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A friend talked about a widowed colleague of hers. Her colleague's wife had an accident and left a son and a daughter, which was unbearable for this gentleman. But he later got married and gave birth to a daughter, but he always felt that his ex-wife was perfect and indifferent to the current one. In fact, his unmarried girl is a few years younger than him and more beautiful than his ex-wife, but I don't know why, but I just can't get into his heart. His heart is filled with his ex-wife, and his contribution has been given to a person who is no longer in this world. This is unfair to the incumbent, and the daughter of the current student is not as enthusiastic as her predecessor.

People are sometimes strange and incredible. Is it true that you only love one person in your life? Or are things in the relationship only known to the parties? Watching? Anyway, it's embarrassing.

A friend thinks that his wife's sudden death and sudden disappearance in his world are unacceptable in his mood. All his sadness turned into missing, even if there were shortcomings and neglect. At this time, he is not suitable to get married, because he is still in the pain of losing his wife, but he is married and has not had time to divert his attention, but someone has taken his place. Even if his present job is not so good, he will suffer the same fate of being left out.

So some people say they want to find a divorced person, not a widowed one who remarries. The reason is this: divorce is heartbreaking, while widowhood is lacking. In fact, remarriage happiness is not happy, and it is not necessarily a rule. Widowed and divorced people will copy mechanically. Marriage varies from person to person, from personality to personality, from quality to quality, and external reasons, even if personal experience accounts for a part, may be an excuse for their inferiority complex.

I lost my father at the age of weak crown and my wife at the age of 30. I don't believe it in my life. We have tried everything we can, including two craniotomy operations, radiotherapy and chemotherapy, traditional Chinese and western medicine, and even targeted drugs in clinical trials. There is still a small dose of arsenic in the drawer that I prepared but didn't have time to use ... I still can't keep my 26-year-old wife. We used to be so happy that the world envied us. My son is now in preschool, my daughter is in kindergarten, and I am left alone. The economic pressure is not bad, mainly the upbringing and education of children. I have not lived in vain these years. I have several close friends, and my friends help to take care of my children this year. Does it hurt? Pain, I have always advocated that men are the masters of bleeding without tears, and countless times I think of the dribs and drabs of the past, and tears wet my clothes. Is it stressful? Fortunately, if you are busy, you can take care of your children while working. It's not too tiring to wash and cook something. This year is always worrying, but I don't know what will happen next year. Do you have any thoughts about finding another woman? I honestly admit that there is! I am a man, I don't have my family, and I don't trust my elders to entrust my children. But if you want to say that I want to find a pure nanny for my children, I will definitely deny it. I grew up in a family with traditional culture, and there are still some responsibilities that men should bear. I will enter my house and become husband and wife. Because I have a psychological shadow over my mother's unreasonable troubles since I was a child, I cherish the people at the bedside and enjoy the feeling of intimacy. It's a pity that God didn't pity me and let her leave me. In recent days, Tik Tok's very popular "tolerance" singing: I miss you, love you, and can't keep your dear you. I did my best. This sentence perfectly explains what I thought when I was widowed. As for widowhood and divorce, the rational analysis is that the probability of widowhood is higher than that of divorce, but we also need to know each other's past in detail. Haha, although the road ahead is confusing and stressful, although my inner reason tells me what to do. However, I still want to leave everything to fate. Just wait until the child is older and put up with it for a few years. Is it so terrible to have sex all night? Only respect heaven and earth, not afraid of ghosts and gods. Being in the world of mortals, you are not afraid to know your destiny, and you have a lot of fate, and you don't complain. Don't go to Shaolin or Wudang-be a major forever!

I am a widowed man, and I don't like divorced women anyway. I insist that women who are not widowed should not be taken seriously. Widowhood is an act of providence, cruel separation, not artificial separation. Widowhood and divorce are two different degrees Sadly, there are very few widowed women, and there is no choice at all! My parents remarried and they were both widows. The relationship between the two old people was very good! I watched Gorky's My Childhood at the age of twelve, which left a serious shadow. Gorky's father died of illness and his mother remarried to an unmarried naked man. For three years, she was very kind to her mother, but she was lukewarm to Gorky, and sometimes she shouted at him rudely. Gorky's mother often cries, and Gorky hates her stepfather! Three years later, my stepfather had a woman outside, and she was often called Gorky Rabbit. He wants to beat Gorky, excuse his mother, and often quarrel and fight! Twelve-year-old Gorky hates his stepfather. He wants to fight, but he can't beat his stepfather. He secretly bought a knife and hid it. This time the stepfather got drunk and went home to beat his mother. His mother was beaten all over the floor. Gorky secretly took out a knife and stabbed it directly in his stepfather's ass. His stepfather ran away in fear and never came home! This situation, I deeply remember, widowhood and divorce are not on the same road! Therefore, remarriage, divorce, widowhood, at least empathy, similar feelings.

Not to mention, I am over 500 years old. At present, my aunt died at the age of 54, and my uncle immediately found another woman older than my uncle Xiao Jiu.

Although my uncle grew up in the countryside, he was a coal miner before retiring at the age of 40, and my aunt was a barefoot doctor in the brigade. However, his aunt developed diabetes in the 1980s. In the 1990s, his only son was killed in a car accident, when his car overturned to avoid an old lady crossing the street.

The unexpected death of my son made my aunt, who was already diabetic, physically and mentally exhausted and cried day and night, leading to uremia.

Although my uncle's family was decent, in order to maintain my aunt's life, I had done hemodialysis in Nanjing People's Liberation Army Hospital for many years and finally left.

