How can a novice DJ find a venue? How can he avoid stage fright? I feel that my skills are good and I want to go out. I hope my predecessors can give me some advice.

How to build self-confidence ① Specific methods to build self-confidence (1) Choose the seat in front. Have you noticed how the seats in the back row are filled first, no matter in teaching or various parties in the classroom? Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is lack of confidence. Sitting in the front can build confidence. Try it as a rule and try to sit forward as much as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember that everything about success is conspicuous. (2) Practicing to look at others' eyes can reveal a lot of information about him. When someone doesn't look you in the eye, you will intuitively ask yourself, "What do you want to hide? What is he afraid of? Will he be bad for me? " Not looking at others directly usually means: I feel inferior around you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; What have I done or thought of that I don't want you to know? I'm afraid that once I touch your eyes, you will see through me. This is all some bad information. Looking others in the eye is telling you that I am honest and aboveboard. I believe what I told you is true, and I have no conscience. Speed up your walking by 25% When David Schwartz was a teenager, it was great fun to go to the town center. After getting into the car after all the errands, my mother often says, "David, let's sit for a while and look at passers-by." Mother is a wonderful observer. She would say, "Look at that guy. What do you think is bothering him?" Or "What do you think the lady over there is going to do?" Or "Look at that man, he seems a little lost." It's really a pleasure to watch people walk. This is much cheaper and more enlightening than watching movies. Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about themselves, their work and others. But psychologists also tell us that by changing posture and speed, we can change our mental state. If you look closely, you will find that the movements of the body are the result of mental activities. Those who have been hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence. Ordinary people have the appearance of "ordinary people" walking and make a confession that "I am not very proud of myself". Another kind of person shows extraordinary confidence, walking faster than the average person, like running. Their pace tells the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things. More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes." Use this "walk 25% faster" technology, walk faster with your head held high, and you will feel your self-confidence growing. (4) practicing speaking in public Napoleon Hill pointed out that there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It's not that they don't want to participate, but just because they lack confidence. The taciturn people in the meeting thought, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel stupid. I'd better say nothing. Moreover, others may know more than me, and I don't want you to know that I am so ignorant. " These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until the next time." But they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time these taciturn people don't speak, he is poisoned by lack of confidence again, and he will lose confidence more and more. On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence and make it easier to speak next time. Therefore, we should speak more, which is the "vitamin" of confidence. No matter what kind of meeting you attend, you should take the initiative to speak every time, perhaps commenting, suggesting or asking questions, without exception. Besides, don't speak last. To be an icebreaker, be the first to break the silence. And don't worry that you will look stupid. I won't. Because someone will always agree with you. So don't say to yourself, "I wonder if I dare to say it." Try to get the attention of the chairman of the meeting so that you can have a chance to speak. (5) grin. Most people know that laughter can give them a practical driving force, and it is a good medicine to cure lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this, because they never try to smile when they are afraid. Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostility of others. If you sincerely smile at a person Zhan Yan, he can't be angry with you any more. Napoleon Hill told a personal experience: "One day, my car stopped at a red light at an intersection, and suddenly there was a bang. It turned out that the driver of the car behind me slipped the brake and his car hit the bumper behind me. I saw him coming down in the rearview mirror and got off with him, ready to give him a good scolding. "But fortunately, before I could have an attack, he came over and smiled at me and said to me in the most sincere tone,' Friend, I really didn't mean to.' His smile and sincere explanation melted me. I had to whisper,' Never mind, it happens all the time.' In a blink of an eye, my hostility turned into friendliness. "Grind, and you will feel that the good days are coming again. Laughing means laughing "big". It's useless not to laugh half-heartedly. It takes a grin to be effective. We often hear: "Yes, but when I am afraid or angry, I just don't want to laugh." Of course, at this time, no one can laugh. The trick is to force yourself to say, "I'm going to start laughing." Then, laugh. Control and use the ability to laugh. (6) When stage fright occurs, you might as well tell the truth, that is, you can calm down and observe the method is one of the main methods to study psychology. This is the view put forward by William Walter, the father of experimental psychology. This method is to observe your inner situation calmly, and then shake out the observation results without hiding. If we can imitate this method and express the psychological secrets that are changing all the time in words, then there is no spare capacity to cause trouble. For example, when I first arrive in a strange place, my heart will inevitably be full of doubts and fears. At this time, I might as well express this uneasy mood clearly in words: "I almost froze, my heart kept beating, even my eyes were black, my tongue was frozen, and my throat was so thirsty that I couldn't speak." In this way, not only can the inner tension be dispelled, but also the mood can be unexpectedly calm. Let's give another very real example. There is a salesman who ranks fifth in the United States. When he was not familiar with this line of work, he once met the American automobile king alone. As a result, he was really timid. Unable to help it, he had to say it honestly: "I'm ashamed. When I first saw you, I was too scared to say anything." As a result, this actually dispelled the fear, thanks to the effect of confession. If you use a positive tone, you can eliminate the sense of inferiority. Some women face the mirror, and when she sees her figure or skin color, she can't help feeling happy. On the contrary, some women are troubled by inferiority complex. Although each other's skin color is very dark, confident women will think: "My skin is wheat color, almost comparable to black hair." And she must be secretly happy. However, a woman who lacks self-confidence groaned in pain: "Why, my skin color is so dark." Two kinds of people have completely different moods. Some women lose confidence when they see the mirror, and even break it in a fit of pique. Thus, the standard of value judgment is very subjective and vague. As long as you think it's beautiful, it looks beautiful. If you think it's annoying, it looks unpleasant. Especially, the situation of inferiority complex is often influenced by language, so negative language is harmful