How do two people attract each other?

It is said that two people are together because they like each other and are suitable. Recently, I have become more and more aware that if two people want to be together for a long time, they rely on mutual attraction. This attraction is not only expressed in appearance, looks, and figure, but also the attraction between two people. With the same personal progress, I also deeply feel the gap between him and me. This may also be the source of my unhappiness many times...

? Brother Zhang is a hobby He is a very broad-minded person, and he is also a very all-round and excellent person. He likes sports, fitness, and swimming. Now that summer is here, he does these things more frequently. I support him very much, and he also likes sports very much. It is important. What’s more, I also envy him, because he has like-minded friends, and we can discuss these together. He is not only a two-pointer at school and home, he can make full use of his spare time. In comparison, I really Yeah, my hobbies are so lacking. I feel like I just don’t know how to do anything. I only live between the hospital and home, and I don’t have many like-minded friends. Even my life is very boring. When I’m in my 20s, I feel like I’m just living in the kitchen. Working in the bedroom, (and of course with patients), I felt like I had nothing to offer, that I didn’t have a particularly good specialty. For example, I like writing, but I am always defeated by my laziness, and I haven’t updated it for a long time. I like taking pictures, but I don’t take the time to study it. In the end, I am not even a photography novice, but I also want to go. I practice yoga and improve my posture, but I can always put it aside because I am tired from work... So whenever Brother Zhang goes to the gym, swims, runs, or plays football during breaks, I am alone, and then I feel I am a very boring person, and I think he will definitely be bored when he is with me. At first, everyone felt that each other was okay because of the novelty, but later on, they were able to stick together and rely on mutual attraction. He could always attract me, but what about me? I feel that the gap between me and him is getting bigger and bigger. I am also thinking about how to cultivate my own interests and hobbies so that I can learn more new things. What can I do to attract him?

? When I went to work today, I accidentally mentioned this matter to my colleague, and she said to me, you also need to cultivate your own interests and hobbies, otherwise the gap between you will become more obvious later on, maybe Later, you almost no longer have the same topic of conversation, so why are you still together based on your looks? You know how to cook? You can't always deal with the kitchen, let alone be associated with the name of housewife so early. I seemed to see myself like this for a moment. I was also very sad. What was sad was not that she pointed out the problem to the point. I was sad. The thing is, I am too lazy. I also think she is right, and I know it very well, so I also plan to implement this matter. I will start the yoga practice that I put aside before. It's just talk. To be honest, these things are not for you to show to others. They are things to improve yourself and a way to keep the other person fresh. I will also take the things I like seriously, learn new things based on the original ones, and work harder in my professional field. Of course, this really requires persistence, so just think of it as a flag set by yourself.

"Two people reflect each other, shining brighter than the stars at night." If you want to be together for a long time and meaningfully, you really have to make progress together and attract each other. It is absolutely correct to say that only two truly outstanding people can get together. I think my brother Zhang and I are able to get to where we are now entirely because of our personalities. He is neither impatient nor irritable, and he is not alarmed when things happen, and he can always resolve our conflicts very well, while I am impatient, have an eccentric personality, and get angry and unhappy at every turn. Only later did I realize that my unhappiness was caused by myself, because I did not allow myself to relax the best and was always in a state of anxiety and restlessness. I thought too much. So life lies in sports. He can always find himself in sports. He loves sports very much. He feels that there is nothing that cannot be solved by sweating. I really envy him. I am also because of various factors and different places. Familiarity, unfamiliarity with friends, I feel like I can only communicate with them, I even become lazy, too lazy to learn new things and new skills, too lazy to read books, too lazy to be physically unhealthy, I can’t just ask What he wants to do is more about asking himself, because only when he does well enough can he make demands on others. Just like when looking for a partner, only when his own conditions are good enough can he choose, not others. Choose yourself.

? Whatever you love, just pursue it boldly... What you are most afraid of is not knowing what you really love and what you are good at? You must have a clear understanding of yourself and at the same time, you must have higher requirements for yourself. I hope I can become a very good person, well, then go for it.