There is a cancer patient at home for many years, and even the best conditions can't stand long-term hospitalization hemodialysis. The end result is usually that the money is used up and people are gone.

But because my uncle has a pension, and he is in great health and energetic, the divorced woman in Xiao Jiu was left behind by a woman when she first introduced her uncle to her home.

After getting married, my uncle not only had a pension, but also organized a group of tree diggers (specially to help the garden owner dig trees) to dig trees themselves. He earns 300 to 400 a day, and he also takes the agency head fee. Therefore, in addition to his pension, his uncle earns 500 yuan more every day to go to 600 yuan, which makes Xiao Jiu-year-old woman happy every day, because her old life was poor and her man was in prison again. This second wife. For this reason, my uncle's remarriage was strongly opposed by two daughters (my cousin). However, my father has three floors, a pension and a part-time job to earn money. How can he listen to his daughters?

But if my uncle doesn't have a pension and can't earn a high income every day, will Xiao Jiu's second wife still marry my uncle?

The answer is impossible, because she later said, find a man with social security and medical insurance as a backer, so that you will have no worries for the rest of your life.

What I said above is just an example, because thousands of families are different. However, if I were you, I would definitely not want to find a man with a dead wife. If nothing else, I would be afraid and sad.

I don't think a widowed person wants a divorce. My husband died of liver cancer when I was 5 1 year old. A few years after his death, I want to find a partner. I was introduced to a man seven years older than me. He is an engineer, divorced, and very kind to me. Only when I got along with him did I find that he was narrow-minded. There was a man looking at me in the street, and he was angry when he was not allowed to make a phone call. He will think that a woman cheated me on a TV show. Later, I broke up with him. Later, I met a divorced man. This person is very stingy, and expenses other than meals are not allowed. I heard that his ex-wife and he have been on and off dozens of times in 30 years. In these years, he never went to a restaurant with his ex-wife, never bought clothes for his ex-wife, and never gave his ex-wife a penny for living expenses. His ex-wife is more than one month 1000, which is all the expenses of a family of three. From work to divorce, his salary didn't cost a penny, which is why his ex-wife insisted on divorce. After understanding, we also broke up, so I swear that I am not a widow, and I will never look at it.

1994 divorced her ex-husband. After the divorce, my daughter and I lived alone and always lived alone. Marriage has been hurt once and I don't want to be hurt again. I think it's good to live alone. During this period, I learned computer, driving, photography, fabrics, and I also like traveling. So I am grateful for my divorce. If it weren't for the divorce, I might still be a yellow-faced woman who works in the vegetable market at three o'clock and walks around the kitchen table all day.

Let me also talk about my opinion. It is better to choose widowhood. Most divorced people will not live a good life because the first marriage is not well managed. Widowed people have no choice but to live a good life, so most of the remaining half can still live a good life. My wife left me first. I don't want to look for it anymore. I want to find a widow, and every family needs to run it with care. We were married for twenty years and never really quarreled until he left. Now every time I think of my lover, the most regrettable thing is that I have never quarreled.

Have you ever heard the saying that there are many things in front of a widow's door?

Widows generally refer to widowed women, meaning that there are many proposals, and the matchmaker goes in and out like a lantern; Thieves want to cheat more; If you can't afford a daughter-in-law, go to the door and see if you can find more leaks; Rogue thugs want to have fun more.

Look, is it hot? They are not taboo at all.

Undeniably, finding a widowed person, such as her husband, brings a superstition and psychological shadow. It is neither scientific nor reasonable.

Take me for example. I used to buy lottery tickets crazily, and I haven't seen a small prize for several years. I was advised to go to the temple to burn incense and worship Buddha. On a business trip, I made a special trip to a temple to worship Buddha, bowed devoutly, and then asked the master for advice. The master smiled and gave me two words:' As long as you work hard, the iron bar will be ground into a needle'! A drop of water wears away the stone! I also understand these two sentences. I'm confused. The master added,' Honesty is the spirit'! After that, he pulled me to his side and said a word in my ear. After listening to this, I was very excited and grateful, as if I had left with the treasure. I am more confident to buy lottery tickets when I come back, and I will add a lot when I meet a good day (the magic weapon that the master quietly gave me). Day after day, year after year, I spent a lot of money and only won a few little Mao Mao. Eight years later, I stopped buying lottery tickets. I suspect the master is having an affair with the lottery company. Therefore, believe in the laws of nature, others set unnecessary obstacles for themselves.

I know four widowed women, ranging in age from teenagers to seven or eight, who have never remarried. They were once introduced to some men with good conditions, but they raised their children carefully regardless of their dead husbands, not to mention hardships, but it was not easy.

The loyalty and quality of women are amazing!

As a person who has worked in a matchmaking agency for three months, I want to answer this question according to what I know.

Nowadays, single men and women are divided into three types: unmarried, divorced and widowed. Unmarried people are divided into two categories: school-age people and older people. We won't discuss this today.

For divorced and widowed people, the average suitor, that is, the man, is very concerned about whether he is widowed or not. They say that widowed women are stressed and unhappy, preferring to marry divorced women. Women don't seem to care much about these things. Under the same conditions, they prefer widowed men. They think this can avoid the chaotic relationship between children and ex-wives. Of course, this is only the situation in our small place, which may not be representative.

Because of the loss of a spouse, the feelings of the two people have not broken, the deceased will always live in each other's hearts, and the latecomers will have a sense of helplessness. You can never beat a dead man.