to a person's mental health. The author of The Theory of Nature is Lucretius, a great Roman poet. He advised people all over the world to praise women with dark skin and said, "Your skin color is as charming as walnuts." As long as she appreciates each other so much, the woman will not care even if she dresses in the mirror repeatedly or knows that her skin is dark. In this way, she can concentrate on makeup and always feel that she is a charming woman. Then Lucretius advised us to change "skinny" into "lovely antelope" and "talkative" into "eloquent talent". Different languages can completely change the same facts and give people different psychological feelings. In a word, the same fact can be described as the result of a world of difference by using positive or negative words. It can be seen that this matter of wording is indeed a magician that no genius can match. In any case, as long as valuable words or narratives are often used, the same fact can be completely changed, of course, the inferiority complex can be dispelled and people can enjoy a happy life. (8) Self-confidence cultivates self-confidence. If you lack self-confidence, you will always do something that seems to have no self-confidence, and you will become less and less confident. When you lack confidence, you should do something more confident. When you lack self-confidence, it is better to tell yourself that you are confident than to tell yourself that you are not confident. In order to overcome the negative and negative attitude, we should try to adopt a positive and positive attitude. If you think you can't do it and leave everything around you behind, the situation will gradually become as you think. There is a student group that advocates that college students choose the most modern and beautiful college students every year and hold competitions. The following is what the staff there said. He (she) went to universities and streets and saw beautiful people, so he (she) showed them brochures and invited them to take part in the competition. From the local to the central government, various competitions are held again and again. However, everyone is becoming more and more beautiful, which is almost invisible. The staff there said: "Probably more and more confident!" That's absolutely right. Because of the positive attitude of "I want to take part in this competition", these people look beautiful. "I want to take part in this competition", this attitude of affirming life generates self-confidence and makes these people look more beautiful. There is a proverb in Denmark: "Even if good luck comes, a fool knows how to invite it in." If you take a negative and negative attitude, even if good luck knocks on your door, you won't invite it in. When the opportunity comes, you should put aside your negative and negative attitude. Luck comes not only from the outside, but also from the heart. "Don't say harsh words all day today." These things seem easy, but they are not simple. However, as long as you are determined to do it, you can do it. If you can smile in your voice, then life will become brighter day by day. Because, if the voice has a kind smile, people will want to talk to you, and then they will be refreshed by contact with people. When talking on the phone, if you speak with a smiling voice, the other party will feel comfortable and happy. Bitter face or unkind words will not only make the other person uncomfortable, but also make him unhappy. When you bump into each other with words, you bump into yourself with words, and your attitude towards each other is also your attitude towards yourself. We should build up one by one like bricks, and build up our positive and positive attitude towards life. Even if you can't like all people, you should try to like more than one person, like one person, and relatively, you will like yourself, and then you will overcome unnecessary fear of others. Because, self-confidence will cultivate self-confidence. A small achievement will bring us confidence. If you want to do great and extraordinary things at once, you will become less and less confident. (9) When you do what you can do, your personality will be revealed. It is important to find out what you can do now instead of desperately trying to restore your image. Knowing what you should do and then implementing it can liberate you from your self-image. In short, try to write down what you can do at once and then put it into practice. It is not necessary to take great and extraordinary actions, as long as it is what you can do. Because we just want to be successful, we can't find anything to do. "Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today", the work that can be easily done today will become very heavy if it is left to the next day. If you think, "What a nuisance!" And until the next day, the work will become relatively heavy. If what you can do today is put off until the next day, those delayed jobs will increase your burden. I have never met anyone who said, "I will quit smoking from tomorrow!" " And quit smoking. I have never met anyone who said, "Let's stop drinking tonight!" And quit drinking. The following is a short story of a photographer. Once, the photographer attended a party. On the way to the reception, the photographer said, "I quit drinking" and asked him, "When did it start?" He replied, "I decided to quit just now." He gave up smoking and drinking. Most people will answer: "After this reception" or "This reception is the last time". "Forever" is also accumulated hour by hour, because if you take away an hour, there will be no eternity. Try to make two cards, one with "Go ahead!" (Do it), and the other one says "Do it later". Take these two cards with you, and when you are not confident, take out one of them. At this time, it should be drawn out and written "Go ahead!" That one. We can write "Be confident" on the back first. When you don't know whether to do it or not, be sure to take out this card. Because today is related to the next day, if you don't do what you can do today, it will become more difficult to do it tomorrow. Running a marathon, because the body will be tired, so we can't be more motivated every time we cross a telephone pole. However, as long as it is not entirely physical work, achieving the goal again and again will bring more motivation to people. Therefore, we should divide the big goal into several small stages to achieve it. Every time a stage is reached, new impetus will be generated. Then it will stimulate the motivation needed to achieve the ultimate goal. I thought, "It's probably hard!" Then people who fall into depression are succumbed to the goal from the beginning, and these people will set a goal that they can't achieve, which shows that their hearts have been distorted. A sound soul yearns for what it can do. People with immature mental development will constantly adopt a very strong self-centered attitude. This kind of phenotype, once a self-centered person sets a goal, it must be the goal that immediately attracts everyone's attention. Then, because of clinging to that goal, he loses what he should do here and now. In the end, he goes it alone and does something different. People who like to be unconventional when they are young tend to be depressed when they are old, which is why. When I was young, I couldn't overcome my self-expression and self-centered personality. When I was old, I became depressed. There is an old saying: "Swallows fly and turtles stomp their feet", that is to say, people who "can't find what they want to do" don't be like the tortoise in this sentence? Suppose the tortoise sees the geese flying across the sky and wants to fly, isn't that strange? The tortoise should have something that the tortoise can do but the wild goose can't.

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