Women's Essays on 23 Stories

I have two good friends who both have the same problem.

One is a beautiful Yiyi. She knows two men, Wang and Zhao. Wang is a white-collar worker in a foreign company, mature, intelligent and rich, which is her favorite type. Zhao is a civil servant, generous and sincere, belonging to a family-oriented man. She asked me whether I should follow my heart or be realistic. Is real love still true love? According to my understanding of her, she will definitely choose Wang, otherwise she will still be as unwilling as before. She said that she felt that Wang was too egotistical and money was too strong for people to grasp, and she was very upset. The problem is that he is her king, but she may be his spare tire. In fact, there are Wang and Zhao in everyone's heart, even Sun and Zhu. It depends on your mentality when choosing, whether to choose a challenging king or a stable Zhao? What's more, if you choose a king, but the king may not accept it. So, she was even more upset and asked me to go to a bar every day to talk about her troubles.

The other is a beautiful young woman, Shiyu. Although all her children are in primary school, she is still distressed. Shiyu's husband works in the office, which is also a small head of the unit. He is a handsome guy. However, the other day, I saw that Shiyu didn't look so good, so I quietly inquired. Shiyu is depressed. She told me that she misses her ex-boyfriend every day now, which can be said to be to the extent that she doesn't think about tea and rice. I criticized her rudely: "What are you doing? Are you full? Nothing to look for. " She hit me back: "You have never had an unforgettable love, you don't understand." Ha ha! I am speechless, maybe I really don't understand.

Later, I learned that Shiyu's ex-boyfriend is now a deputy department-level cadre in a province. He once loved and was deeply loved by others, but later he could not get together for various reasons. When she told me about her ex-boyfriend, she was so radiant that she made people jealous. She said, "Somehow, he is not handsome, he is as thin as a bamboo pole, and sometimes his trouser legs are rolled up high, which makes him look unkempt, but I think he is handsome ..."

I read an article by a writer friend, and his description of love and marriage can be described as perfect, romantic and pure, which intoxicated me and made me fantasize. However, if we savor it carefully, the feeling of love and the fear of marriage are also faintly reflected between the lines. The general meaning is: "men and women fall in love and combine." However, just because of understanding, it will eventually break up because of understanding, so love does not have to be married. "

have you ever been heartbroken by love? People say that the deeper you love, the more unforgettable you are, and the more afraid you are of love. It seems unreasonable to refuse marriage for fear of being hurt.

analyzing the anguish of my friends, I think it is not enough for a woman to satisfy all her imaginations about love in marriage. Men also follow this reasoning. Therefore, in a monogamous society, people who are troubled have to tell stories about red apples and green apples to comfort themselves!

It is said that 5 years' passing has brought us an acquaintance in this life. The love field is like a battlefield, and those who love suffer from loss, while those who want to love are timid. What a sad thing it is to watch handsome guys and beautiful girls walk into their marriage auditorium with their heads held high, smiling, coming out with tears and forgetting each other in the rivers and lakes.

The world is so big that it really deserves the saying "there are all kinds of wonders". The reasons for happiness are the same, and the reasons for misfortune are different. In this era of rapid development, how should we female compatriots choose to fall in love and get married? Perhaps, with the continuous development of society, people's ideas about love and marriage may have changed even more!

when I hear the name "Rong", I naturally associate it with the word "beauty and beauty". "Clouds want clothes, flowers and capacity", perhaps because there is a girl at home, and her father named her "Xiao Rong".

In fact, seeing her face has strengthened her father's foresight. Rong is really charming and amazing, and has a gorgeous face in the splendid flower season.

Rong is the wife of my husband's friend. We often get together, chat, eat and sing, so we gradually get familiar with each other.

I heard Rong's story before I met her. Her ex-boyfriend told me himself.

Beautiful Rong works as an accountant in a town supply and marketing cooperative, and her ex-boyfriend works in a town construction company. The two units are just opposite each other. A beautiful girl lives alone every day, which can't help but attract the attention of single men. Over time, the two people gradually get to know each other. From this, I began to fall in love, and then I lived together. The life of cohabitation is simple and happy. If you are not careful, Rong is pregnant.

It's not as simple as Rong imagined. The construction workers couldn't get the approval of Rong's parents. They clamored for land and demanded Rong. Then they quickly found a handsome young policeman and let them get married. The weak Rong succumbed to her parents' arrangement and soon married the police officer Xiao Zhou.

Rong forgot the past and lived a housewife life with peace of mind. Rong is beautiful and happy. Her happiness stems from having a handsome, capable and small-headed husband.

But Rong's ex-boyfriend is different. First, he became lovesick and suffered from mild schizophrenia, and then he resigned. He spent several years on healing, and his body pain could be healed, but his heart wound could not be healed. Even though I got married, I still drank all day to drown my sorrows, and I was still called Rong in my drunken dream ... < P > When Rong's ex-boyfriend described his love, his face was still slightly sad, and his dementia eyes were full of confusion and helplessness.

From a girl to a mature woman, from the prime of life to being a wife and a mother, Rong's life goes on and on, and her children are 8 years old.

Life is not always full of sunshine, and happiness is not like flowers. Handsome and handsome, Xiao Zhou wanted to be a leader. He worked diligently and day and night in the unit. Unfortunately, he contracted hepatitis. In order to make progress, he had to go out to socialize, drink and sing at intervals. Sometimes, people who are so-called "like-minded" are invited to stay at home for a living, chatting and drinking. Of course, he concealed the fact that he was ill.

to be honest, I can't imagine Rong's inner pain at that time. She takes care of Xiao Zhou day after day, preparing clothes and socks for him every morning, Chinese herbal medicine for him at night, and pouring foot washing water for him before going to bed. She silently pays for her husband, and all her worries are borne by herself. Rong is an ordinary woman, all her love is only for her husband, and all her tolerance is only for her favorite person.

