Collect three examples to illustrate my point of view (Task Day of Cui Lu Writing Camp 19)

Date: March 6th, 202019th.

Task:

After the previous task, I found that everyone is a weakness for "story/chestnut". So:

(1) Collect 3 stories/chestnuts. It can belong to celebrities or ordinary people. Try to find someone who wants to write about the field. For example, you should write about parenting and collect parenting chestnuts.

(2) If you have spare capacity, try to string three chestnuts into an article.

Reference: A. If three chestnuts are related, 1 opinion can be explained collectively.

B. If three chestnuts are related, you can explain three viewpoints respectively. Similar to action step 1, 2, 3.

Submission method:

The article is used, and I will reply on WeChat when it is finished.

If Xueba wants to resume the task, you can submit the resume log to Xiao Punch, and I will answer your question.

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Guiding stories makes it easier for us to accept other people's opinions.

A friend of mine weighed more than me before giving birth 10 Jin, and now she is an inspirational idol in her circle of friends. Six months after giving birth, he seems to have grown up in a gym. Now his waistline is thinner than when he was in college, and he has vaguely seen the vest line.

I asked him where he got such great perseverance, and he told me that his mother told him a terrible story when he was confined.

In the story, a mother who gave birth to a second child takes care of her children at home every day. She sent her boss to school by herself. The boss only sent him to the crossroads and thought he was a disgrace to himself. When Bauer was one year old, her husband abandoned his wife and children and left with a woman. Mother tried to kick her out, but she twisted on the stairs and broke her ankle.

I laughed half to death after hearing this story, and he also said with a smile, of course I know my mother made up stories to tease me, but when I think of my mother in the story, especially when my ankle was broken, I want to rush to the gym for forty minutes at once.

Think about it. If his mother says, "If you don't lose weight, your husband and children will dislike you and life will be inconvenient." Will the effect be the same? I'm afraid it would be nice not to quarrel.

I hope that when the elders cooperate with their own actions, they are suitable for telling identity stories.

Most arguments in the family are often based on a little disagreement, and the real need of a stubborn party is actually to be listened to and respected.

I once read a story in a magazine:

A mother who lives with her in-laws wants to travel to Okinawa during the Spring Festival. When the topic "Where to go during the Spring Festival" was first raised, the whole family disagreed.

His father-in-law likes photography. Every day, he takes a bus with a SLR to the Summer Palace to shoot all kinds of flowers and plants, so he thinks he must go to a place with good scenery. Children don't like the scenery the most, but their mother-in-law mumbles that you have to buy something to travel, and no one gives in during the discussion.

The wise mother thought about it and took out a photo of cherry blossoms from her mobile phone to show her father-in-law.

Dad, what do you think of the level of cherry blossom shooting this time? Japan has a special weather forecast for cherry blossoms, which will report the opening time of cherry blossoms all over the country, and then flower lovers will follow this forecast. I have a shopaholic colleague who is always looking for a place to buy things. I heard this forecast last year, and suddenly I said I would chase the earliest cherry blossoms in Japan. Before the Spring Festival, I went to Okinawa specially, and he specially invited a photographer to take many photos with me. I don't think this is as good as your usual one Two days ago, my circle of friends posted the plum blossoms you took in the Summer Palace. Everyone said that postcards could be made, but he said that the main reason was that the aquarium there was too big. My children and I were too busy watching the dolphin show to miss the botanical garden next to the aquarium.

As a result, everyone is very happy. The family happily went to Okinawa, and the children played wildly in Ocean Park for two days. Mother found a recliner on the grass in Ocean Park, basking in the sun, watching the sea and eating ice cream. After the child and his father watched dolphins, manatees, turtles and beaches.

My father-in-law also took enough scenic photos. The float in Ocean Park was photographed for half a day, and the orchid exhibition in the botanical garden next to it was another half a day, not to mention the seascape of Wanshan and the cherry blossoms in Imagi Town. It's really great to try.

My mother-in-law is also very satisfied with the shopping trip these two days. Local specialties, international specialties, and Japanese must-have items have all been left behind.

After returning home, everyone praised her mother for choosing a good tourist destination. In fact, none of his colleagues have been to Okinawa, but he wanted to play, so he did his homework one year in advance and took photos of cherry blossoms, which were just convenient to find on the Internet.

Think about the situation at that time. If he didn't tell a story of approval, but said that I think we should go to Okinawa, would this perfect trip go smoothly? I'm afraid no one will listen to him talk about how good Okinawa is, and the story of this identity makes everyone feel that their needs have been considered and met.

Actively create family stories, build and inherit family culture.

Family stories include two directions, one is about the past and the other is about the future.

Every family has a story told by its elders, which is the brand of our family and family of origin, and also the basis of our own contact with the new family.

When I was a child, I heard a thrilling story from my grandmother, telling the story of them avoiding the Japanese in the mountains of their hometown when they were young. Later, grandpa once wrote an autobiography about how he came out of the ravine to find a job and how his parents, uncles and aunts were born.

These old stories are often supplemented by relatives when they return to their hometown in the New Year.

If you like, you can also create a future family story with your family.

At such a reunion moment as the Chinese New Year, we might as well raise such a topic. ：

What will our home be like in five years, 10 years, 15 years?

Will we change to a bigger house? Will there be many children at home?

Can the business at home grow, and will the family go to live in another city or even another country?

We can take the initiative to introduce these topics from time to time and let our families sketch tomorrow as much as possible.

Sometimes family members are ashamed to talk about the future, but they usually don't refuse to talk about their children's future.

Where do children go to college?

What will you do in the future?

When can I start looking for boyfriends and girlfriends?

What should I do if I am too far from home in the future?

Do the old couple need help to take care of their grandchildren after retirement?

It is these fireworks-filled problems that help us see the future direction of our family clearly.