Han wedding customs of guests from Guangxi

Engagement:

1. The parents of both parties meet to discuss the engagement, mainly to set the almanac and the amount of the man’s betrothal gift. Currently, the more popular one is 108,000, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both parties. The gift money received will be returned according to the financial conditions. If the woman's conditions are average, if she receives 88888, it will be returned to the man ranging from 38888-58888. If the woman's condition is good, she will directly accept all the gift money and buy a car for the man.

2. There must be a lot of time before the engagement day. During this time, it is necessary to buy the things that the two of them need for their engagement. We start with the things that the man gives to the woman.

(1) A set of gold jewelry. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings, and a diamond ring (the current price of a diamond ring is about 15,000). In fact, you can also go to a goldware store to buy loose diamonds and choose the style you like to create the price. The difference is huge, you can save about 35%. Note: I asked my parents first. Some parents like to buy 24K pure gold because they think it can preserve its value, but young people don’t like it and think it is tacky.)

(2) Wedding candy. Includes a pair of candied golden apricots. Wenzhou wedding candies are divided into different sizes. The man is responsible for all the wedding candies needed by the woman, including the red envelopes inside the wedding candies (currently, 50-100 red envelopes are given out, depending on the conditions of both parties and the amount of wedding candies).

(3) Watch. In the past, it was just a pair of watches, but now that various electronic products have the function of a watch, it is not a lot to just buy one for the woman. The price depends on each person's preference for style and financial conditions, and is usually around 10,000.

The things the woman wants to buy are:

(1) A suit, two shirts, two ties, and two pairs of shoes (casual and One pair of leather shoes each), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, goldware: a bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the groomsman is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the groomsman). (I don’t know about goldware, and I didn’t do it at that time)

(2) There are 88 pieces, 98 pieces, and 108 pieces in a set of dishes to choose from. You can buy them according to the situation. It is recommended to visit several companies and compare more, otherwise the price differences between the parties will be quite large. You also have to choose a day to send bowls. There is a saying "wendang", which is homophonic to "bowl" in Wenzhou dialect. The bowls on the market now are divided into bone china and ceramics. It is recommended to buy ceramic bowls, which are resistant to high temperatures and not easy to crack. Moreover, unlike bone china, they don’t easily accumulate dirt over time. Also note that it is best to buy one suitable for microwave ovens, which will be very practical in the future.

(3) The six items are citrus, pastry, dates, longan, lotus seeds and peanuts. Then give the man one of the candied golden apricots as a gift (six items can be purchased at special stores, which saves a lot of time and energy. They are specially wrapped with a washbasin and wrapping paper. You need to reserve them about a week in advance. ).

3. Engagement day: There are currently two types of engagement banquets. One is at noon, where the groom’s parents and groomsmen are invited to a banquet at the woman’s house, and in the evening, the groom invites the woman back. The other is for both parents and close relatives and friends to hold a banquet in a hotel to get engaged. Generally speaking, more people in urban areas now choose the latter. In the afternoon, the man drives to the woman's home dressed up to greet the woman and her parents, and gives the woman's brother or sister a suitcase of money (the suitcase money refers to the woman's brother or sister preventing their sister from getting married). He refuses to leave with his suitcase, and he will not let him go until you give him money. This is how the elders explained it. Also, if the woman is an only child, she will give it to her mother). As for the suitcase money, it is also given on the wedding day. The money for a suitcase ranges from 5,800 to 10,800. After arriving at the hotel, serve tea to both parents and toast to relatives and friends to witness your love.

Marriage:

1. After deciding on the wedding day, you will start to book the hotel and arrange the banquet. Now it seems that you have to book the banquet a year in advance. I feel dizzy. Everyone has a good day. Get married.

Then you have to build a house first. Of course, the man is responsible for buying the house and decorating it. The decoration takes at least 2 months. Decoration usually starts after the engagement. After the decoration is completed, except for the furniture in the room purchased by the man, the woman is responsible for dressing up everything else. The woman takes care of all the plugs, decorative items, kitchen cabinets and bedding.

2. Take wedding photos. You have to choose a good time.

March is the best time to take wedding photos, with good weather and beautiful scenery. Make a reservation early because everyone is rushing to go at the right time. Nowadays, 3W, Ancient Photography, Fashion Spring, and Zhongtian Private Photography Workshop (I just heard about it recently) are all good, changing the cookie-cutter style of Weiwei Bridal and others. It’s best to book while you’re doing the event, as you’ll get a lot of stuff and the price will be relatively cheap. When taking photos, it is recommended to follow your own preferences and do not easily listen to the suggestions of makeup artists. They all have interests and generally have nothing to recommend. Another thing to note when choosing a photo studio is to find out the number of photos in the album (usually 50 photos, some 40 photos are too few) and the unit price for each additional photo. This varies greatly from photo studio to photo studio. Some cost 50 a piece, some less 30. In the end, the difference in the total price is still quite big.