I remember that my husband and I had two small frictions because of Rong. The reason is the same.

My husband said, "Rong's chin is thick and protruding, and he is a blessed person. She prepares clothes, socks, medicine and foot washing water for her husband. That is virtuous and enviable! "

I said to my husband, "Break your heart! Ask me to bring you foot washing water every day? Go and marry a nanny as a wife! "

The Public Security Bureau started the annual military competition, running, shooting and camping. Xiao Zhou gritted his teeth and took part in the 3-meter running, and finally collapsed on the playground ...

Kind Rong walked around and returned to the original situation-alone.

Rong's ex-boyfriend's family lives next to the county vegetable market. Rong has to pass by every day to buy food, so they should meet.

The ending of Half-Life Fate is: Gu Manzhen told Shen Shijun that we can't go back to the past. Can they go back in time? I have thought about it and asked.

there is a kind of Tianya called zhichi, and there is a kind of zhichi called Tianya. The farthest distance in the world is the mind, and the nearest distance in the world is also the mind. So close at hand, so close at hand!

I don't believe in fate, which is just an excuse to pursue or escape, and I don't believe in destiny, which is a more lazy slack. I only believe in life, plain life, real life.

Rong's story is not finished yet. What kind of mentality does she have now? I don't know.

Third

When I got off work and walked to the intersection of the community, an agricultural tricycle drove by, and there was a woman sitting next to the man who was driving. It must be husband and wife. The woman leaned on the man's shoulder affectionately, laughing and laughing with a happy face. Looking at the carriage, it is a big garbage bin surrounded by snakeskin bags. It turns out that the two are scavengers.

They walked all the way to the trash can at the door of our residential unit. The man got off the bus, sat on the stone bench in the residential area, took out a kettle and slowly poured it into his mouth, but his eyes were always looking at the woman with a warm smile.

The woman took out an iron brazing rod, smirked, and pounded the waste products that could be sold in the trash can. I took a look at a woman, in her thirties. Her smiling face was quite round and not ugly. She looked satisfied and didn't see any vicissitudes of life.

This reminds me of another couple. Every morning, I get up at six and run. The small town in the early morning was shrouded in the white morning fog, only vaguely revealing several tall buildings in the distance. Out of the dark community, bright street lights shine on the quiet and empty street. The gray light is like sprinkling a layer of silver powder on the ground, and only the broom sound of cleaners sweeping the street is heard in the distance.

At a garbage dump where I pass by running, I see a garbage truck parked at the garbage dump on time every day, and a man and a woman are loading garbage. This was originally a man's job, but I saw the woman helping the man load garbage. She is not tall, and her body is not strong. She wraps her head with a headscarf that can't see the color clearly, only her eyes are exposed, and she shovels garbage into the car in the cold wind.

Perhaps, this is called the people who live at the bottom. They do repetitive and hard work year after year. The summer stinks and the winter is bitter, but they have no regrets. They are still a vivid and happy look, and the happiness that overflows from their hearts is written on their faces.

There are few touching things in real life. However, the mutual affection of these two couples has touched me and raised a feeling similar to sweetness in my heart.

poor, but happy, caring for each other. Sometimes I think about it, people are really contradictory, pursuing materials and enjoyment, but they don't lack anything, but they sigh all day, feel bored and feel that life is meaningless.

In this world, there are trees, birds have a free sky, the rich have their troubles, and ordinary people have their happiness ...

Fourth, life goes on, and the story goes on. The life in the story, the story in life, is folded in different shapes and wrapped in different moods. It is always tender in the long sky and far water with a touch of sadness or happiness. The past is like smoke, life is like a dream, and the years gradually fade away inadvertently, leaving behind many unforgettable memories-nostalgia, hatred, melancholy, sadness, worry, pain, happiness and joy.

I think love, in a nutshell, may be the kind of feeling, passion and enthusiasm that loves a person. But as the wheel of history rolls forward and the times change with each passing day, time has given love more connotation. As a result, people began to be confused about love, and love became a mystery in the hearts of generations. Throughout the ages, romantic celebrities have written countless answers for love, but no one can fully understand the meaning of love. Yes, there are thousands of stories on the road of youth, and most of them end in tears. Let this hazy story turn into a cup of bitter wine and exist in the heart. However, in the years of youth, even if it is a glass that breaks easily when touched, or it is still an illusory mirage, you should chase it rashly and throw yourself into it crazily, even if it is heartbreaking pain, at least love has been in full bloom in your life.

Marriage is when two strangers come together. It is easier to get along with each other when they are in love. After the passion, all that remains is their true personalities and tempers. The combination of people with different environments, backgrounds and preferences may be imperfect in itself. How to face this imperfection, accept it, and try our best to reconcile and run in depends on our mentality. Looking at it from another angle, a happy marriage is the sureness in the dull. In the dull, there is no love, and love is included in every moment of the dull. A truly happy marriage is like soup, which needs to be simmered slowly, so that the soup can be mellow and delicious. On weekdays, we gag, tease and tease in the noise, or have a variety of amorous feelings, or elegant and subtle, or considerate, or Leng Yan is intimidating ... Most of them are for outsiders to see. In fact, true love is not so much romantic love, nor so much witty love words. True love is rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, raising and educating children, serving the elderly on both sides, and the lover's hand is hurt and bleeding-even if it is a small wound, it will feel distressed ... < P > Therefore, the essence of love is selfless, and she only interprets it in different forms, so there are so many different endings ...