it with my friends. I joke that I don’t even have time to practice a one-night stand. Two children have tied my hands and feet, and their companionship has become my partner in growth. What keeps me busy is not the fetters of life, but my precise requirements for life. The life I want is not just busy with breakfast and dinner for my children, but also giving them To wash clothes, I need a broader mental space. Reading and writing can expand this space without limit. You can climb the Eiffel Tower during a nap in the afternoon, have a spiritual communication with Han Feizi a few minutes before going to bed, or you can I listened to a poem on the road and heard Ye Guangqin say "I have a problem with your uncle"... What I do is not to become something, but a kind of self-cultivation. When we can't go far, we must liberate our souls. Come out and let her flourish in the vast world! Those women who shine brightly in the world of big shots were once very ordinary people. They once had great difficulties because of the contradiction between their dreams and life. As a domineering CEO, Dong Mingzhu is a typical representative of a middle-aged person who gradually becomes a great person. In a reality show, she went for a morning run with the host Lu Yu. Speaking of her casual clothes, she asked Lu Yu if he knew how much his clothes cost. At that time, I thought it must be expensive, but she replied that it was less than three figures... This all-powerful woman takes everything outside the spiritual world so lightly, it is really embarrassing! Yesterday I went to KFC to get a cup of coffee to write a piece of text. Two women came in and were dressed up beautifully. One of them was wearing a unique hat and I am a hat person, so I took a second look at them. That time period was when the children were in class. If expected, they found a place to rest after sending their children to school. Another woman just sat down and started boasting: Which school does your child go to? If it's the 11th and 35th middle schools, I can help! These two schools are the top-ranked schools in the city. After last year, they strictly implemented the household registration system for admission to the nearest place, and the management was extremely strict. However, she was so understated. I thought it was incredible... I have to say that reconstruction and re-education are very important for this group. It is said to be a particularly important subject!

I was once deeply impressed by Yang Lan’s words:

“Some people may ask, after a girl goes to school for so long and reads so many books, she will not be able to succeed in the end. Or do we have to go back to an ordinary city, work an ordinary job, get married, do laundry and cook, take care of our husband and raise children? Why bother? I think our persistence is to wash away all our glory even if we end up falling into the tedium. , the same job, but different moods, the same family, but different sentiments, the same children, but different qualities.”

We must lead the path of self-cultivation. As long as you are young, keep walking on the road of self-salvation and never give up on yourself!

"I want to be such a woman: with a face like a peach blossom, a heart as deep as the sea, self-aware of warmth and coldness, sincere and kind, keen touch, rich in emotions, perseverance and independence, affectionate and decisive. Keep reading, writing, listening to songs, Traveling, surfing the Internet, photography, sometimes singing, dancing, cleaning, cooking, dating, and partying.

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