"Why does it seem like I have never lived before in my life?"

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During my low ebb and dormant period, I often rely on my own beliefs to support me and move forward, and I also think about some problems. Occasionally, I will watch some speeches, read some books, and do some things that I think are meaningful.

If I waste time one day, I will feel a little uneasy and self-blame. The reason why I have reached the present moment and entered the low ebb is because I don’t want to make myself feel regretful in this life later, so I resolutely walked out of the good times in the past.

One night when I was doing nothing, I sat in front of the computer and watched a speech. Bi Shumin's speech is like an article written by her, talking about life and regrets. What is regret?

"Regret" in the dictionary explains this: "We are deeply regretful that we could not fulfill our wishes."

Teacher Bi Shumin believes that the biggest Regret is to end one's life decisively, which is disrespectful to life. When we often think we can't stand it, it's actually not the last moment, but our mental breakdown. The most invincible thing is not what happens to us, but whether we are strong inside.

What she remembers most is a scene when she talked about how she was once in a hospice ward to visit an old man who was about to leave. The old man was over eighty years old. His children did not want to see his last moments, but she was the only one who walked in to accompany him. The room was filled with the smell of passing away.

She lay next to the old man. When she held the old man's hand, the old man said something to her in a very weak voice. He said: "I feel that in this life, why It seems like I have never lived."

The moment I heard this, I was sitting on the floor with tears flowing down unconsciously.

A person’s final words when he leaves hides so much helplessness and difficulty in telling. The last words he said were not to others, "You must live well," but to himself, "Why do I seem to have never lived in this life?"

So, what kind of person would say at the last moment of his life, "Why does it feel like I have never lived in this life?"

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When I heard that sentence and imagined that scene, many things came to my mind in an instant with wet eyes.

I thought of Whitman's poem:

I also thought of the crying wife in the movie "One to One":

NJ Reply When he got home, he found his wife crying in front of his mother's hospital bed. She said that she found that there was nothing to talk about in her life. She talked to her mother who had become a vegetative state every day, but found that she was saying the same thing every day.

What I did in the morning, what I did in the afternoon, and what I did in the evening were all told in a few minutes, but I found that there was nothing else worth talking about except these. She is very afraid of her lifestyle. She cries, she is scared, and she doesn’t know what to do. She may feel that she is not “homeless”, but she doesn’t know where to go back after get off work and cannot find her life. meaning.

She cried bitterly and said: "How can I have so little? I feel like my life has been in vain. I look like a fool every day, not knowing what I have done every day."

Such sadness comes from myself and is so profound. If it weren't for her mother accidentally becoming a vegetative state and requiring her to accompany and talk to her every day, she might not have discovered the fear in her heart.

When the grandma in "20 Again" went to take the last photo of her life, the photographer asked her to think about the time when she was most beautiful when he pressed the shutter. With tears in her eyes, she said: "I missed it when I was most beautiful."

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After listening to this speech, I will think, What kind of person is likely to feel like he has never lived when he is dying?

Are you someone who has left a lot of regrets and didn’t dare to realize them?

Or are you always living in the eyes of others and never living out yourself?

Or are you someone who lacks curiosity about life and has never loved it?

Or all of these? You are still young, but now when you think back to this half of your life, do you feel as if you have never lived?

I read a sentence that said: "Many people die when they are 25 years old and are not buried until they are 75 years old." When you saw this sentence, were you touched deep in your heart, were you shocked, were you awakened?

When I was 25 years old, life had just begun for me. My courage was sharper, life was more interesting, and my pace was firmer.

And you?

People who live in the eyes of others, people who have never lived out themselves, people who have never loved life...

Are you included here?

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There will inevitably be regrets in life, but if you can redeem this regret, and you retreated, bowed your head, and obeyed prematurely, then this regret is possible It will live in your heart for the rest of your life, and you will never let it go.

It may be the source of your pain, the silk money of the kite, and the freedom of your heart.

With too many regrets, a person’s spirit becomes tired, his enthusiasm has gradually faded, and there is endless lament and regret as he grows older.

These regrets were caused by no one else but you. Many people may say that this is caused by reality. It is reality that traps you. But in fact, you cannot fool yourself. What really traps you is yourself.

When you were young, you were full of enthusiasm and wanted to go out to work, but then you compromised and returned to your hometown; the girl you loved, because of distance, family, or some other reason, some young people at that time Small worries become the biggest reasons, and then you let go easily; the dreams you pursue eventually fall silent in the repetition day after day, and you only hear the words of broken dreams when you raise your hands and clink glasses in the crowd. sound.

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Time has left some marks on our faces, but it has also inadvertently left wrinkles in many people’s hearts. We compromise easily to reality, but later discover how precious courage is.

We all love to be lazy and always look for shortcuts in life, but we feel wronged in our hearts. We regret it even more when we take the shortcut and find what we have lost.

After walking so many roads alone, I found that I am still a diligent person. I am not looking for shortcuts, and there are no shortcuts. I walk step by step, and some of those footsteps are running towards the boundless plains. , some were deep in muddy swamps, but these all left me with many deep or shallow footprints.

So now when I make a choice, I usually let myself step back many years and stand on the other side of my life to see where I am now, an elegant old lady facing her younger self. , asked me:

"Are the choices you make now following your inner calling? If you don't do this, will it leave deep regrets? If there are regrets and regrets in the future, then You can give up on these things now and stick to the path that you think is right. ”

Many people continue to have regrets throughout their lives. Some people cannot realize a dream in their lives, but some people can realize one. Another dream, what’s the secret? Ashin, the lead singer of Mayday, said:

"**My method is very simple. On the last day of my life when I close my eyes, I feel that I will not regret it, then I will work hard and do it like this.< /p>

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This is why I love this band. No matter what age you are, you can work hard and live your life. They not only sing about their dreams and youth, they use their actions to prove that they can bravely pursue their dreams and realize them bravely, and truly do not want to leave any regrets in life.

This is why I have known their names for so many years, but one day I discovered that I have the same frequency as them, and I fell in love with them because of their attitude.

In my life, I can have failures, but I cannot allow too many regrets.

Youth is a state that has nothing to do with age.

The old lady in Zhang Jiajia's "Old Love Letter" educates a group of young people:

"If you don't run away while you are young, you will go to mountains and seas of swords and fire. If you don't join the world, you will think you are born in this world." Did you come from the Nirvana of the Living Buddha? Our mediocrity is caused by suffering, and your mediocrity is caused by laziness, fear, greed for comfort, and a country dog ??who dares not see the world!

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After reading this, do you think of those regrets that peeked out of your head late at night?

The fifty-first love letter to the imperfect world is written to "regret"!

This is an article I wrote very seriously and thought about it carefully. I will continue to comment on "regret".