? Do adults know about children's 10 troubles?

Why do children always complain that life is boring and full of troubles? This is a teenager, and it is a sunny teenager. Why does small heart have so many troubles?

One weekend, I suggested that my children organize a group of classmates to go for a spring outing. I worked as a photographer for them and followed them all day. On this day, I became friends with them and walked into their hearts. I am more or less aware of the difficulties faced by these children.

First, the study pressure is too great.

The academic burden is too heavy, there are many kinds of extracurricular training, and the entrance examination, grades and rankings bring great pressure. I am always nervous when I meet an exam, and I have no time for myself. The child said that he was only in the first year of high school, and his parents' goals were already staring at the high school three years later, or even the university six years later. Especially those "unlucky" who passed the key middle school because of the difference of one point and two points, their parents cling to this point every day and must catch up in junior high school for three years. It seems that this and two points are the difference between heaven and hell.

Second, parents don't know themselves.

Parents are too demanding and always compare their children with others' children. The child said that parents have another child in their hearts, that is, children from other people's families, children with good grades, and the top five in the class have become the children of parents in the whole class. This greatly hurts children's self-esteem, and parents are too high to communicate.

Third, poor communication with teachers.

The teacher only looked at the results, which was biased and misunderstood himself.

Fourth, different troubles.

The communication between male and female students caused criticism and caused booing, and parents participated in answering the phone calls of students of the opposite sex. Parents especially emphasize that friends in the top ten, especially parents, will be unhappy when they see their children walking with the opposite sex students in the middle and lower reaches of the class.

Fifth, the troubles of communication between classmates.

Some students have good family conditions, but they like to show off and bully others. They don't give advice in person, play tricks behind their backs and like to complain to teachers.

Sixth, the troubles in life.

Life is monotonous and I feel lonely. I go to school, go home, eat and do my homework every day. No one communicates, and there are grievances buried in my heart. I find it boring that I can't satisfy my wishes one by one. Only when I have fun online can I release them. At a very young age, I knew that there are three networks in life: interpersonal network, relationship network and Internet. It's just that there is no trouble online. Don't look at anyone's face. "Little brother is not online, lonely in the world".

Seven, negative social education has both positive and negative effects.

The balance of fairness and justice is always in an unbalanced state in children's hearts. People who obey the rules often suffer, and those who do good are wronged. The handling of some things by teachers, schools and society affects children's view of right and wrong, which makes it difficult for children to accept.

Eight, the troubles of special families.

Parents' discord, difficult family life environment, troubles of single-parent families and left-behind children, etc. It also affects the development of children's healthy personality.

Nine, long-term pampering.

Lack of experience has more or less caused children's poor self-care ability and self-control, leading to weak willpower, inability to quit Internet addiction, inability to control themselves in class, inability to concentrate and so on.

Ten, the trouble of inferiority.

I feel that I am not as good as people in all aspects. Short events are looked down upon by people, and long events are beyond my reach. I am unattractive in my family and class, have no confidence in myself, and always can't do what I want to do well.

Education experts point out that it is normal for children to encounter troubles in one way or another during their growth. It is very important to arouse the attention of teachers, parents and society and conduct psychological counseling in time. These troubles may be insignificant in the eyes of parents and teachers, but they are great for children's immature psychology. They are often pressed in their hearts because no one listens or has nowhere to vent, which has a negative impact on children's growth. It would be terrible to let troubles accumulate and become a mental illness. Especially from junior high school, children gradually grow up and their personalities gradually form. If these troubles are not solved well, they will affect the child's life.