3. Wedding dress. Nowadays, many people are buying wedding dresses. It is good to have time. After all, it is much cheaper to buy in Suzhou and Shanghai. However, one thing to note is that the quality in Suzhou is generally not very good. In addition, the traveling expenses are quite high. Let’s compare whether renting or buying is more cost-effective.

When it comes to renting, the current distribution of several stores in Wenzhou is as follows: some of the rentals at Broadway and Wedding Dress Workshop are very expensive. Wedding Dress Workshop has several pieces that are quite unique, but the price is expensive. A good-looking evening dress usually costs more than 3,000 yuan. The total of the three pieces is definitely over 10,000. Some of the ones on Broadway cost tens of thousands apiece. It's so expensive to wear for just one night, it's a waste of money. I feel that there is a Menggong Market in Chaiqiao Lane that sells pretty good wedding dresses, with affordable prices and fine products.

3. You don’t have to worry about the toasting procedures on the wedding day. The photographers from the etiquette company know these routines very well. , he will guide you on how to toast while taking pictures, just follow it.

4. A gift from the woman to the man’s family.

(1) Sweet potato father and sweet potato mother. You have to buy gifts for both the sweet potato man and the sweet potato woman. It was summer, so I bought a crocodile T-shirt for Mr. Sweet Potato and a necklace for Mrs. Sweet Potato. You have to buy a pair of shoes for both the sweet potato master and the sweet potato mother, especially the sweet potato mother. She also has to put a pair of socks in her shoes. "Shoes and socks" are homophonic to "Xianmo" in Wenzhou dialect, which means that she can help you with housework in her free time. .

(2) The sweet potato mother’s brothers and sisters are also the man’s uncles and aunts. Usually, each person buys bedding such as a quilt or quilt cover, and the price is usually two to three hundred yuan.

(3) The man’s biological brothers and sisters. Those who have older brothers usually buy a shirt or other clothes. If there are sisters, it is usually a ring or necklace. There are also siblings whose spouses are treated as brothers or sisters.

5. Preparations in the days before the wedding.

(1) Photography, car rental, and fireworks, but these are not relevant as the etiquette companies all over the street offer all-inclusive services.

(2) Master of Ceremony. Please decide whether to invite or not. It all depends on your personal preference. I always feel that if you have a lot of banquets, the host will be busy for a long time and you will be busy until 12 o'clock in the evening. Don't even think about it. If you can't wait, others won't be able to wait. It's okay if the emcee is well hired, but if the master of ceremonies is too poor or something else, it will ruin the atmosphere of the wedding.

(3) Book a makeup artist.

4. The night before the wedding, the bride only needs to go for a facial and exfoliation. If she has makeup, she doesn’t have to get up so early on the wedding day. Nowadays, beauticians come directly to your door at 9 o’clock. Come and get your hair and nails done and then eat. The next meal after lunch will be lunch the next day. I would like to remind everyone that you still need to eat enough, haha. . . Then after one o'clock, the makeup artist comes home to put on the wedding dress and shawl. It takes about an hour to do makeup and hair. A reminder here is that you should call the makeup artist in advance to inform the makeup artist what color and style your wedding dress will be, so that she can prepare a headdress of the same color and style.

It’s about the same for the man, not as troublesome as the woman. At 4 o’clock, the groom and the best man will set off to pick up the bride from the woman’s home (it’s getting earlier and earlier now, because hotels usually have Multiple couples are getting married at the same time, and the feng shui is good if they arrive early. In order to grab the feng shui, the brides now arrive early, instead of the guests waiting for the bride like in the past.) After arriving at the bride’s house, the bridesmaids will come up with some tricks to embarrass the groom. In the end, of course, The door opens after the red envelope is received (the red envelope is about 50 yuan, and there are nine bridesmaids here in Wenzhou, which is exactly the same table as the bride). Then the nine bridesmaids and all the bride's male relatives will drive to the new house together. Let’s talk about getting off the car here. We are renting a car here in Wenzhou, so cigarettes must be handed over, otherwise some bad drivers will deliberately drive fast and slow, so that they will not form a group and the video will not look good. Then when we get to the new house, we will serve tea and make glutinous rice balls, and we must remember the order of elders when serving things, otherwise we will be gossiped about.

The next step is to drive all the way to the hotel, then there is the lion dance, and then give out red envelopes (the red envelope is 10 yuan per person, total ***60). Next, some groomsmen will use those spray-painting tapes to spray the bride and bridesmaids wildly. It is recommended that the bride put down her veil, while the bridesmaid suggests preparing an old dress with a hood and putting the hat on before going in, haha. The last step is of course the toast. This is the most important, and of course it varies from person to person. Everyone can play it their own way, so it’s not necessary here. You should also pay attention to the fact that the bride needs to change her wedding dress and hairstyle in the middle. Another thing to note is that now the man gives the woman 4 tables of banquets including red envelopes. The extra banquets are the responsibility of the women themselves, and the red envelopes are of course collected by their parents.