Zhou Bichang revealed that he has lived alone in Beijing for 15 years. In the real life of living alone, is it really okay to have some peace and quiet?

01 noticed a program called "I Want to Live Like This", which focused on groups living alone in the city.

The solo life shown in this program is so exciting that people can’t help but sigh that living alone is really great.

Among them, Zhou Bichang said that he has lived alone in Beijing for 15 years and has lived such a life since his debut.

Her life seems pretty good, with a strict schedule every day.

What time to get up, what time to go out, what time to order food, she arranged everything in an orderly manner. In addition, the decoration of the home is full of personal characteristics. Because he is a musician, music equipment can be seen everywhere in the home.

There are two kitchens at home, one is an open Western-style kitchen and the other is a Chinese-style closed kitchen. There is also a large cloakroom where all clothes are neatly folded.

She lives a sophisticated life. She cooks three meals a day for herself and raises a lot of green plants. She can eat and drink whenever she wants at home, or lie down in a daze, doing whatever she wants.

After reading her life, many people have only two words: envy.

But, is this really what living alone is like? The program may just magnify the benefits of living alone and deliberately ignore its helplessness and sadness.

You know, there are now more than 200 million single adults in China, of which more than 70 million live alone.

In those unknown corners, are their solitary lives really as free and fulfilling as Zhou Bichang's?

More young people living alone can only live in small houses with no living room, no big sofa, no big kitchen, and they can only rely on takeaway for three meals a day.

In addition, they also have busy jobs. After a hard day at the company, they are left with nothing but coldness and loneliness when they return home. Exquisite breakfasts and warm supper have nothing to do with them.

The solo life of celebrities is certainly not that bad. They have big houses and enough money to support a decent life.

For the young people living alone at the bottom, buying a house is a fantasy, and they can only find a place on the edge of the city.

02 I have seen some data: about one million people live in basements in Beijing.

A photographer once took a set of photos for them to record their life illustrations.

I will post a few pictures to give you a feel for their living environment.

To be honest, when I saw such an environment, I couldn’t picture the poetry and distant scenery in my mind.

More importantly, sad and shocked. A friend told me that the environment in the basement is much scarier than we imagined. It is damp and cold all year round, with no sunlight and an unknown smell.

A house is generally only 10 square meters, and there is not much room for a bed.

The people here walked onto the ground and looked bright, and they only took off their masks when they came back here.

There are all kinds of people in these basements. There are many people who earn 10,000 yuan a month and live in such dirty and messy basements.

There is a scene in "Beijing Women's Illustrated Book" where Chen Ke, who has just arrived in Beijing, lives in a basement. There is no bathroom, no wardrobe, and the windows are only as big as a palm.

What’s even more disturbing is that the mobile phone cannot receive signals. If you want to make calls and send text messages, you can only lean on the small window.

When everyone looks at the quiet and peaceful lives of celebrities on the screen, it is difficult to imagine the cramped lives of young people living alone in real life.

03 Many people say that living alone is very free, and you don’t have to accommodate anyone. True, but it also means that no one knows whether you live or die. In recent years, many people have left alone.

Two years ago, in the area where I lived, a young man left and was discovered half a month later. No one knew why he acted like this.

His family’s hearts were broken, as a normally lively life disappeared like this. In 2019, the well-known online writer Liu Jiajun suffered a heart attack and passed away quietly at home.

He was only 39 years old when he left.

Many people regret that if he had family and friends living with him at the time, there would always be room for maneuver when the illness struck, and he would not have died. There are too many similar examples.

You said that living alone is freedom. Who would have thought that it means that no one will help you when you are wandering on the edge of life and death.

If possible, how many people would want to live alone.

Everyone desires warmth and love.

Just wandering in a big city, there are too many things you can’t help yourself.

I think everyone who lives alone has had a similar experience. You are sick, lying on the bed all weak, and no one can even pour you a glass of water. The despair is suffocating. .

I have been living alone since I graduated from college. I remember that I got seriously ill the year I just graduated. I went to see a doctor alone, went to multiple hospitals, and took a lot of medicines but couldn't get better.

Compared with the disease itself, what is more torturous is the inner collapse.

People are inherently fragile when they are sick. If someone is with you to take care of you, you can always get through it. When you live alone, you are too sick to get out of bed, and even eating and drinking becomes a problem.

I remember that period was my darkest day. I called my parents who were hundreds of kilometers away and burst into tears before I could even say the words.

Only those who have experienced it will understand the sadness, helplessness and loneliness.

04 Zhou Bichang has lived alone in Beijing for 15 years. We are envious just because she shows a good side. She had long hidden those moments of loneliness and heartbreak.

In the end, whether we are celebrities or ordinary people, living alone is not as good as we think.

For the 70 million young people living alone, living in a big city is like an ant struggling.

No one asks you whether the porridge is warm, and no one stands with you at dusk. Don't say that being alone is a high-level cultivation for adults, and don't say that you should enjoy loneliness. If there are other choices, no one wants to live alone.

"Beijing Women's Illustrated Book" also contains some sad fragments, which are enough to show the true appearance of young people living alone.

For example, Chen Ke went to the hospital alone when she was sick and went to the toilet with a sling bottle. She had a needle in one hand and a sling bottle in the other. She had no free hand to unbutton her pants. She was embarrassed to ask the person next to her for help, and she cried at that moment.

Another time she was moving and was kicked out by her landlord. She didn’t want to trouble her friends, so she moved alone in the middle of the night. After the move, she sat on the ground and collapsed.

For young people living alone, this daily routine is all too familiar. When you live alone, you feel free and comfortable when there is no wind or rain. When you encounter something, you will find that one person's power is too small.

What does it mean to live alone?

It means that you have to carry the sky alone, it means that you have to get used to the cold atmosphere when you return home, it means that you have to eat alone, see a doctor alone, and experience level 10 loneliness.

Finally, I hope that you, who live alone, can eat well, sleep well, and take care of yourself.